Captivating Revised and Updated: Unveiling the Mystery of a Womans Soul

Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul

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Look what John wrote in "Wild at Heart! Apparently the only thing girls want to do is put on skirts and twirl in front of Daddy and grow up to be a princess. When I was a kid, I wanted to be a janitor or a farrier, and I was inexplicably uncomfortable with my dad until I was 12 seriously, no abuse or anything. Our relationship is healthy and normal now.

This quote drove me insane: Nature is primarily beautiful. Have the authors ever considered how vultures pee on their feet? Is that beautiful first or functional? Do they know WHY sunsets are so many colors? Nature's beauty is within functionality, and we see beauty in nature because we recognize God's glory in it. It is a call to worship and heralds the glory of its Creator. The most grievous fault of thIs book, and John's book "Wild at Heart" come to think of it, why did Stasi need his help but he didn't need hers?

It pigeonholes women into one box and men into another. The people who don't fit in either box? The God I know is just not that bland. The authors claim that there is no blueprint for a woman right before they outline one. I cannot recommend this book to anyone and I wish I could give negative stars. View all 4 comments. Jun 23, Natalie Vellacott rated it did not like it Shelves: This is just as bad as the male version Wild at Heart.

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This quote from the summary says it all really: I don't agree with any of it and this is definitely n This is just as bad as the male version Wild at Heart. I don't agree with any of it and this is definitely not what the Bible teaches! I'm no woman, and so I have to take all of the "you" statements in the book as "women" statements.

But still, I think this book is insightful, and it helps to provide some biblical justification for many of the misunderstood characteristics, needs, and longings of many women. If you're a man, read it only if you have a woman you can talk to about it. Tell her what confuses you. Tell her what makes sense. She'll enjoy it, especially if she's your "special lady.

They are made to be beautiful, and in our fallen world, this gets perverted and abused. As a result, women's souls are damaged and their validity is challenged. Women are also created with certain aspects of God's personality written on their hearts - relationship, love, beauty, and passion. Do you know why? This book came highly recommended by a few friends and a myriad of strangers who had rated the book online. I did my best to give it a chance and to read it with an open mind.

Although I made it all the way through, I gritted my teeth almost the entire time. John This book came highly recommended by a few friends and a myriad of strangers who had rated the book online. John and Stasi Eldredge obviously share poor opinions of women's abilities to take care of themselves, viewing them as fundamentally broken and incapable of having stable emotions.

Oh, and we're so pathetic as women that we need not even have ambitions, we just need to let things happen to us. You only need to respond" Kindle location I felt the whole time that the Eldredges were hoping I would stumble upon some dark, long-buried, awful memory of how my parents abused me or didn't love me enough which is not the childhood I experienced, by the way. I imagine this book is beyond helpful for women who did suffer from abusive experiences they did not deserve as young girls or teenagers, but this book assumes more women had bad childhoods than not. And if that wasn't enough, the conceited, holier-than-thou tone of the book made me feel as if I am guilty for NOT having had a horrible childhood or having had something awful happen to me.

Did and do I go through trials in my life? Did I have a perfect childhood with perfect parents who treated each other like gold and stayed married? But I always felt loved and I was blessed to have parents who instilled confidence, strength and a sense of capability and independence in me from a very early age.

That would just be too much. I would give this book zero stars if I could. Apr 06, Sascha rated it did not like it Shelves: This book is a grotesque misinterpretation of femininity. It is your duty to make your man feel like a real man, apparently this means not letting him lounge about the bed naked and half covered by a sheet , otherwise you have failed. There is no place in this picture for a woman that does things on her own, but then, this book is not targeted at strong women. This book is targeted at lost women within the church searching for a sense of self, herein it becomes its own failure.

What Stasi Eldredge sees as herself, whether as a woman or a creation of God, is not the essence that makes every other woman whom she is in her heart. Ultimately, Captivating, is a narrow, inconsiderate mess of modern Christian ideology. Maybe it can be seen as inspiring to women searching for their identity, but finding an identity in someone else leaves them no healthier than being lost.

So, I just read this today and at first, I liked it. The author seemed to embrace the ideas of women as a companion, as beautiful etc. It seemed to embrace femininity in a way that was refreshing and lively - basically, she didn't seem stodgy and repressive. I feel like, someone shou So, I just read this today and at first, I liked it. I feel like, someone should write a book for women who struggle more.. Ruth as a seductress. View all 7 comments. Women and the men who love them. I was recommended this book by my twin sister. I wasnt exactly excited about reading it.

However, once I started I couldn't put it down. Captivating isn't a self-help book, or a sermon; far from either. Instead, Captivating is a book about discovery. It sheds light into the areas of a woman's heart most people would dare not even look and gives the reader permission to heal wounds that one didn't even know were there.

This book changed my life forever. All it took was the first page and I was ho I was recommended this book by my twin sister. All it took was the first page and I was hooked. For every ten pages of lucidity and helpful ideas there's a hundred of horrifically shallow spirituality, Hollywood fluff worship, and truly absurd concepts of gender roles. Long review coming soon.

Alas, books of this sort are assumed to be holy, and might be very damaging to the wrong reader at the wrong time. View all 6 comments. This book restores my soul. I'm just not connecting with this book. It comes off smug in my opinion, completely lacking the humility and honor I would expect in a book written for women who love the Lord. I've been tempted to put it down several times, but I'm trying to continue to read it with an "open mind". Ok, 2 weeks later, I'm done trying now. I just can't read any more of it, the more I read the more irritated I get.

There are too many good books out there to be wasting my time on this one. I wish I had. This book is based on opinion and tradition, not the word of God. Which is fine, unless it's trying to pass off as some kind of Biblical book. Which sadly, it is. Pathetically, this is how the cycle continues. This book was given to me by my mom, after she had read it. It took me a while to get into the right mindset to have the patience to read it; however, when I did what a jewel I found - not only in the book, but in myself as well.

The book is filled with metaphors and analogies that at first I found it hard to identify with because I was, as the book refers to, a woman striving and busying myself with all the worldly mundane tasks of life. I didn't "have time" for this flowery mumbo-jumbo! A woma This book was given to me by my mom, after she had read it.

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A woman emotionally flat and depleted. Once I found my calm space and made time to prioritize this because afterall, my mom has quoted it SO many times this past year It focuses on the purpose and heart of a woman, and how she is called to a role that is both captivating and nurturing to the relationships in her life.

It opened my eyes to the ways that I have learned to defend my heart by putting up barriers to it, and how you cannot truly love without being vulnerable.

This is a word that has not even been in my vocabulary for so long that I honestly hardly recognized the concept until I found myself caught up in the examples the authors gave There were many key insights offered into how a woman should be focused on her one true Father, and operate in a feminine way in the world so as to make it and her own heart flourish. It describes femininity in many ways - tender, loving, beautiful, fierce. This book is inspirational, and worth a second read!

Loaded with cultural outlooks. Talking with others I've decided I liked it because I could relate with it, but I don't think a girl who grew up in a different place could relate to it. Now, I give this a 3-star rating because I do not have the option of a 3. It is a great book - or course, for women. We wanted to better understand one another, and one another's gender more.

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They quote the majority of the same movies mostly men's movies, at Now, I give this a 3-star rating because I do not have the option of a 3. They quote the majority of the same movies mostly men's movies, at that - i.

The first chapter is great. It seems as though the Eldredges just rewrote it about 11 other times, as they redundantly state the same point, only adding something slightly different to have some minor impact. I know that it appears as though I did not like the book - that is incorrect. I feel as though I do better understand women though perhaps not all of them I do, however, feel as though Stasi and John placed much of their own ideals and interpretations into the writing.

Yes, this book is intended for women, but it does not do a great job of making the genders equal. Now that is fine. I cannot see how men could be contrived as a Beauty in any fashion, but I cannot see how women are to play the role as a Warrior if that is what men are called to do. The message seems to be contradicting. Men need to offer their God-given strength spiritually, physically, and every way while women offer their God-given beauty spiritually, physically, and every way - yet they state that "since men aren't always arround" that women need to also be warriors.

I did not like that portrayl. Yes, some men are not present, but they too are battling themselves and their desires just as women are. They use a lot of scripture to support their points - this is good. They use a lot of stories to support their points - this is not as good. Their stories tend to take away, in some cases, from their points as the stories are too long or vague. Stasi's personal testimonies not all, her dizzy spells seemed a bit exaggerated spoke to me the most If you are woman, then this book really will help you, I feel.

If you are a man, this book will shed some light into the mysteries of a woman's soul, but it may offend you somewhat - just take it with a grain of salt and then read "Wild At Heart. I'm not a big fan of "self-help" books like this, but a good friend said she kept thinking of me as she read it, so I picked it up. I read the first two chapters last night and it has a lot of good things to say! After finishing, I can honestly say that this is one of the best books I've ever read about being a woman and how women were created and understanding the soul of women.

I think every woman needs to read this book 18 is a good point, or 16 for those who are mature enough I'm not a big fan of "self-help" books like this, but a good friend said she kept thinking of me as she read it, so I picked it up. I think every woman needs to read this book 18 is a good point, or 16 for those who are mature enough to handle talking about marriage subjects and every man should as well 20 and up.

John Eldredge wrote Wild at Heart and I now plan on reading that one as well to better understand the journey of the Christian man well, all men, but Christian's in specific. Captivating is the flip side for women. I'll be rereading this one, maybe before the end of the year, because it has so much great info and applicable things to help get the question of our soul answered. SO, if you are a woman and over 18, get this book! But I can't think of a single one of those parts you can't find elsewhere in Christian literature.

So I would suggest skipping this one and moving on to something that's not entirely gender essentialist and sometimes misogynist. I posted chapter by chapter statuses if you are interested but essentially the main point It's over!!! I posted chapter by chapter statuses if you are interested but essentially the main point is that femininity is not bad or a weakness but just another way of expressing God's image, he created male and female in his likeness and both are necessary in his kingdom.

The other main point is that God wants to romance you. Annoyingly, the authors prove their points but using pretty much no scripture, some pop culture, and a false dichotomy of gender: All men are the same, they are exactly like Adam and all women are the same, they are exactly like Eve. Women are all, deep down inside, as stereotypically feminine as you can possibly be and all men are, deep down inside, as stereotypically masculine as you can be.

But when men don't act as stereotypically male as possible or women don't act as stereotypically female as possible they are going against creation and are sinning. There is literally no thought given to an unattached lifestyle in this book despite the many examples of single people in the bible. This book makes an overarching assumption that everyone hurts all the time. So if you are generally happy in life, the tone will be a bit off putting.

There are constant refrains like "You've held this pain inside. You feel it, don't you? In conclusion, if you understand that God created male AND female in his likeness and that femininity and beauty are just as inherently valuable as strength and masculinity and that all can and do play a role in God's kingdom, you've got the valuable bits out of this book, spare yourself the rest of it. View all 5 comments. Oct 10, Shantelle rated it it was ok Shelves: Not sure how to rate this one. I think it was almost equally as fascinating as it was confusing, The way some things were worded was definitely over the top, and I just totally didn't agree with them.

Other things I was not at all comfortable with. For one, I think there's a delicate balance between esteeming a woman for what God made her, and exulting her beyond what's right. And a delicate balance between showing God's love and care for men and women are equal, and actuall Not sure how to rate this one.

Captivating Revised and Updated : Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul

And a delicate balance between showing God's love and care for men and women are equal, and actually pushing the men down to show good qualities of the women. Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul , might have gone past the good and into the not-so-good in those areas.

But as for actually unveiling a woman's soul, I think they hit that pretty straight on. While other things seemed far-fetched and some a little weird, they described the essence of a woman's soul pretty well I think. We all do long to be princesses, and pursued and protected by a courageous knight…: Looking at and to ourselves more than to God. Maybe you want to read this book, but do so with a good dose of wariness I guess!

If you want to read Captivating: For example, I hope to have my mom read it, and discuss it with her. It's good to understand your feminine nature and discover what God truly designed us as women to be, but we don't want to worship ourselves or anything like that. For He is the one who created you, loved you with an unconditional love, and put the longing to be feminine in your heart.

When I read this book, I was a college student very much a part of the evangelical "purity" culture. I had been homeschooled and isolated from my peers. I had never dated because I didn't interact with boys my age and I never asked to date because that's not what "good girls did".

I felt fat and ugly. I went straight from classes home because that's what my parents expected of me. I didn't do anything wrong - I didn't party, I didn't drink, I didn't smoke, I didn't even go out with friends. For an incredibly isolated, lonely young woman, I needed this book. But I'm not that woman anymore. I have had a boyfriend though that was meh. I have been out on dates though, again, meh. I've been to other cities, other states, a whole different continent and country.

I've lost weight and feel attractive. I will leave this review up here in spoiler tags, but I ask you keep in mind: I was a young woman, very inexperienced, following a whole different culture when I wrote this. Rereading this review, I find it interesting that what I wrote about wasn't how I felt the need to be pure or more feminine, critiques I've seen given to this book, but the joyful affirmation that I was beautiful and uniquely loved by God.

Truly, I was in a sad place, that I didn't feel beautiful and loved. I would save the world from criminals, uphold the ways of the Force, and travel the world or the universe on my own starship. Eventually, the hero of my dreams either detective or Luke Skywalker would tell me how beautiful I was and marry me.

Together, we would live happily ever after. Fast forward over a dozen years and the story is much different. Today, I have a less-than-glamorous job, no significant relationships with men, and little hope that anyone outside my family will ever call me beautiful. My story is one that many women can relate to. In this book, John and Stasi acknowledge the way that women feel and encourage them to rise above it. Women are not called to mediocrity, is their cry. Women are meant to be beautiful, to be loved and to love, and to be involved in adventure and the way this can be achieved is by a meaningful, intimate relationship with the one who started it all: God, the ultimate lover.

When I first started this book, I couldn't get into it. When my church group encouraged the ladies to read Captivating while the men read Wild at Heart, I took up the challenge--this time with better success. The entire novel absorbed me--particularly Chapter Two: In this chapter, John and Stasi gave me a picture of my femininity that I had never, in my wildest dreams, pictured before. Here, they assert that Creation was not complete without woman. For me, that was the most jaw-dropping moment of the book. Furthermore, John and Stasi give plenty of examples--Biblical, pop culture, and real-life men and women--of what they mean.

In describing God and how he wants to love us, they use examples from movies that many women have seen: Titanic, Braveheart, Lord of the Rings, and Sense and Sensibility to name a few none of the movies are endorsed, only the imagery is used. When describing how parents influence a daughter's image of herself, several women's life stories are given. This real-life approach is also given when describing interactions with men, interactions with God, and interactions in the world and lends the whole book great authenticity.

But most importantly, John and Stasi made me realize how valued I was as a woman and how important it was for me to let go of all the chains and grudges and burdens I have been holding on to. In this manner, the book was a success and a delight. What I Did Not Like: Towards the end, the book begins to read like a to-do list, i. I hate this because I am the type of person who wants to do the items and conquer each before moving on in the book. And if I just read all the steps one after another without doing each one, I tend to get overwhelmed with all the "to-do" work I have in front of me.

In relating a prior conversation, a woman says an expletive. John and Stasi relate others' and Stasi's failed relationships. These include rape, sexual assault, physical abuse, verbal abuse, and other forms of domestic violence. I am so grateful that I did! This has provided me with a peak behind the curtain on how to understand woman and the issues they face which will help me to be a better man, husband, father and friend.

I've owned this book several times already but have given it away so much that I needed another copy! And every little girl holds in her heart her most precious dreams. She longs to be swept up into a romance, to play an irreplaceable role in a great adventure, to be the beauty of the story. Those desires are far more than child's play. They are the secret to the feminine heart. And yet, how many women do you know who ever find that life?

As the years pass by, the heart of a woman gets pushed aside, wounded, buried. She finds no romance except in novels, no adventure except on television, and she doubts very much that she will ever be the Beauty in any tale. Most women think they have to settle for a life of efficiency and duty, chores, and errands, striving to be the women they "ought" to be but often feeling they have failed. Sadly, too many messages for Christen women add to the pressure. But her heart is still there. Sometimes when she watches a movie, sometimes in the wee hours of the night, her heart begins to speak again.

A thirst rises within her to find the life she was meant to live? The message of Captivating is this: Your heart matters more than anything else in all creation. The desires you had as a little girl and the longings you still feel as a woman are telling you of the life God created you to live.

He offers to come now as the Hero of your story, to rescue your heart and release you to live as a fully alive and feminine woman.

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