Sexy Challenge - The Date Is In The Mail (Sexy Challenges Book 42)

---

You want to communicate your sexual expectations, desires and performance levels to your partner and for your partner to be on the same page. There were a few women I interviewed who were in intimate relationships with men whose libido matched theirs. They had zero interest in sex and were happy just hiking in the woods. Some women just never thought of pleasuring themselves.

They grew up feeling it was naughty and had a lot of guilt about it. For them, this is a new adventure. Vibrator sales are huge. I can tell you that a big chunk of that industry is sales to women over Outercourse is a word that I heard over and over again among people active in the sexuality-and-aging field.

One year old woman attended a Tantric sex workshop with her husband where they were exploring conscious loving, not just slam-bam sex. Everyone is so anxious in this world. One of the most profound messages in my book is to pick the right person in the first place. Prostate issues are really important. I interviewed one of the top urologists in the country, Dr. Soloway is a big proponent of active surveillance. Men get an erection from blood flow. Instead of going to a physician and getting five prescriptions, get on a treadmill buddy and stop eating the fettuccine with five-cheese sauces!

Give it a try. As I get older, I eat less and I exercise more. Find it on Amazon. Thank you so much for this very interesting article. So many people seem to think that as you get older your desire for sex and ability to perform diminishes. I was told a very long time ago by a teacher that if you look after your body that it will look after you well into old age if you are fortunate to live that long. But no less sexy or sexual. There are a lot of men over 60 looking for sex with other women because their partner has lost interest in sex or has medical issues.

There are two sides to every story and part of the issue could be some men just wanting to take care of their needs. This leads to their partner not being satisfied and not wanting sex in the future. The funny thing is others in the same age range have their best sex. This is due to more free time and more experience to name a few. Why do you think many young men want older women?

The younger men know the older women are more experienced and better lovers. Sex helps you sleep better and increases happiness. It helps you lose weight by burning calories, and sometimes quite a few. Orgasm is great, but sexual afterglow is better for the relationship long-term.

Sexy Challenge - Checking The Undercarriage (Sexy Challenges Book 25)

The holding, cuddling and kissing after sex increases romantic satisfaction. Men who are one and done especially after minutes often leave the woman unsatisfied. I would highly suggest taking care of her needs with your fingers, tongue or toy. Best to do this before you have an orgasm. She will love it. This will lead to sex more often and both of you will be happy. Fortunate to both be in excellent health and able to enjoy having sex at least 6 times a month yes every 5 days.

I am a 60yr old widow who was fortunate enough to meet a widower 5 years ago and the sex was amazing for 6 months — then he withdrew from me almost overnight. He has never really kissed me the same way again or made love to me passionately. I am heartbroken as I thought I had been given a second chance at happiness. We love each other and we live together and get on well but I am a really tactile and passionate woman and have been all my life.

I just think he has lost attraction towards me and therefore I feel unattractive — even though other men seem to like me. But I hate cheats. My body does not do these the things he wants me to do anymore. My hips start giving me so much pain, I could cry. I want to try more gentle, more foreplay type sex. I have multiple orgasms, we use olive oil or coconut oil as a lubricant. I used to love sex, but now I dread it. He gets offended that I feel that way. I am going into my 86th year and have been fortunately to have had a very constant lover my same age for over 30 years.

We are both past the point of sexual gymnastics. For several years, he has had difficulty climaxing, but I am able to help him become aroused enough so that we can have intercourse. I think he has remained a constant is that I am multi-orgasmic which gives him great pleasure. Our favorite time of day is a sunny afternoon during which the sun streams across the bed.

What I am also discovering is that we nap together, especially since he has bouts of insomnia. After reading about the problems that others have, I think we are both very fortunate. Your website recommends important ingredientsDimethicone or dimethiconol, as good sealants to keep moisture in and protect from tearing.

I have three girlfriends over 60 including myself. None are have vaginal sex anymore. Because hormones are not an option cancer in the fam. Atrophy does happen and it is not an easy pill fix. So, they certainly do other things but not that. And this whole idea that lots of women over 60 are having giddy sex is kind of silly.

People say stuff and they make up stuff in particular about sex. Wendy you speak the truth. I have ED but still have the desire. My wife has lost the desire and after her operation it was painful. She pleases me orally but it make me feel guilty. Learned what to do but it was embarrassing. None of this is her fault. I am the one with the sex problem. Money can fix my problem but the other drugs and medical procedures are very expensive.

Im 65 years old and my girlfriend is We have been using coconut oil as a lube for about 3 years now. Theres nothing better, if you get too much, you just rub it in to your skin, its edible so when shes goes down, its perfect. Of particular note is the City of Ottawa, which has been ground zero in the battle over high unfounded rates in recent years, owing to the fact that the leading voices on the issue — including Mr.

Crew and criminologist Holly Johnson — live there. In , 38 per cent of sexual assault cases in Ottawa were closed as unfounded. She says that, about four years ago, advocates in the Ottawa community brought the issue to their attention. In response, the Ottawa Police Service implemented new training around the use of the unfounded designation, along with better oversight to catch mistakes. The numbers have been dropping ever since, she says. In , a woman known only as Jane Doe won a landmark court decision against the service, more than a decade after she had been raped in the middle of the night by a serial predator.

Immediately after, Toronto city council ordered a review of how its police service handled sexual-assault cases. A follow-up report published in found that, while not all the recommendations had been implemented, meaningful progress had been made. The nearly two-decade saga made national headlines and put a spotlight on shoddy sexual-assault police policies in a way that no story had before.

But even at the peak of the scandal, outside of Toronto, it seemed to be business as usual. L is slouched over on a couch, staring sheepishly at the floor with her arms tightly crossed as the sergeant introduces himself. The support worker shrugs and tells L to say what is on her mind. L takes a breath: B was a family friend in his late 20s, she continues. When L was 13, her mother had asked B to look after L while the mother was out of town. L shifts uncomfortably in her seat. He reeked of beer, she says. He started by telling her she was sexy.

He stroked her leg, told her it would be okay, then took off her pyjama bottoms. Nine months later, L says, she gave birth to a baby. The child was put up for adoption.

The officer told her mother that it was suspicious that L had giggled during their interview, and that B, in any case, told police he was sterile. Jamie Dunlop, an Ottawa police inspector who oversees major investigations such as sex crimes and homicides, said cases are handled differently now. Was that as well known 20 years ago? The board applies the same legal test that civil proceedings do: Both B and L were interviewed by the board.

Each was encouraged to bring any documents that would support their case. Trying to prove definitively if — and why — allegations are improperly dropping out of the system is impossible. In contrast to the situation in the United States, police files in Canada are not publicly available, even under freedom-of-information laws. South of the border, unfounded statistics are available through the FBI without an access-to-information request. Last August, the U. Journalists from BuzzFeed were able to obtain individual police files connected to unfounded cases — files far more detailed than those that actual sex-assault victims in Canada have access to — to take the story beyond the numbers, and show what was going wrong on the ground.

Only complainants are able to access some documents connected to an allegation through freedom-of-information requests, with a fee; although, in the cases reviewed by The Globe, anything not directly related to the victim — such as witness statements, information provided by the suspect, and notes about investigative steps — was typically redacted.

She and the investigating officer had been the only people in the room. Sandhu is one of the 54 people from across the country whom The Globe interviewed about their experience reporting sexual violence to police. Only one of those individuals — L — was actually informed that their case had been closed as unfounded.

Others learned this after the fact, either by obtaining copies of their file or through inquiries by The Globe. Of the 54 cases, 39 were closed before making it to court. One involves a second-year Laurentian University student named Emilie, who asked to be identified only by her first name. In January, , Emilie told the Greater Sudbury Police Service that she had been raped at a campus residence on Halloween night while she was heavily intoxicated.

After a four-week investigation, the sergeant handling the case closed the file as unfounded after the two men said the sex was consensual. Emilie was not told that police had unfounded her allegation; rather, she learned it from The Globe. Parts of the responses from Waterloo, London and Windsor, Ont. Linda Light, a former senior policy analyst in B. Funded in part by the federal Department of Justice and the B. Light and Gisela Ruebsaat, a legal analyst, were tasked with investigating the phenomenon of disparate unfounded rates among police services within driving distance of one another.

Three of those were RCMP detachments — Chilliwack with an unfounded rate of 19 per cent , Langley 28 per cent , and Richmond 12 per cent ; the fourth was the Vancouver Police Department 7 per cent.

After being subjected to rigorous security checks, both researchers were given access to a total of police files from and In other words, complainants who do not conform to stereotypes about the perfect victim were winding up with cases deemed unfounded at a disproportionate rate. The researchers also noticed that the allegations that had been classified as unfounded were less likely to show evidence of a robust investigation — such as formal interviews with the victim and statements from witnesses.

The trend lines were fairly consistent across the four B. The Light and Ruebsaat study was unprecedented, and remains one of the most commonly cited Canadian reports on the quality of sex-assault investigations and unfounded cases — but it was never actually published. Light says, adding that she never learned exactly why. Toward the end of their research, Ms. Light says, she and Ms. Ruebsaat learned that unfounded stats would no longer be made public. An internal memo from the Canadian Centre for Justice Statistics, obtained by The Globe and Mail through access-to-information, shows that concerns over the accuracy of data arose after officials realized that some cases were being improperly classified as unfounded, while in other cases, police services were simply not recording unfounded cases at all.

Ruebsaat warned in their unpublished, page draft. But one of the most prominent Canadian voices on sexual assault warns that the statistics themselves need to be treated with caution. And I base that on experience dealing with women who have reported and who have been turned away. After winning her case against the Toronto police, Jane Doe continued with her activism: But after three decades on the front lines, she says, nothing has changed.

The conviction rate is 1 per cent [when you factor in how few cases are reported]. Around 10 years ago, Jane Doe says she was permitted to audit a police-training course on sexual assault. Is she too upset? Is she upset enough? Is she trying to get even with a boyfriend?

Is she looking for attention? False reports are not synonymous with the unfounded designation, although they are typically classified as unfounded. Almost every session was taught by a police officer, rather than by outside professionals with specific specialties, such as experts who study trauma, sex-assault law and victim behaviour.

Advocates and counsellors who work with survivors on a daily basis were not represented at all, she says. Be warned, clinical psychologist Lori Haskell told the room of police officers: The material is going to be dense. On this day early last October, Dr.

Sexy Challenge - Fantasy Football (Sexy Challenges Book 55) Kindle Edition

Haskell is speaking to about officers at the Toronto Police College. Over the course of the previous year, she had given the same presentation about 50 times to Crown attorneys and police services from all over the country, about double the number she gave the year before. In addition to her private practice and research, she is also a sought-after expert witness and consultant. She was hired to try to re-educate Alberta Federal Court Justice Robin Camp after he was called before a judicial-review committee for asking a year-old sexual-assault complainant: It takes the gut-instinct subjectivity of an officer out of the equation, and instead roots an investigation in non-negotiable science.

Officers have traditionally been taught to establish credibility by getting as much detail as possible, as soon as possible, and then checking back with anyone interviewed to see if those details change in subsequent interviews. Standard technique has also been to go through the story chronologically. Sometimes complainants would even be asked to tell the story backward. This way, the old way, the way that most officers continue to investigate sexual assault, is actually the exact opposite of what should happen, Dr. Blood and oxygen divert to the muscles, and non-essential systems take a back seat.

The hippocampus is responsible for filing long-term memories, but in times of intense fear, when the brain is flooded with stress hormones, its functioning is altered. Certain parts of the experience can be totally burned into memory while others are stored poorly or not at all. What this means for a sexual-assault victim is that their ability to retain memories, especially certain kinds of memories, is impaired.

And this is even without the complicating effects of alcohol or drugs. Can you describe the colour of the tie of the guy next to you? You are not encoding the clothing. These are called sensory fragments, and the best way for an officer to gather information is to find these pieces, then work forward and backward from them, without getting caught up in whether a victim can remember peripheral details.

Haskell told The Globe. David Lisak, a psychologist who runs the same type of trauma training sessions with police services and military personnel in the United States, says the demand for those courses took off five or six years ago. Lisak says that the other big change involves a rethinking of the best time to interview victims. It's all a lot of fun and I'm up for anything that helps me connect with readers, but I'm also very confused. What's the difference between these various formats? Is one better than another?

What a great day yesterday! A mystery readers loop I belong to has been discussing the question, "Has a library changed your life? And at that moment it was in Okay, life, even the writing life, isn't a popularity contest, but I'll admit to scanning TOP TEN lists just on the chance I might find one of my books there. Welcome, Chris, Best of luck with your new release and thank you for your timely holiday thoughts on family relationships. I am writing this blog on Thanksgiving weekend. Why is this significant? Because my sister and her husband left a little over 24 hours ago, to drive back to North Carolina.

Up until a year and a half ago, they lived about 3 miles from my house. Work took them further away. I've adapted, as I always do, to the change. Except for brief times when It was great at Rediscovered Books last night. Having our Russian grandson with us for Thanksgiving has led me to muse on how fortunate we are to live in a country that sets aside a special day to give thanks to God. You can read my account of that here: My guest today is one of my favorite authors, Sally Wright, creator of the exquisitely written Ben Reese Mysteries. Sally, tell us about Ben— the man in the books, the real-life man and the man who lives in your head.

It's funny how writing a series of books about an ongoing character ends up making you feel as though you're talking about yourself. I've been writing novels about Ben We all love to talk to readers and writers, to share our books and show our book videos— and we especially love autographing books! We have Mystery, history, romance, action, adventure, science fiction and thriller to offer. That's a lot in just three books! One of the best meetings this year of our Devon Writers Group was an inside view of a murder enquiry.

Detective Superintendent Nigel Boulton talked us through 13 years of leading such investigations. Did you know, for instance, that bodies, or, more usually, bits of bodies are routinely picked up by fishermen in their nets? That has something to do with our living at the westerly end Meeting readers, connecting with writers, teaching classes on publishing, selling books. The First-ever Idaho Book Extrvaganza was an impressive success for all who participated.

The mayor of Meridian's opening speech set the theme for the weekend as she expressed her amazement that the Boise Valley was full of so much talent. One of the great pleasures of a visit to Canada is how Canadian culture is such a skillful blend of American and English heritage and yet so distinctly Canadian.

Mystery writers, old friends and parishioners turned Today I noted a strip of frost on the garage roof.

Yesterday, though, we had a lovely outing to a near by historical site: The Reader Rock Garden. There had been 2 previous superintendents, neither of whom had done much or stayed long in this rather arid frontier outpost. One of my favorite stories is of taking a chauffered punt ride Cambmridge with my teenage sons. Afterwards my sons came up on each side of me and put their arms around me: A perfect autumn day in Calgary, sunny, golden and crisp.

We took a long walk along the River Bow, complete with attempts at rock-skipping and two deer who observed us as intently as we observed them. Curves in the river path offered stunning view of the Calgary skyline, including the many cranes engaged in major construction projects in the city.

My son-in-law guide informed me that the only city in the world with more cranes engaged in building is Dubai. Calgary now has skyscrapers with 41 more under construction. An additional 13 have been approved for building and 63 await approval. A month in Calgary for a grandchild fix, a chance to do a bit of book promo and enjoy some lovely autumn color long before it comes to our trees south of the border, although I've learned that the iconic red maple leaf doesn't appear in the Alberta praries. One of the highlights of our day yesterday was exploring the excellent military museums with displays that put the viewer in scenes typical of those encountered by soldiers in both World War I and II.

The tables are turned when We have had a string of delightful guests recently on Deeds of Darkness; Deeds of Light, and today I bring you another one. Marian Allen and I have become friends through the wonders of virtual communication. I especially admire her Flash Fiction— telling a short story in two or three sentences— because I am incredibly long-winded. If you ash Marian about it below, I'm sure she will tell you how to get it on your Ereader for free. I have also come to admire Marian as one of the most technologically savvy people I know, so today I've asked her to tell us what she learned in a course she took this summer about blogging Her books which fulfill her motto "Step Into Time" has won her thousands of devoted readers who are sure to be thrilled with her new historical mystery series set in the 's.

The book covers are mock-ups, but I think you'll agree with me that the final ones can't possibly be more stunning.

Will they believe you?

Over to you, DeAnna. I am so delighted that today our guest is Veronica Heley, an author much read and loved on both sides of the Atlantic. Veronica has three mystery series which she will tell us all about. Do leave her a comment or ask a question and be on the look-out for her books. I was completely chuffed to have 43 responses. But never mind, your responses were quality! I especially appreciate your taking time to give such thoughtful replies to my question, "Which endorsement did you like best and why?

Can you believe this summer has gone so fast and this is the last post in our summer beach reads tour for edgy fiction? Wait a minute— what am i saying? So first, what is Edgy Christian fiction? My mother, a very wise woman, always said one should never pray for patience because the Bible says, "Tribulation worketh patience. And it has taught me that one of the virtues of patience is that when the time finally arrives— and it always does— the I fell in love with After more than 20 years as a professional writer and more than 30 books published, I spent 10 years in the wilderness of the unpublished.

Coming back has been like starting a whole new career— at a time when most of my friends are retiring. Ten years ago there was no Facebook, no Twitter, there were no Ebooks and no blogs. Facebook I came to easily since my daughter set up my account for me so she could more easily share pictures of my grandchildren.

I, much later, set up my Author page with considerable trepidation.

‘A COMPLETE LOTTERY’

Why would anyone join? And now here we are, both writing mysteries. The genealogical research background was so well developed— and What is Edgy Christian fiction, and why does it make for the very best in summer reading? A group of exciting and excited-about-our-topic authors will be exploring that subject this month in a first-of-its-kind blog tour which we invite our readers to follow with as much anticipation as we feel. The schedule of fascinating topics and the blogs on which they will be appearing on successive dates are A few days later he told me how to create an event on my Facebook page.

Besides, I can push buttons when people tell me which ones to push. My children raised me right. Our sons grew up playing Dungeons and Dragons with their friends in our basement and our second son and his wife are enthusiastic members of The Society for Creative Anachronism SCA so I get it about roleplaying. But I really had no idea what I was getting into when I responded to a note on one of my mystery-reading loops offering author interviews on Second Life. I had read about the latest virtual phenomenon in The Wall Street Journal, about how companies like IBM and Sony are establishing spaces on Second Life for business meetings, and universities have created classrooms where they hold actual classes teaching their students who show up in the persona of their avatars.

And, yes, I saw the movie, so I knew what an Avatar was. But I really had no idea what a fun experience it can be to enter Second Life. Stories can ambush you from unexpected directions. I found myself amassing a load of colourful stories from the past, and having colourful experiences of my own while I investigated them. Something Different for Your Book Club: Here are some questions to get the conversation going: Tell us about writing What We Found.

Mystery Exchange with P. The truth is, I didn't set out to write a cozy mystery series. This book was supposed to Well, it happened this year—I managed to be in England On my side, I feel a real debt of gratitude to those who publish me. It is a considerable act of faith to invest money in the work of an author in these often difficult times. I am particularly happy with and for my new publisher Darton, Longman and Todd. I departed from a long run of crime novels to write a book of information, advice and prayer about Dementia.

I sent Prayers for Kanasawa, on the west coast, is a town little disturbed by earthquakes or war, so much of their medieval past is preserved, including the Castle from the 16th century with its distinctive watchtower. The architecture was much like the Imperial Palace, which is from the same period, and likewise surrounded by green. Kit is truly a Ranaissance woman. She is an editor, a columnist for the Japan Times, a photo-journalist, and a delightful person. She tailored our backstreets tour to our special interests, history and gardens.

We began at the Kiiyosumia Garden of Exquisite Stones. Kit, who the day before had taught haiku to a group of school children, posed by the Basho rock, inscribed with "The sound of a frog, jumping into an old pond". The area is surrounded by a massive stone wall erected of huge stones that made one think of the pyramids. The wall, in turn, is surrounded by a moat, as it has been since feudal times. I am coming to realize that Japanese gardens are all about serenity, greenness and water.

Roses featured in the Imperial Palace Rose Garden were all antique varieties. This was the only place I saw roses in Japan. I never saw an English tea rose, although their climate should be perfect for them. I was delighted to see an Old China I am continually delighted to see people on the street in traditional dress. Especially the women in their kimonos.

• If You Leave (The Beautifully Broken Book 2)
• The System: The Proven 3-Step Formula Anyone Can Learn to Get More Leads, Book More Appointments, and Make More Sales
• Materiality and Space: Organizations, Artefacts and Practices (Technology, Work and Globalization)
• Bindungsangst beim Partner? – Beziehungsängste verstehen und gemeinsam überwinden (German Edition)
• Die Hüter der Unterwelt - Die Seele der Schlange (German Edition)