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I'm a native New Yorker. After a good deal of disappointment, I gave up writing. Then my mother passed away, and I found that fishing helped ease my grief. Almost accidentally, I wrote and sold a fishing article. To me, much of my writing is about how I'm a native New Yorker. To me, much of my writing is about how the challenges of fishing and the beauty of the outdoors helped me come to terms with loss and with a world I can't always understand.
In a sense, my writing is autobiographical, as it reflects my own gratifying, but at times, difficult journey of emotional and spiritual recovery. On the long road of my journey, I slowly learned that, even when I don't have answers, I must strive to find forgiveness and self-worth and to connect to the good in the world. This is how I define spirituality. I therefore love books where the main characters struggle against inner and outer conflicts and then try to do what's right. My most recent book is, The Way of the River: Books by Randy Kadish.
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Return to Book Page. The Book of Forgiving: Mpho Tutu Goodreads Author. Tutu's role as the Chair of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission taught him much about forgiveness. If you asked anyone what they thought was going to happen to South Africa after apartheid, almost universally it was predicted that the country would be devastated by a comprehensive bloodbath.
Yet, instead of revenge and retribution, this new nation chose to tread the difficult path of confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation. Each of us has a deep need to forgive and to be forgiven. After much reflection on the process of forgiveness, Tutu has seen that there are four important steps to healing: Admitting the wrong and acknowledging the harm; Telling one's story and witnessing the anguish; Asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness; and renewing or releasing the relationship.
Forgiveness is hard work. Sometimes it even feels like an impossible task. But it is only through walking this fourfold path that Tutu says we can free ourselves of the endless and unyielding cycle of pain and retribution. The Book of Forgiving is both a touchstone and a tool, offering Tutu's wise advice and showing the way to experience forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiving is the only means we have to heal ourselves and our aching world. Hardcover , pages. Published March 18th by HarperOne first published January 1st To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up.
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Where to buy online? R It is available on Amazon. Is this a Christianity-centered book? Would it be worthwhile for an atheist to read? Craig No, this book is not Christianity-centered and is applicable to all religious beliefs or ideologies. Worthwhile read for anyone struggling to forgive …more No, this book is not Christianity-centered and is applicable to all religious beliefs or ideologies. Worthwhile read for anyone struggling to forgive or be forgiven. See 2 questions about The Book of Forgiving…. Lists with This Book. Mar 20, Janet rated it it was amazing.
When I first started reading this I confess it was a hard read. So much pain at levels I have never experienced. It made me feel small and fragile to even think of whining about my own troubles when these people really know what it is to experience trauma. Then I learned through the way Mpho and Desmond Tutu explained it that the un-forgivable in my own life was holding me back from being the person I know I can be. I look at these things differently and slowly have become lighter, and feel more When I first started reading this I confess it was a hard read.
I look at these things differently and slowly have become lighter, and feel more ease. I'm sold on not letting these things run my life any more. It's not easy, but I'm moving on. I got the galleys of the book before publication as I am doing some work with a project called the Forgiveness Challenge. Archbishop Desmond Tutu will be the first to tell you that forgiveness is not for sissies. As the chairman of South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission, he spearheaded the landmark effort to heal a country torn asunder by apartheid.
A time and space were created to introduce perpetrator to victim - thieves to those they vandalized, torturers to those they injured, kidnappers to the kin of those they abducted, killers to the families of the slain - so that witness could be borne and quest Archbishop Desmond Tutu will be the first to tell you that forgiveness is not for sissies. A time and space were created to introduce perpetrator to victim - thieves to those they vandalized, torturers to those they injured, kidnappers to the kin of those they abducted, killers to the families of the slain - so that witness could be borne and questions answered; treachery confessed, suffering relayed.
It was a chance not only to confront the agent of the evil befallen, but to locate the human being behind the sin and, through his humanity, hold him accountable. And if that's not the way you thought I was going to finish that sentence, you might want to pick up a copy of this book. Because it's not about letting people off the hook. It's about acknowledging the damage done, laying the outrage at the foot of the one who delivered it, and finding the means to get on with the rest of your life. But let's bring this a little closer to home, because what is true of those who have suffered grievous loss and catastrophic injury is also true of those who have been broken in thoughtless, selfish, everyday ways.
Harm is harm, and what sets the heart to bleeding or the soul to ache is as much in need of address as anything prosecutable in a court of law. There are wounds we own that have not closed; hurts we carry like luggage through the years that leave us stumbling beneath their weight. If you've ever been told, "You have to let this go," well, we both know you were talking to a well-intentioned idiot.
If you could have let this go you would have let this go a long, long time ago. Turning away is hardly the answer.
Turning toward , though. That's an awful lot of pain. You'd be hard-pressed to find a better guide through this particularly brutal morass than Archbishop Desmond Tutu. Here's the guy with the compass. View all 4 comments. Mar 21, Geoff Livingston rated it it was amazing. A truly restorative book filled with fantastic spiritual exercises and examples. This is not an entertaining read, it is work. Not the prose, but the subject matter. Yet, if you read it through you can't help but feel better and see the world differently. Aug 23, Megan Clarke rated it it was amazing. Until I read this book, the idea of forgiveness was rather vague and obscure--something that as a Christian I knew I was "supposed" to do, but I really had no idea how to go about it.
How did I know if I had truly forgiven? I always had the impression that I had forgiven when I was no longer angry. But how could I stop being angry? Well I guess I needed to do a better job at forgiving because if I was still having flashes of anger, clearly I had not "completely" forgiven. Needless to say, the top Until I read this book, the idea of forgiveness was rather vague and obscure--something that as a Christian I knew I was "supposed" to do, but I really had no idea how to go about it.
This book finally broke that cycle. Based in scientific reasoning, it provides a clear four-step process for forgiveness. In my Christian upbringing, the steps of "Telling the Story" and "Naming the Hurt" were never identified. I always tried to jump from being hurt right to forgiveness, which is why I was never successful. Not only has this book shed light on my personal struggle with the idea of forgiveness, but it has greatly informed my practice as a therapist working with victims who have suffered horrific personal tragedies.
This book clarifies that forgiveness is not about the perpetrator, it's about the victim, and it's a critical step in the journey towards healing--one that I will now more consciously include in my therapeutic work. Sep 26, Catie rated it really liked it. I started this book in the aftermath of the Paris terrorist attacks. I seek a world of forgiveness and peace. I believe no one is beyond the reach of forgiveness. In each of us, there is an innate ability to create joy out of suffering, to find hope in the most hopeless of situations, and to heal any relationship in need of healing.
It can only be healed in a community and in connection with others.
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May 12, Brian Tucker rated it it was amazing. Finished my fifth read. Continues to resonate with me in a multitude of ways. Oprah described this as a "doctorate level education" in the concept of Forgiveness.
With a capital F. This book made me weep. Read it if you need to learn how to forgive, what forgiveness is, what it is not, and why it is absolutely mandatory if you want to live a life of love and connection. Oct 11, Christie rated it it was amazing Shelves: The best book on forgiveness that I have ever read. It took me four months to read it.
It is one you have to digest slowly and purposefully. May 17, Laura Thompson rated it it was amazing. The instruction for forgiveness is really illustrated well with fabulously shared stories. Mar 22, Julie Rose rated it it was amazing. Both beautiful and very practical. A book I think could benefit and inspire just about anyone and everyone. May 14, BHodges rated it it was amazing. The weight of its authors' experience transforms what could otherwise have been a regular self-help book into a remarkable guide to personal and collective transformation.
Not only does the book offer solid justifications for forgiving others, and personal experiences to back up the justifications, it also includes unique rituals and meditations for readers to try if they're struggling with forgiving others. I learned much from this book. Mar 12, Mychael-Ann rated it it was amazing. Regardless of your life story, you need this book. It now occupies a place very near the top of the most influential books I have ever read. I ordered this book for my son after completing the Tutu Forgiveness Challenge on line.
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At first I found it almost simplistically silly. But as I continued to force myself to work the daily challenge, I begin to realize this simple little program was having a defined effect upon and within me. Archbishop Tutu in concert with his daughter, Reverend Mpho Tutu have compiled a successful program reflected within the pages of this little book I ordered this book for my son after completing the Tutu Forgiveness Challenge on line.
Archbishop Tutu in concert with his daughter, Reverend Mpho Tutu have compiled a successful program reflected within the pages of this little book: Rather than altercations after suspension of apartheid, "this new nation chose to tread the difficult path of confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation. Their simplistic method allows the participant IF willing to look deeply within their psyche, acknowledging their feelings and emotions. At times when journaling what I was feeling, I allowed myself, without judgment, to feel the anger, sadness, joy or happiness I was experiencing.
And this little exercise of putting it all down on paper, allowed a tremendous release from these old issues. By the end of the 30 day program, my mental, spiritual and physical health and well-being had undergone a true transformation. For that reason alone I purchased The Book of Forgiving as a gift, hoping my son will choose to release some of the anger bottled within his soul.
May 26, Kathryn rated it it was amazing Shelves: I must express my gratitude to Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu for writing this book. It has opened my eyes, my heart, my mind to truly understanding forgiveness. It has inspired me to embrace this work and has bolstered my courage to move forward. At first I found it a bit difficult, as it uncovered some deep-seeded pain and trauma.
But I am grateful to now have the warm, loving framework this book provides to walk the path of forgiveness. I appreciate the book's holistic thoroughness - understandin I must express my gratitude to Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu for writing this book.