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If you prefer to be called pansexual people should respect your wish. But I do think there is a danger of the boy who called wolf. If there are too many terms and too many social obligations people like me will resist because all of a sudden we are disproportionately treating you differently than any other person. I don't want to give a trans person any special treatment, negative OR positive.
I want to treat you just like I treat everyone else -- a respect that doesn't require a bachelors degree in whatever discipline they identify with. I actually completely agree with you. I'm fine with people thinking of me as bisexual because that's what most people can understand and bi erasure is a HUGE problem in the LGT community. And most trans people don't want special treatment.
We want exactly what you said: The only thing "special" is that I wouldn't want you to call me 'he' any more than a cis girl would even though I really don't pass that well and haven't gone full-time as a girl yet. I'm actually thinking about getting a Women, Gender, and Sexuality Studies certificate with whatever grad school program or law school I decide to go with. If I could do my life differently, I probably would have chosen to go completely into the field of gender and sexuality research. This might be one of the most mature and empathetic conversations I have ever seen on this site.
Your insight and willingness to inform without criticism has been the highlight of my week. It's one of those comment chains where you share with a friend because there's so much polarized stuff to deal with day to day that a peaceful and meaningful interaction has so much value. Thank you so much! I try to not be too adversarial in any post I make and it's served me pretty well in almost 5 years on reddit. I had another 4-year-old account before I made this one. With all the stuff you see on this site, even if you curtail your subs, I find that there is just little reason to go online unless you want be constantly confronted with the polarized parts of society.
I just hope you realize the kind of power you have in your position too. In fact I would say it's what the world needs more of now. Not only am I aware, I intend to use it to its full potential. My highest career goal is to be elected to the Senate. Hopefully, I may be the first transgender Senator ever elected.
Everything I've been reading online has been hateful one-sided garbage and it's actually been a bit draining to think that this is the political and social climate we live in now, one where nobody is willing to listen to the other side at all. I can't wait for shit to level out a bit not that it's ever really been level to begin with.
Complaining about having to look up 3 definitions? I used to identify as pan but eventually it felt like I was just making up labels for myself so that people would include me and I'd feel "legitimate. I was taught that the "two" that bi stands for isn't "men and women" along the gender binary and noninclusive of trans people but rather "same and other. I suppose that's what pan is as well, it tries to clear it up but it's never been confusing for me.
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Plus a lot of people who I've met in LGBT spaces who identify as pan tend to use really biphobic language in defining what pansexuality is to them ex: His demeanor makes it seem like he enjoys bombing people, which is not healthy, I don't care how many people think that's likable. Would I approve waterboarding?
You bet your ass I would. I would approve more than that. And if it doesn't work, they deserve it anyway for what they do to us. Just because someone is bisexual doesn't mean they are attracted to trans people, so pansexual says you can find any kind of person attractive. On the flip side, just because you're bisexual doesn't mean you're not attracted to trans people!
Bi can be and absolutely is trans-inclusive. We didn't need a whole new identifier for straight or gay people who find trans people attractive. Same with bi people. I'm not really an expert on these things. I do know that for my trans friends out there it can be hard, especially in the dating sphere. It helps to have a way for people indicate they're truly open to whatever. I feel like we're just getting ridiculous with it.
You don't have to find trans people attractive, you don't have to date them. Thst doesn't change that you like girls and boys. A lot of pansexual people simply call themselves bisexual, because it's the term that most people are familiar with. Bisexual does not automatically mean that you're not into trans people. However, it might mean that. Pansexual as a term simply exists to make that distinction. Every pansexual person is bisexual, but not every bisexual person is pansexual.
I really don't think that "we're getting ridiculous with it" or anything, no one demands that you have to learn every term for every sexuality that exists which is, of course, impossible, since sexuality is a spectrum - so technically there is an infinite amount of different sexualities. However, it is useful to have terms for the most common sexualities to differentiate between them - and also so that minorities can find their own identity and feel comfortable expressing it. The fact that terms like pansexual exist really doesn't concern you - but it is helpful for people who are pansexual.
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Then they will brow beat you until you cave in. Worked for me telling my sister she was number 1. When asked my gender I don't know how to answer I am just Denise. Jane Emily on March 14, , A letter sounds like the best route, despite it seeming impersonal. My dad will not take this well. My sarcastic side really wants to start the letter with "Dad, I know it has been a long time since I truly disappointed you but that's probably about to change. Have a seat, things are about to get weird.
Being loved is nice. Feeling free is better. Don't wait for a better time to come out, there isn't. Set up a deadline, talk to them, they are your parents. They love you, they will definitely accept you. You can arrange them to be together, if you don't want to go through it twice. English Choose a language for shopping. Amazon Music Stream millions of songs.
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