Judo Verbal (French Edition)

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Oct 12, Miroku Nemeth rated it really liked it. Another recommendation from a fellow scholar of violence and, more importantly, avoiding violence. I'm currently working temporarily as a Military Policeman for the Marine Corps, and this thing called "verbal judo" is frequently mentioned, so I thought I would check out this book. Personally I have a bachelor's degree in criminal justice, a few classes in psychology, and I've read books about communication So did it offer anything insightful or unique?

Well, the first warning sign was the whole "g I'm currently working temporarily as a Military Policeman for the Marine Corps, and this thing called "verbal judo" is frequently mentioned, so I thought I would check out this book. Well, the first warning sign was the whole "guru" nature of the presentation, which I'm always leery about. I cringe when I see books that say things like "with my extensive training, you can trust that my advice will work for you.

The actual first strike was this collection of sentences: If I get cut off in traffic, my first impulse is revenge. It makes me chuckle to realize how quickly I can shake a fist or a digit at another driver while on my way to the airport to fly somewhere and teach my course on proper responses to negative situations. D is supposed to make me bow before his authority on the subject of interpersonal communication? The second strike was when he explained the difference between "Nice People, Difficult People, and Wimps.

Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion

Alright, hold up - nothing in life is that simple. He explains about wimps: I say, 'Excuse me, what was that you said? Now he can either make a legitimate point, ask a question, or shut up. And if he shuts up he has lost credibility with his peers. If nothing else, that eliminates the sniping.

Ignored or resisted, they grow stronger. The basic principle here is to confront them honestly. I get it - you don't like people talking behind your back, publicly weakening your position. As soon as you call them out, they get embarrassed, and they know they aren't going to win that fight.

It's like when a drill instructor says something along the lines of "do any of you recruits have a problem with [X]? If you do, raise your hand. Nobody is raising their hands, so nobody must have a problem with it. Sometimes it's beneficial to be nice, difficult, or even a so-called "wimp. Sorry, let's move on I get it, but The final strike was simply chapter after chapter of acronyms and guru rules gurules? He even says, "you'll find I'm big on acronyms.

I hate acronyms because they're counter-productive. They are meant to help you remember, but when everything is an acronym, you no longer can tell what the acronym is supposed to stand for.

Here's an example, from the Navy: Anyway, who ever legitimately enjoys when some guru gives you a new acronym or rule to memorize? Here are some of Mr. Thompson's rules and acronyms: All of this is made even worse by the unnecessarily verbose writing. That short bullet-point list I made up there would probably have been more useful than the actual book. The actual substance is minimal, filled with boasts, explanations and stories.

This book desperately needs an editor with a copy of "Strunk and White: Elements of Style" right next to the keyboard. Basically, "verbal judo" boils down to good use of interpersonal communication, things like empathy and paraphrasing so both parties understand each other. I think the popularity of this book boils down to this: Feb 01, Richard Haley rated it liked it. Aug 09, Brandon Barnes rated it liked it Shelves: Well, this was an experience. I grabbed this book off the Audible sale a few days ago. Right off the bat, I want to say that there were some excellent suggestions and tips.

I'm glad I read this book. This dude is basically an 80s movie cop that frequently quotes the Samurai 'masters' while being an expert in communications in the fields of law enforcement, teaching, parenting, sales, and a host of other things.

Also, he saved several people life with his words. You can look it Well, this was an experience. You can look it up Wait, don't do that! Like I said, some good stuff, but there is a lot of BS and repetition and redundancy and saying the same thing. Since the author is drawing from his work experience in the police force, the emphasis is on defusing a situation. This may not apply to most people in their daily interactions with people. There are some good suggestions on statements not to say you wouldn't understand, because those are the rules, it's none of your business, what do you want me to do about it, calm down, I'm not going to say this again, I'm doing this for your own good, and why don't you be reasonable.

These statements put the listener off and never make the situation better. The author gives alternatives to all these statements let me try to explain this, the reason for this decision is Essentially, regardless of how the other person is behaving, treat the person with dignity and respect. The goal is to move the conversation in a positive direction, not escalate it to anger and violence.

It's more important to be effective than to be right in a conversation. Nov 08, Veselin Nikolov rated it it was amazing. No matter how many books I read on the subject they never cease to amaze me. People are complicated, you and I are complicated too. Our instincts are primitive and we should not resort to them when crafting our responses.

The book is short but dense. Took me awhile, I had to take breaks after each chapter. Jun 15, Pam rated it it was amazing. I loved this book. There is nothing new; it is full of common sense, but it is written in a way that made me continuously reflect on my common responses as a middle school teacher, a family member, a human. It helped me make new goals, gave me concrete skills to implement, and will definitely be reread enough times that responses become natural, professional, and empathetic. Apr 14, Jeshua Newman rated it it was amazing.

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This is a quick read - relatively easy to grasp, uses a lot of acronyms, details concrete concepts, and overall communicates the message with anecdotes instead of complicated data. These are all very practical concepts you can start applying right now! I recommend this book to anyone who works with people, especially to people who carry a gun to work. Jun 16, Michelle Polk rated it really liked it. Excellent book on thinking before you speak! Feb 21, Virgilio Machado rated it it was amazing.

Difficult to put into practice without some persistence and re-reading. A few good quotes. Thompson and Jerry B. Jenkins is an outstanding little book that everyone should read. Why do I say everyone? Because everyone communicates with others, and this book will help you become a more effective communicator.

It really is that good. The advice is simple, but profound and will enable the person who puts it to practice to listen better and be heard, learn what not to say, engage people through empathy, stop verbal attacks in their tracks, and much more. In fact, there is more practical advice in this one book than in some of my communication classes in college that I paid much more for. The book is pages long, and is divided into 27 short chapters.

Its size is due to the fact that Thompson does not spend any time theorizing or describing complicated communication models, but rather provides simple direct methods for communicating with people, with concrete examples that can be adapted and used by anyone. The lessons in this book have been honed on the streets by police officers, which Thompson is one, as they deal with some of the most unruly public. Thompson believes if the officers involved with the Rodney King incident had taken his course before that unfortunate event, things would have gone much differently.

In a nutshell, Thompson teaches you to treat people with dignity and respect. He teaches how to develop and maintain relationships rather than break them down and destroy them. The book shows you how to communicate with other effectively. This not only helps reduce conflict, but allows you to be influential with others, gain more from people, have better relationships, and generally be happier with all of your interactions with others. I read this book a long time ago, and just recently read it again for a refresher.

I do, however, try to use these techniques and strategies in my dealings with people, and this book has influenced my mediation style as well as the teaching and training I do on mediation and effective communication. This book will help you, regardless your occupation, sex, age, or whatever. If you communicate with others, read this book to do it better. Oct 01, Nathaniel rated it liked it Shelves: This book was an interesting blend of self-help and informal research. George Thompson is an interesting guy.

He was a high school English teacher, than a college professor, and then a beat cop. Obviously, going from English professor to cop is not your typical career move, and the entire book has that kind of unexpected juxtaposition of for example jumping back and forth between Greek philosophy and responding to domestic abuse calls. The main idea of the book was empathy: There were other interesting ideas, too, like "tactical civility", which basically means using civility as a means to accomplish what you need without letting your ego get in the way.

Putting your own ego in check was another big theme of the book. React to what they mean. If you begin to grasp this point, you can become a more effective communicator. I'm not sure how much help this book is really going to be to me because I already think that empathy is hugely important in communicating, but I definitely appreciated the attempt to pull together common themes from different realms--like dealing with crack addicts on the street to dealing with stubborn teenage children in your home maybe not so different after all?

Thompson writes his book for simple minded me audiences. Great quick read that provides a few unique methods when dealing with different personality types. I would call this book much more practical than many in the same field. He focuses on actual techniques and provides useful examples to bring home the point.

Currently reading Instant Rapport by Michael Brooks, which provides a more scientific and psychological approach to gaining rapport. Jun 15, Elizabeth rated it really liked it. I enjoyed Verbal Judo. Although, I think many people want it to be a guide to the most effective communication I see it as an emergency checklist. It gives excellent ways to recover a situation that is moving in the direction of, or has already gone, bad.

It provides tools to help when the moment is already there and you may not have had time to think.

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The wrong words are highlighted. Although we have closed our connections with those once certified to lawfully teach in Spain and France we hope to reopen those markets at some point in the future. On a personal note, Dr. He is also survived by two grown children, a daughter Kelly, and a son, Taylor. Doc, a survivor of throat cancer, returned to active teaching for many years after a series of very serious throat surgeries to save his voice.

In addition to the several books on Verbal Judo available there are also video and audio programs.

All are a tribute to his thoughts and vision. After George and I were married, we had our later-in-life son Tommy.

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