Enlightenment Through Motherhood: Spirituality and motherhood arent as different as you think

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Jesus was not a parent, and he instructed his disciples to leave their families to follow him. Peter, Paul, and Augustine—all not parents. Abraham was not a father when God first appeared to him. The one possible exception is Muhammad who did have children when he received his visions. But here is the catch: He received his visions during the weeks he spent alone in a cave every year meditating. The truth is that our examples of enlightenment and the men who founded all of our major religions were not people who were actively involved in parenting. There are a couple of ways we can look at this.

You could look at this and say that no one has ever found enlightenment over a diaper pail. The problem with this is that it reinforces what our religions have taught us, that men have some special access to the Divine. What seems far more likely is that men were often freed from the responsibilities of family so that they could seek specific kinds of spiritual awakenings and record them for posterity.

Another way of viewing this is that it makes a statement about how profoundly difficult parenting is. It is so difficult that even the most enlightened and spiritual human beings in the history of humanity could not parent and receive enlightenment at the same time. In this view any old person can attain enlightenment, but being a good parent, that takes spiritual chops. Or we can think of it this way: Almost everything that we know about the divine, about what it means to be spiritual, has been delivered to us through the voices of people who were either not parents or who were not actively involved in parenting.

So is it possible that many parents do experience enlightenment over the diaper pail, the only difference is, they have not had the time to write it all down and form a religion? They are too busy living out their enlightenment. But however we interpret the disconnect between our religions and parenting, I think it is important to remember that our religions do not give us parenting role models. Of course we can say that Christianity offers us God the Father. But God the Father never calmed a colicky baby, and his one human incarnation, Jesus, never parented.

This is hard though, because he no doubt loves you and wants to help you. In a way, this is the challenge of every relationship with people we love, and it is a lifelong process. However, it is mostly about intention, and one visualization that you can use to help affirm your intent is this: Then imagine a door on each end — one near him and one hear you — and imagine shutting those doors.

Then imagine light from both of your hearts emanating towards each other — not as a line, just as a glow of light. This visual is a way of representing the shift I am talking about, one where you send love and support to each other, but do not share your emotions energetically. As for the other example you gave, of receiving a picture from him right as you were thinking of that — that is an intuitive link, and is normal between intuitive people that are deeply connected.

It is not a problem unless it is bothering you. It is not the same as the anxiety being shared on the emotional line. Hope this helps, and I encourage you to explore meditation, counseling, or any other method you can to help you deal with your own anxiety too. Thank you so much for your insight- I found it enlighting and calming. I believe myself to be tuned in and aware of energetic connections and acknowledged the shifts and evolution of my son and I relationship. The past 2 yrs have been bit of struggle as he seemed out his independence in negitive ways and I had to learn to give him his time and space and I found a lot of resistance and inner turmoil watching him struggle.

I personally feel like now this is almost as scary if not more when I gave birth to a 2 Ib infant without any plans or intentions. I know this all part of my indidividual path and I have done all I can to guide my son into his very own path. This is also all occurring on the start of summer solstice. I am a huge processor and am being gentle with myself thru this. Would sincerely appreciate any advice or insight that would help us ease into the transition.

I am wondering what happens to this energy connection when one person dies Is the connection broken? Hi 1inblog, The specific energy connection I am talking about in this post does end yes, because it is a line in the subtle body connected to the physical body for developmental purposes. This particular energy line is formed in utero, mirrors the umbilical cord, and is located on the part of the subtle body connected to the physical body, so it ends when one or the other physical bodies end. I hope that is helpful information for you.

Hi Danie, thanks for sharing your motherhood story, and it sounds to me like you are navigating this shift well on your own. And you seem to also understand that now is a time to turn back into yourself and see what your next phase of life has to offer. These are the most important things. You can also imagine sending light to your son from your heart, wishing him well on his life journey. You can feel into where in your body you specifically feel anxiety about him as well, and bring light to it for release.

These are all the kinds of things I do with parents working on letting go, and that I use myself. Wishing you and your son much joy on your next phase- Lisa. Do you offer phone consults? Or do you offer energy treatments or intuitive sessions for baby and mother? Thanks so much in advance. Although there is an energy line between mothers and children, you can take control of your reaction to her words anyway.

Seek your own power and inner resources, know who you are, and claim your life. Depending on the situation maybe at some point you and your mother will be able to discuss this pattern and you both can come to understand why she feels the need to act in this way. Wishing you luck — Lisa. Hi thank you for the enlightening post. My son 22 month old son and I have run into some challenges the past 6 months. I somehow know it is energy related to me. It seems like anything to cause pain or defy me specifically is his goal. When I come home from work he cries and bangs his head on the ground but I know he just wants a hug and to nurse.

I have been working on my own spiritual connection and trying to get him involved. I bring him to kirtan,chant in the car with him, yoga, and try my own energy work on him. It makes me so sad. Any encouraging words would be appreciated. Thank you for your time and dedication to intuitive gift. Of course at 22 months there are many changes developmentally as your son discovers and exercises his autonomy, and many of the behaviors you have described are not all that unusual in this phase. But I trust your instinct as a mother that something else is going on, and encourage you to seek parenting resources.

Our children go through so many different phases as they grow, and as they leave babyhood more and more of what they experience apart from us is not in our control, although they will often take it out on us if they are having trouble processing it. So perhaps it is not personal to you, but rather a sign he is processing other changes or events in his environment. In these cases, if we can offer an unconditional loving energy as they process what it means to be a part of this world, that counts for a lot in terms of getting them through it.

Good luck — Lisa. I appreciate your loving response it is always great to be reminded that you are not a bad mother. Peace and Love, -Taylor. I loved reading your article, made so much sense to me as I am struggling with my son who is 2 years and 9 months.

He is a very sociable boy and loves being around people but is very close to me. He often comes to kiss and cuddle me whilst he plays on his own at home or when we are on play dates. When he was 2. He would also run back into the house in the morning. After 2 weeks the manager told me he was not ready emotionally.

I am now settling him into a second nursery, this time I stay with him for the session to get him used to the staff and will then slowly disappear for 15 mins or so daily. I have done this times and he really cries. He is deeply sensitive, loving child and the last thing I want to do is break him. I also do not want to hinder his growing independence. On another note he now also cries for a while when I leave him with his dad for a few hours. I would love your advice from a spiritual perspective whether I let him cry at nursery or wait until he is 3 I will be working in the nursery when he turns 3 so he will always have me around.

Thus far I have always listened to my intuition with him and not listening to others who tell me kids have to learn.

My mindset for raising my son is gentle and loving with explanations of why we do things, I never raise my voice or shout at him. Hi Rae, this is so difficult to judge from the outside! It sounds like you know all the research and general advice — it all asserts that children around his age will adjust as long as you are consistent with your absences so he can grasp the routine and has a sense of knowing exactly when you will be gone and when you will be back. And that then once this adjustment is made, they will enjoy their social time with peers and other adults.

However…not every kid is the same. And I would never ask a mother to override her own intuition. I also think other adults who are trained in child development and able to get to know him firsthand as hopefully his preschool teachers are are better suited to talk this through with you. In general I will say that crying is the way a child at this age expresses his emotions, and of course sadness or frustration at a loss of control are normal human emotions. So crying in and of itself will not break a child.

If you view it as simply an expression of a normal human emotion, it may become easier for you to handle.

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If he is especially energetically sensitive this may really help. Good luck — it is a tough stage. I had two of my kids who went into preschool very easily, and one who did not. She cried every day for the first month, and it broke my heart. I am happy to report that in her case after that first month she grew to love her preschool, and she is now a very social and independent 11 year old. But at the time, I was torn every day. My 28 year old son contracted a flesh eating bacteria, went into a coma for 28 days and almost died.

I felt a need to wash my energy over him and link us together. I am trying to understand how I did this. How do I learn about this. The doctors told me every day he was not going to live and that I should let go. I feel I literally linked him to me and boosted his own energy. It is an affirmation of the spiritual and healing powers we are all connected to, and also to the power of love. I think the most valuable thing that can come out of it is a deeper relationship with spirit for both of you, and an opening to seeking that will continue for both your lifetimes.

Thanks for sharing — Lisa.

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Thank you for this. Hi Kate, I feel this is more about your feelings related to this, birth cords would not normally be linked in the heart or throat. And as an adult, those cords would be pretty weak at this point anyway. So there are many ways to work with this pain.

Of course counseling of some type may be in order, or energetically you can work with a modality that will allow you to express how you are feeling in other ways besides talking art, bodywork etc. For now even just bringing healing light to both areas with self-compassion will help. I guess the big question for you is whether this was a release that needed to happen and now that it has you feel some sense of resolution, or whether this has opened wounds that had been repressed that now need to be processed and healed through a longer term approach.

This gave me a perspective ive been trying to grasp for so long with my relationship with my son whose 17 months. The first year has been life changing..

Sometimes hard to put into words. Your article made so much sense to me Thanks again. Wishing you much joy and balance on your continued motherhood journey. My daughter is extremely emotionally upset. She is crying and went to the hospital for a suspected heart attack. She says her chakras have gotten in the wrong place. Her heart one is transposed with her stomach one. Not in those words because I can barely get her to speak. My infant was taken into foster care at six weeks of age and returned to my care at 10 months due to the actions of my vindictive narcissist ex husband.

For much of the time, I was given only six hours a week of visitation. Chakras cannot move in to the wrong place, so I am not sure what you daughter was referring to. Hopefully she has gotten the medical attention that she needed. Of course energy work can sometimes also be useful, but in cases such as this good medical and mental health care are essential, and chakra work may be helpful as complementary care.

Blessings to you and your family. Hi Joan, just loving her will do it. Focus on your time together now. The line is not damaged by absence, and you were always in her life. The best thing you can do now is move forward with love. My youngest 7yrs seems to have some connection with me. I wonder if you can clear these up. So to clarify, my grandma taught me and I teach my 9yr old how I was taught to pray. I would really appreciate some understanding on this, if you can help me understand more fully. Thinking on it some more, I realise that my youngest gets overloaded in crowds and needs breaks from playing in large groups.

Life for him is all about emotionally led life. I know wonder if he is more spiritual than I gave him credit for. I have such wonderful boys but they are soo different. So there is this base energetic line, and then beyond that other energetic, emotional, and karmic connections that may be in play differently with each of our children.

Then on top of that, our children each have different personalities, different natures, and we may resonate with each differently. In the case of your two boys, they both sound quite sensitive energetically, quite empathic, but it reflects differently in each of them.

The younger one may need guidance on how to not take on the energy of others around him, so that he can feel his own energy field. Good luck, parenthood is such a fascinating and soulful journey. Gosh I just passed a maternity hospital in my city. I saw a brand new mother. She was leaving with baba and hubbie but had met a chat. I felt like wrapping her up as she was so new the mom that I could practically see the magic of what had just happened falling away from her.

She was in such a sacred state.. I have a five and seven year old daughter. Thank you for replying. Just zone out when I want to. Of course my youngest is empathic, why did I not see it! The lady is right he is a sponge that just needs to learn to switch off and understand boundaries.

Thank you so much. One of the reasons I came across this blog was researching the ways to unplug a cord from the mother-child line. I have a toxic relationship with my mother and after years of healing work from psychotherapy to energy to everything in the middle, I know after meeting a seasoned practitioner I need to have her help me unplug this cord. So, one line is toxic and the other is the life line you received at birth and carries positive memories and good things you received.

The garbage, toxic junk, her mental illness, her anxiety, her constant beratement of me, etc. I can do without that. I want to clear it so my 9 month old daughter and 3 year old son are also freed for generations to come. Then there are energy cords that can form in addition to that based on the relationship between a mother and child — codependencies. Then there are energy cords that may have formed related to codependencies or other unhealthy emotional patterns between the two of you, and there may be work still to be done there. Part of it is really about consciously thinking about what you want the foundations of your psyche to be, what energies you want to be grounded in, and imagining your root chakra connected to those energies, as opposed to the energies you picked up by default from your mother.

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You probably have done quite a bit of this already through psychotherapy, without it being labelled energy work. Hope that helps a bit-. In these cultures, the childs life is externally observeds and instead of giving it its needed nutrition to grow and develop, it is placed through this external viewing, to benefit others, from its needed origins needed actions and functions.

Body work heals ones own matters, yet when a matter is deeperly connected to another persons, can such matter be healed, in between mother and daughter, if is mother holding the leash with meanings of non healing for self and for childs? Hi Terhi, you are an autonomous being, and yes you can close down the cords and lines that are holding you back. You also need to look into ways you may be still waiting for approval or something else from your mother, rather than owning yourself as a whole being.

Often on some level we are waiting for our mother to change, to finally give us what we think we need from her, rather than letting go of that and finding what we need within. For the dysfunctional aspects of the mother-child cord to be closed, you will need to work on this aspect of it.

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I hope that helps and good luck with your healing. The point of this article is more to help mothers understand the energetic connection they have to their children, but our children are still autonomous beings, physically and energetically, so we are not responsible for everything that happens to them. I love your post and reading the comments. I recently started to get back into yoga and meditation,after having not done it for years but needed a break from pilates.

While i was meditating at the end of the last session,i had an amazing experience. My mother passed away in march,so i am still processing thoughts and emotions surrounding that. But while we were focusing on our Manipura and inviting joy and love something hit me ,physically in my third chakra. If i was not lying down it would have knocked me over it was so powerful. I knew straight away it was my mother. I was so shocked i started to cry.

Although i felt her for a couple of seconds,that was it. I am trying to understand exactly what it was. Was it my mother trying to connect to me? Have you ever heard of this happening or could you shed some light on what i should be researching in order to find out.

HI Lala Aloha, thank you for sharing. I think the most relevant thing is what you felt. In that sense, did it feel like you were releasing grief in order to let this in? Did you feel as if you completed another phase of your mourning and letting go? So my own advice would be to approach it this way — give it some time, and looking back on it later you may see the shift that occurred and understand it more clearly.

Thank you so much! Motherhood is truly new experience for me. The thing is, when my lil boys got ill it makes me ill too.

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I want to protect my children spiritual way. Is there any chance I can heal them with my energy? Hi Oyu, congratulations on your twin boys. Yes dealing with illness is very difficult with babies. Certainly our own energy, and this line I am talking about in this article, is part of how we can help to boost their immune system on the energetic level.

However, the challenge for new mothers is that you are likely already maxed out yourself, so your own energy may be fatigued, making it difficult for you to really extend energy to them. And this is ok, it will get better with time, and their immune systems will build up. So for now, I urge you to really focus on your own self-care to the extent you are able to receive help from others in your life to do so.

Keep yourself as rested as is realistic, and eat good foods etc. If you are able to do this, you have a better chance of using your own energy to help protect them and bolster their energy. Then a visual I like to use to help to generate healing energy from mother to child is this: Visualize a warm golden light in your womb. Spend some time several breaths at least, and a few minutes is even better to feel as if this light is building up from an infinite source within the center of your womb.

Feel as if the more you relax, the more this light comes through. Then begin to imagine this beautiful golden light is emanating from your pelvis to your baby boys, and surrounding them with a protective light. You can sit with this visual for as long as you like. You can of course also imagine you are channeling this light directly into different parts of their bodies that may need it. Of course as you mentioned, this is not replacement for medical care, just a gentle way of using the energetic connection you already have to help bolster their own sense of protection.

But as I mentioned, take care of yourself first! My 28 year old daughter died suddenly on May 27th. I feel highly sensitive to energy. I hope you are receiving all the support you need as you mourn.

But I will say that our sacral chakra is linked to our emotional body, and with the many strong emotions you have no doubt been feeling it would make sense that you would perhaps feel less boundaried, and be feeling more energetically sensitive. I know it can be hard to affirm this boundary when others feel this is the appropriate way to comfort you, but if it does not feel comforting to you, you have the right to maintain physical space. I often work with sexual trauma survivors on how to assert this, as often physical contact does not have the comforting feeling that others might expect it too.

So honor yourself, and allow yourself time. It was a wonderful read. Is there any significance with what you wrote and sharing a birthday with your mother? Hi Leah, not really in terms of the chakras, but if you consult astrology, there is. But interesting to look into for sure. Thanks so much for your article! It found me at the right time. I do believe that in the end we will both be better off. It is definitely time. I hope I can find a way to make it easier on her though. Would you have any advice on that? Blessings to you xx.

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