In the book I write about how bored I felt being at home with an infant. I was bored, yes. But the other part of that truth is that we banded together then. When he slept and when he cried, I was smelling him. Rocking, Feeling him against me and making him mine. I wonder if the Actress and the Comedienne have noticed that I have barely spoken at all. Not that I mind. The endive salad with pear, caramelized onions, and goat cheese crostini is so delicious that I have to tell myself to slow down.
I should have ordered the lamb burger with gorgonzola cheese and string fries. I reach over and take a second warm, crusty, sourdough roll out of the basket in the middle of the table. Never thinking that quite possibly the nanny is just as bored by their children as they are. The nanny is doing a job. The nanny needs the money. I wonder if they are thinking of the book as a series or a made-for-TV movie. The Comedienne finally takes a bite of her salad. Not for anything else. I titter, rip my roll in half, and drag it through the olive oil on my plate. Are we going to talk about our vaginas now?
When are we going to talk about the book? For some reason, famous women feel compelled to bring up their vaginas pretty early on in a conversation. I know this because it has happened to me before on several occasions. And never with a non-famous woman. Maybe famous women do it to convince the non-famous that they are like everybody else.
Not in a masturbatory way, but more contemplative. They whoop in response. I look down at my plate and my salad is gone. Somehow I have eaten the whole thing without even realizing it. I have snapped at my children to hand over their last five gumi bears before I lose it. I reach for the breadbasket, flip over the napkin, and find it empty.
How can that be? Did I wolf down three pieces of bread? I thought I only had two and famous women never eat bread. There should be at least one piece left. Sometimes famous women pretend to eat like the rest of us and take a roll that they never intend to eat. She needs a new one. Because she needs a new kitchen and she has to keep the nanny who loves her kid. All of these concerns I remind myself, stomach growling, are perfectly reasonable in their world. It makes perfect sense, I tell myself, that the Actress wants a new kitchen. If I were her I would want a new kitchen too.
Hell, I do want a new kitchen. For all she knows, I just got my own new kitchen. The Actress says that she bought a ten-thousand dollar present as an apology to a famous colleague. What happened to the carefully worded e-mail? Their concerns have nothing to do with me, I repeat to myself like a mantra. Their concerns have nothing to do with me. The Actress and the Comedienne love their husbands and their fucking children. They have lost pets and doubled over with pain. When they had time. They put their pants on one leg at a time.
I almost laugh when I think that. Steer the conversation somewhere else. What the fuck am I doing with my life? I am not like these women.
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Murphy has a hole in the sole of his sneaker. The huge gaping hunger in my belly widens, A carnivorous yawn. I will never be able to fill it up. It will have to feed upon itself. Turn inside out and eat me whole. Where is the waiter? There is a fly in my soup.
There is a hole in my sole. Wednesday, September 5, How to Say a Prayer. Last Saturday I had the honor of being a "guest preacher" at our Unitarian Church. The whole experience was humbling and wonderful. I was most nervous about writing a prayer. So much so that I started to write notes to myself about it. When I finished, I realized that my notes were the prayer and so that is how I left it: How to say a Prayer. When in doubt, start with gratitude. Start by giving conscious thanks for the earth, your family and friends, your mind, your heart, and your humanity.
Give thanks for all that connects us to each other. We have all ached with love, loss, joy, and despair. And we know what it is to languish too. And to get some kind of reprieve. Stop and give thanks for all of it because it is in that metaphoric tissue that we find empathy, hope, forgiveness, and love. Not simply for each other, but for ourselves. The hungry, the sick, the angry, the embattled. For yourself and others. Pray for compassion too.
Which is, in fact, wisdom in the profoundest sense. Mostly the courage to be yourself. Because that is where strength comes from. Remind yourself that humility is not passivity, tears are not weakness, stillness is not laziness, and aging is not death. To let air fill your chest.
To let yourself feel small and big at the same time. Let your mind rest so that you can listen to the world around you and to the beating of your own heart. Thursday, July 12, What I did in the Summer of I glance over at the crashing waves, wishing we were done with the tent nonsense and already burying our toes in wet sand. Our two sons sit on a log staring at Daddy who attempts to connect two poles over his head. Then the others will pop into place. The one that holds up the roof. We both throw a glance to the boys who look back at us blankly.
Spence, the seven-year-old shrugs. He looks down the road and mumbles something. The boys and I look around a couple of trees and find the pole pretty quickly. The boys and I grab our buckets and shovels and head out to the beach. A month later, the bones of the tent are laid out in our backyard. Murph lets out a scream of frustration.
Apparently, Spence took one of the tent pegs he was using as a rocket ship. All my attention must be on the tent. But he persists, as all spouses do, with the hope that one day his mate will wake up and decide to change her most annoying trait.
In my case, the trait has no name -- I shut down when I look at a set of instructions. I start to hyperventilate when a cashier at the drug store hands me a rewards card application to fill-out.
I perceive instructions to be a test I have failed long before I put pen to paper or fingers to the keypad. The result of this phobia is that I cannot assemble anything, cook anything, or apply for anything by looking at instructions. I need to be told and shown how to do it two, maybe three, times. It takes an hour for Pat to take me through all the steps. It takes another fifteen minutes for him to repeat the steps a couple more times. After I am confident that I understand the tent, we all high five each other and stand back to look at it.
Just strap it on like the picture on the front of the tent bag. Spence and Murph half-heartedly attempted to fulfill their peg job, but gave up when the ground proved too hard for their lackadaisical pounding. The point is that I assembled something. From an intimidated non-assembler, this is a seminal moment.
I look into their eyes for recognition of this fact. I look at the picture on the tent bag. The rain cover is diaper shaped with stretchy straps on each corner. I slide the rain-cover over the top and stretch one strap down to a key at the bottom of the tent. I turn it around, and make another attempt. I stifle an invective. How could Pat have thought that this part was so simple? By this time, the other mothers have moved luggage into their tents and poured wine into jars, brought to serve as glasses.
I hand them to her. The sisterhood gathers around with their jars to collaborate as the kids zip through the other tents. Twenty minutes of a collective attempt bears fruit when I notice that the logo of the tentmaker is shown on the front of the tent in the picture. Cathy finds fabric loops half way down the sides of the tent, Paula moves a tent pole in making the roof area smaller, and Mo stands back to direct the whole enterprise.
That evening, as the campfire casts shadows on our tents, we tell stories and roast marshmallows. I glance over at my tent and congratulate myself for resisting my initial impulse to throw up my hands and walk away from it.
I have given these jobs over to Pat through the years because of our differing skill sets and also out of laziness. But in doing so, I realize that I have robbed myself of the sweet satisfaction of succeeding against my own odds. At the end of the last post, I was savoring a moment of clarity about how very little we truly need Unfortunately, the boys have not pondered this basic truth as I have. And after repeating that mad dash to the fence a few more times, they are restless. Just as I start rifling through my mind for some organized game I can pull together, Pat appears with tickets for the booths.
Earlier, we had decided that the tickets would serve as party favors. Spence and Murphy clap their hands, eyes wide with anticipation. Were they were expecting the real Seabiscuit? Or perhaps they have become jaded Hollywood kids already. Last year, the dog who played Marmaduke visited their school and they all got their pictures taken with him.
Meeting animal actors, and even human ones, who portrayed heroes, was routine for them. Perhaps they had grown wary, suspicious. When they visited the doctor, they worried. I just play one on TV. They were growing up in a fake world. Spencer, however, is still eager. To say that he has a rich imagination is to understate it. He has lived out many lives and roamed as many fictional lands in his mind. So meeting the horse that portrayed his all time favorite steed in the movie is good enough for him.
Small events like these are seeds. Out of them grow hours of play. Next week I might look out our window to see him racing around the courtyard, hearing the thunder of hooves behind him as he storms across the finish line. Pat closes up the cooler and leads the boys across the field as I trail, counting heads. We find the smallish horse, pawing the ground in a small paddock. That has to sting. And we are the only fans there.
Small hands jut forward and he doles out slices of the apple. Spencer presses his forehead to a slat of the gate to get a closer look. This horse is not you. Possibly this is enough. I will send it to them as a memento of the party. They can place it next to the one of them with the canine actor who played Marmaduke. Pat tosses the apple core into the paddock and rallies the troops. We are on the move again. Pat shouts back that he has the rest. Just as much as he expects to be loved, he expects the universe to be benign.
To support rather than squash. To lift up, rather than cast aside. To deliver the lost child, rather than swallow him altogether. As charming as this worldview is, it requires me to be that much more vigilant. I must be the sentry, always anticipating danger so that it does not overtake us. Start your free trial. Find showtimes, watch trailers, browse photos, track your Watchlist and rate your favorite movies and TV shows on your phone or tablet! Keep track of everything you watch; tell your friends. Full Cast and Crew. Alabama-born Eugene Walter lived a magical life, reportedly running away from home at age three, living in the back room of a bookshop at ten, painting coffins in rural Mississippi while in Katherine Clark , Eugene Walter.
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