Finding me... Again?

7 Tips to Find Yourself When You're Feeling Lost

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Sudden unexpected and unwelcome change may have you surfing along. The waking up to find that you have been: I repeat, who knows? The good news is this: And maybe the truthful news is, nobody is actually lost.

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You can do this, you can stop feeling lost, the first step is owning the desire to make the decision you are no longer willing to drift. Because after a while you may not be able to see any way out. Repeating the same phrase over and over is only going to take you further out to sea.

We have to at least anchor. Get a piece of paper and write down the phrase you use most often and then move on to the others. Take back control by knowing exactly what you mean. Is it a loss of the self you know. The self you trust and can rely on. The self that is secure, loved, and reliable. Drill down what you specifically mean. And that can extend to all relationships: You feel as parts of you are missing.

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You may forget where you end, and others begin. Yes, even those things you have pretended to like. Just at the moment you need to leave the house. Do you at first have a gentle look around the places you have left them before? Feeling lost is perfectly OKAY. The BEST thing you can do is not to get insanity lost keys about it. There are plenty of signposts, tools, tips, techniques to be reunited with your real self.

I know it can feel scary. However the journey forward can be the one that allows you a much deeper understanding of who you really are, not who others have expected you to be. I would suggest though that the first decision you make is to choose you are ready, willing and available to discover who you are. You can download it here , or click the image on the left.

A separation of self. Learn to say no. Learn to not give power away to words that others have been defining for you, define your own. You may find you are adrift again…soon. It tickled my throat and escaped through bursts of tears. I reached up to wipe my cheeks and found a smile there. I spent the next few days in quiet observation, breathing through the pins and needles of waking up. Confusion for sure, but I felt I had no choice but to keep going. The more intently I listened, the more clearly I started to hear and feel yes and no.

It felt like acting. It was resistance and alarm bells and forcing.

Even though it had been my usual mode of operation, being in a state of no also started to hurt. It was light, expansive, and exciting. I felt energized and creative whenever I was there. The best part was, it was easy. Of course, as any of us would, I wanted more of the yes and less of the no. I grabbed a sheet of paper and drew a line down the middle. It was nothing fancy, just a quick word about what I did and how I felt. So, I started to follow yes with more intention.

They were aching with the kind of deep burn that comes from turning your back on yourself, walking away, and never looking back. I retreated into my day-in-and-day-out and identified with the little dramas, whether they were mine to start with or not. A real go-getter and other fully functional adult-type things.

I was aimless and stuck in a close enough approximation of inner peace and freedom.

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I existed as a fragment of me. Looking back, it was on that day that I decided that even if I was fine, fine was not enough. My sense of wonder and magic, my awe, my creative spirit, and my light had been calling out to me all this time. Yet, there they were this whole time, turning toward me like flowers turning toward the sun. I suppose they never were lost, just watching and waiting until the day I set down my resistance and welcomed them back home. It took a lot of little moments. Awkward, wobbly baby steps that took me sideways and backward just as easily as forward.

It took me a while, but I finally figured out that when you feel a yes, you follow it. If any part of my story resonates with you, then maybe you know what it feels like to pretend to be here and whole.

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Leslie is writer and artist who hopes to leave the world a little brighter than she found it. Her people are soul-searchers, deep feelers, and big-hearted dreamers that crave inner peace and inner truth. Download her free ritual for receiving to bring true healing, inner peace, and lasting joy into your life. This site is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal, or other professional advice.

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