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I must say, I love black men a lot but like I said, my country has some ridiculous beliefs. I love what you said about race not being an issue. I was raised in a biracial home…my mom is Italian and Hispanic and my dad was white. He sees me as beautiful. Black women on the other hand see me as a threat. They only see me as white…if they only knew the truth. Thanks again for the article. I used to use verses to discourage this kind of marriage. And then God changed my heart and put me in a situation where I had no option but to lean on Him.

He taught me what it is to trust in Him. I have always wondered how a child feels being mixed. I know for me I would want to be fully one race or the other. It is a question I have never heard addressed.

God bless your family man! Your testimony goes all around the world… People need that. Message from Germany, Europe! I appreciate this post so much. Also, my kids fluently speak another language so that really confuses people since our last name is Lawrence. My feelings are mutual to yours and many others who commented. Thx for great music too! Her race was never a factor to me, because of her heart for the Lord.

We now have a baby girl. I just see the two biggest blessings in my life apart from the Lord Jesus. Sometimes I even forget that we are an interracial couple and family. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family! Trip, thank you so much for this. My wife had completely different upbringing. She moved to the Nati to be close to me. She moved there thinking she would not have to put up with, hear, or experience the things she went through growing up. Wow, were we both shocked! The things people would say to us in the mall, at the park, or just out to eat.

We now have been married for 11 years have 4 beautiful children to show for it. We also now live in that same small rural town where she grew up. The hate is less, but the looks are still there. Love, we just need to show everyone love. No matter the race or background of a person, God loves them, and we are to be like Christ, so we too should love them.

Wonderful article Trip lee. Trip, you have a beautiful family, and I thank you for sharing your heart. Although my husband and I are both white, we grew up very differently. He is a true country boy and self-proclaimed redneck. I have always felt more comfortable around black people, even as a small child.

I was never opposed to marrying a white man, but my preferences were definitely geared toward men in the hip-hop culture. People often ask us how we ended up together, and most people are shocked to find out my husband is white. The List Relationship Resource Kit.

I am Native American who grew up on a reservation and my husband is Mexican. We both grew up in different states yet we believed in the same Sovereign God who willed where he wanted us to serve HIM and made provision for us to meet. We now live near the reservation in my home state. To come along side my husband as his helper to share the gospel to my own people.

This was a great encouragement to me. Continue to do His work! Thank you for the songs and the truths you incorporate.

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I cant wait til the practical, this is how we do grace in the everyday, book is cowritten by Trip and Jessica! I wish I could marry a black woman! That was a good decision to make. Thankfully, God allowed me to grow in maturity before he brought my stunner to me. Will she be allowed to preserve her individuality, or must her judgment and conscience be surrendered to the control of her husband? She is an amazing person with an amazing heart. I would not be understood to mean that anyone is to marry one whom he does not love.

Our family enjoys your music. Especially my teenage sons. I know 3 languages and learning a few more. My best friend is black and her husband is arabian. It is amazing to see a mixture of races at churches and even in groups. At three months pregnant, God sent me a friend — a brown Indian man. We were both just starting our medical school careers. What I was about to do was crazy enough.

When he told his parents about me they threatened to withdraw all support, his brothers refused to speak to me. After a year and a half we got married we are still in school, raising our son and still have people confused. Heres to a real man. Heres to a very loving and gracious Father. I used to work in a hotel alongside Black men and while guests treated me with respect and believed I could do my job with excellence, they flipped the switch with my Black co-workers right in front of me.

Can you handle this? Even though I do I will most likely marry outside my race simply because of my LOVE of adventure so like I said in the beginning, this point is just straight hypocritical. At least you married yours for the right reasons. Thanks for the article! As a single black woman who loves God and seeks to live my life in a way that pleases him and reflects his love to others, I have prayed hard about this topic.

The single men in the churches I have attended have mostly been non-black men. At times I feel like I am at the bottom of the totem pole, competing against the white, Asian and Hispanic women with long, flowing hair and features that I will never have. Even in looking through some of the Christian dating sites, I have noticed that a large percentage of the men with solid profiles indicate they are interested in pretty much all ethnicities except African-American. Your article was encouraging to me and spot on. I will trust God to provide in all areas of my life, including my relationships.

Many, many years ago when my oldest son was about 2, we were driving through a black section of town and he commented that all the people were black and asked why was everyone black. I tried to explain that a long time ago people thought it was better if all the white people lived in one area and all the black people lived in one area. I love that you were so open and honest with this post. I feel like the act of interracial marriage and dating is a topic people need be more open to discuss because in every generation I feel as though people have an issue with it.

I never had a preference on what race I dated. But, when my family found out I had a boyfriend and he was black, they were surprised. They were surprised because my immediate family has been living in a predominately white area for the past 10 years and they thought that would sway my relationships. This was a very encouraging post. As an odd interracial couple we have faced much adversity, but the only thing that mattered was Christ and our bond in Christ through friendship to courtship and now in our marriage.

I never really post on things like this but this post did speak to me and confirm my resolve in how I council others who are in pursuit of finding a spouse in their ethnicity. I think this is an amazing story. I love how transparent you are because a lot of us try to hide things like wanting preferences, but i love how you said we have to submit them. I pray that God continues to show me things like this because I truly believe that it will help me to keep my heart and eyes on God and His Word and not just the appearance of the women around me.

Than you for sharing your love story. Will definitely be sharing with them at https: We are still in our first year, but no regrets! We have our fist child on the way and we love our little family. Like Trip Lee, I pictured myself marrying a woman of my own race I think its just natural. Thats the only race that I look at!! I remember when you and Jessica first started dating! This was a great blog and I think it may be freeing for many people as they choose to look at the heart of the person rather than the outer.

My parents have issues with the fact that I find myself interested in guys of a different race. Even though I have not always been interested in the most godly guys, there has been times when I was interested in a quite godly man, but because he was not white my parents completely dismissed and forbade any sort of relationship with them.

I am definitely sharing this with them, hopefully this will open their eyes. Brother, words like interracial relationship should be taken out of our vocabs. There is only one human race. Never saw it that way. They love to be closed in. We walk and talk and process things at different paces, and our families are really different, but we love each other, and God brought us together. Culturally, though, it takes adjusting for both of us. That, along with being equally yoked to serve the Lord, is what marriage is all about!

Glad you spoke up! Love you my brother. That is the most beautiful story………especially your wife…you guys are blessed. First and foremost, your music is beautiful and awe inspiring. I love the message you preach in each and every single song. Continue the wonderful talent God has given you! Interracial relationships and marriages are absolutely gorgeous.

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I am Caucasian, but have been attracted to African American men my whole life. My family is very, very, very accepting of this. However, I pray that God sends me the right one, who has gentlemen and godlike qualities. I yearn for a man who says they love Christ more than they love me, respectful, and sweet.

This has opened my eyes though to be open to all races instead of just black. God Bless both you and Jessica! This was a great article… i really enjoy reading your blog. Thanks for sharing your stories and being so transparent. The Lord is using you in so many wonderful ways!

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Wow, this article is awesome! Trip, you are a really good writer as well. I felt like I was reading a romance novel or something while reading your post. My girl friend and I are praying and waiting on the Lord for the next step. This post is kind of random, never really thought about it heck, I never even knew this page existed until today.

The crazy thing is he actually does Christian rap—???? Anyway, continue to Love your wife like Christ Loves the Church…. Usually I do not read article on blogs, but I wish to say that this write-up very forced me to take a look at and do so! Your writing style has been amazed me. Thank you, very nice post. Same reason i married a white girl. Thank you for sharing. God bless you and your family brother. Praise The Lord, foreal tho. A Married Man HeadLine. Hey Trip, thanks for the excellent and thoughtful response to a difficult question.

She was available and I was available and we saw the world in the same ways. I only dated and had married a black women who I married more for obligation child and cultural expectation than mutual interest. Since I had no relationship with God aside from occasional church visits I believe I was ill prepared for marriage. While our skin color was the same we had very different values and after we separated and divorced God came into my broken heart to heal me. Our children and our church ministry will reflect the love of God for people from every walk of life.

Hey Trip, thanks for the excellent and thoughtful response to a difficult topic. In the past I had dated and married a black women out of obligation child and cultural expectation family than mutual affection. Since I had no relationship with God beyond church attendance, I was ill prepared for marriage. Our children and our church ministry will reflect the love of God for people from every walk of life and our desperate need for his grace. We will pray for your family and please pray for us too. I hope to one day marry this girl.

Is there anything to good read on this issue or any sort of advice? I am a single black woman and a predominately white university and this type of conversation always comes up amongst my circle of black girlfriends. Looks do matter and there are certain social contexts that may be misunderstood if the significant other was raised in a different ethnic culture, but these factors are not dealbreakers.

Your story is such a beautiful love story that I too hope to experience someday. Love is universal and transcends all ethnicities. We as Christians are supposed to love all even with our differences. Sometimes your soul mate, true match, life partner, and best friend is someone who is completely opposite of who you ever imagined yourself being with.

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It makes me smile to hear that embrace how you were drawn to Jessica for the humble, compassionate, and God-fearing woman that she was and still is. Your union is a true testament that your shared faith in God transcends all differences. Hey, I feel you. I have Australian Aboriginal heritage and I always wanted to marry another Koori Aboriginal but because of culture and ancestral religions it made it very hard. I ended up marrying a Anglo Red head. Blessed to know am not on the wrong track as I get close to the time I will make a choice on life partner! God bless you and your family in Jesus name it does not matter what raise you are it matters on how they treat you and you are the best pastor ever real.

And he said unto Abram, Know of a surety that thy seed shall be a stranger in a land that is not theirs, and shall serve them; and they shall afflict them four hundred years; And also that nation, whom they shall serve, will I judge: According to the Song of Solomon 1: Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me: I know who I am. I would never do it, but it just speeds up the process, so that peace can inherit the Earth instead of what we are enduring now. I wish more people in interracial relationships expressed them9 in this manner versus having to put down other groups of people.

In all honesty, the Lord has been working on my heart when it comes this subject. However, some negative encounters with interracial couples and the current anti-black woman movement left me jaded. What I have to say is very sad.. I m from the eastern part of the world and my I married a white girl. We are getting divorce. My family doesnt wants to meet me and I never get adjusted in her family.

She was the perfect women I can ever have, we are divorcing due to interracial issues.. My parents are sick and they want to visit US and they cant live with my wife. I am the head of the household so I have to takecare of my family backhome.

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That is very powerful, Encouraging and it open our eyes to see beyond our physical eyes because two people God unite them to Fulfil His purpose. I really could care less what ethnicity your wife is, but it is incredible to hear you address this or any issue with such humility and poise. Thank you for seeking God first. By all accounts are words could be no truer, for a believer or not. To be more specific: I would physically love to be in the company of David Beckham, Chris Hemsworth, and Ben Affleck when single , but I have no desire to marry them; not when my heart desires the beauty, strength, character, and valor of the wonderfully-created black man!

Had we remained in a world free from sin, this probably would not be a much concern, but in a world were such a beautifully-made human has been degraded, humiliated, chastised, disrespected, etc…I foresee no need not to complete my journey with him sent by Him. It is a very great joy and blessing to my life, i and my husband have begin childless for 8years now due to my inability for me to give birth and it has resolves to problems everyday in my home,so i visited a female friend in Florida,and she came up with an idea of adopting a child which i never had in mind,and now i got no choice than to apply for a child and to my surprises everything went easily and today i am happy with the Hansom little boy Wisdom i adopted from the Inter country child adoption center.

A sincere Christian will not advance his plans in this direction without the knowledge that God approves his course. He will not want to choose for himself, but will feel that God must choose for him. We are not to please ourselves, for Christ pleased not Himself. I would not be understood to mean that anyone is to marry one whom he does not love.

This would be sin. But fancy and the emotional nature must not be allowed to lead on to ruin. God requires the whole heart, the supreme affections. Make Haste Slowly —Few have correct views of the marriage relation. Many seem to think that it is the attainment of perfect bliss; but if they could know one quarter of the heartaches of men and women that are bound by the marriage vow in chains that they cannot and dare not break, they would not be surprised that I trace these lines.

Marriage, in a majority of cases, is a most galling yoke. There are thousands that are mated but not matched. The books of heaven are burdened with the woes, the wickedness, and the abuse that lie hidden under the marriage mantle. This is why I would warn the young who are of a marriageable age to make haste slowly in the choice of a companion. The path of married life may appear beautiful and full of happiness; but why may not you be disappointed as thousands of others have been?

Those who are contemplating marriage should consider what will be the character and influence of the home they are founding. As they become parents, a sacred trust is committed to them. Upon them depends in a great measure the well-being of their children in this world, and their happiness in the world to come. To a great extent they determine both the physical and the moral stamp that the little ones receive. And upon the character of the home depends the condition of society; the weight of each family's influence will tell in the upward or the downward scale. Vital Factors in the Choice —Great care should be taken by Christian youth in the formation of friendships and in the choice of companions.

Take heed, lest what you now think to be pure gold turns out to be base metal. Worldly associations tend to place obstructions in the way of your service to God, and many souls are ruined by unhappy unions, either business or matrimonial, with those who can never elevate or ennoble. Weigh every sentiment, and watch every development of character in the one with whom you think to link your life destiny.

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Her mother is white and her father is black mixed with—well, that's the part we My wife was raised in a culturally white context, but that did not. “A prudent wife is from the Lord.” “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” “She openeth her .

The step you are about to take is one of the most important in your life, and should not be taken hastily. While you may love, do not love blindly. Examine carefully to see if your married life would be happy or inharmonious and wretched. Let the questions be raised, Will this union help me heavenward? Will it increase my love for God? And will it enlarge my sphere of usefulness in this life? If these reflections present no drawback, then in the fear of God move forward.

Most men and women have acted in entering the marriage relation as though the only question for them to settle was whether they loved each other. Understand, however, we can only change those things we have the power to change. While we have the power to influence change, we can never force change. I just prayed for him, talked to him about certain things and ultimately he made the decision to make some changes.

But when I started dating my husband, I decided to do things differently and refused to accept anything less than what I deserved. Basically, I made him work for my love. Invest in yourself and your relationship with God. Invest in your career, your future and your brand. Invest in your physical, mental and emotional well-being.

Invest in something fun; travel or see the world! Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. There are two types of people you should apply this to: However, if you give up too much too soon without any reciprocation, then he stands to benefit the most and you risk losing everything; only to end up with heartache and disappointment. Many of us have ruined countless relationships or ended up with broken hearts because somewhere along the way we concluded the presence of sex automatically meant the presence of love.