Manual GODS LECTURE: ON THE WAY THINGS ARE AND HOW MAN SCREWED IT UP

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God's Lecture and millions of other books are available for Amazon Kindle. God's Lecture: On The Way Things Are And How Man Screwed It Up 0th Edition. God is pissed. In the beginning, God created heaven, earth, and all the animals. They were part of a grand and perfect design. It worked well, and God was.

Learn more about Amazon Prime. Get fast, free shipping with Amazon Prime. Get to Know Us. English Choose a language for shopping. Explore the Home Gift Guide. Amazon Music Stream millions of songs. Thinking of those people in Oklahoma today and sending love. Thank you for sharing your moving story Connie. I also think that having positive beliefs about ourselves and the world is critical to not seeing oneself as a victim. And even though it can be very hard to maintain this in moments of intense grief — when your baseline is that you basically see the world as good place and yourself as a strong person, it does help to reduce the bitterness and sense of unfairness we might otherwise feel.

Connie, thank YOU for sharing with us so bravely, and so openly today. Your experience is so far beyond what most of us can imagine. With so much love and gratitude for your strength and generosity. Connie, I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to know what you have gone through with the loss of a child. What you have shared is so beautiful in its simplicity — recognizing the transformational shift that surrendering to a higher power can provide, making a list of tasks and noticing small miracles. Thank you for sharing.

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Which brings us to Punk. My comment is wordy!. A week later, our very tough London promoter went down to Oxford with a bunch of guys, found them, and divine retribution was delivered. If you find one, follow him, or her. I got a great job, met my husband, and I now have a wonderful home and daughter.

I know loss can cause deep inner pain that feels like your guts have been ripped out, and each day seems impossible after the gaping hole in your life. When I lost my soul mate, who happened to be in the form of a magnificent collie-cross dog, I thought I was going to suffocate from the pain in my throat that I felt every day. I was so angry and disorientated. She was my best friend, my child, my family. So I felt so alone in my grief. I have another beautiful dog and many other furry children, but Chloe was something special. I still believe she was an angel sent to help me through a difficult time in my life.

Those very special years I had with her were a gift, a true blessing. And the love and relationship I experienced with her is hard to come by. There was one thing that stands out for me in my grieving process that truly helped me move forward and get past the worst, and that was practicing gratitude everyday, as often as possible. And see from your post, you did the same. Even the smallest amount of gratitude goes a long way: If you truly embrace the moment, and give thanks for the opportunity to experience it, your spirit just lifts effortlessly.

Thank you for your bravery. Thank you for sharing Connie and Lisa!! While I have not had to deal with a loss of someone that close, I have used those techniques to handle other difficult life situations. And the crying and releasing has been crucial for me as well!! The shower is my favorite place too! This culture undervalues the benefit of releasing our grief. Thank God for showers, right? I recently lost my mother and have had several bouts of depression dealing with putting my life, business and self together.

Just thinking about creating and manifesting my dreams will still cause fits of crying and overwhelming sadness. My mother was my rock and my right hand in building my vision and self esteem when things got rough. Your story and this video have reminded me —all over gain— to BE EASY with myself and embrace each moment one day at a time. Ayana, one more idea I just remembered when reading your post. I had two small children so had little time for myself then, but I did one small thing — a massage, a walk with a friend, manicure — whatever I could swing.

A theater colleague asked me to audition for a play they were producing, someone else asked if I would consider hosting a cable tv show. It was almost weird how these opportunities showed up that actually sounded fun to me. And, at that time, I was also astounded that anything could actually be fun. So, try it Ayana, maybe it will work for you. Create little pockets of Joy every week and see what happens. Helping people get over fear and get unstuck is SO much fun for me, which sounds wonky, I suppose.

But watching people recognize that they have all the awesomeness they need to get going already inside themselves. In fact, my whole summer program is focused on helping people get back to what matters most and building a Noble Empire on their own terms. I have a friend that tells me that every loss bears a gift.

Usually that gift is found inside ourselves. Even Vanessa said that she recognized they were moving apart. I have realized that every time I feel shattered, lost or depressed I do one of two things that really help me get grounded and feeling grateful and alive.

When I do one of these two or either I usually feel really happy and makes me realize the beauty of life and how grateful I am to be experiencing all that I am, and then the letting go usually proceeds. But when I was doing a session with a client yesterday who had an amazing breakthrough, I was totally focused on her and felt really good to be of service.

I have expressed this before but my life was over in Vanessa everything happens for a reason. Embrace the pain; use it to move forward, to never want to be here again. One thing I do believe have no regrets… say sorry or goodbye…. Believe in yourself, be present and go for it you will be amazed at what you can do. Marie, Your authenticity is actually SO fun. You wonderfully do not pretend to be some version of perfect and just show us the truth behind the scenes…which of course makes ME feel like i can do it too.

You have a bit of magic in you girl and i thank you for sharing it. Last year I went through severe depression and gave up on just about everything because I was bullied, I soon got over it after reading your book, Marie! I know it sounds cliche but it really helped I then found you online and watched all your videos in like 2 days flat. Everything happens for a reason. Here this is something by an unknown author that I came across and would like to share it with you I believed it was unreal. I am compelled to finish this poem: I stood in my power, Battered, yet strong.

Hi Faye, I am glad that you were compelled to finish the poem and not let it end with such gloom and doom. Here is another possible ending as your written words inspired me. Surrendered my fighting, I opened my heart Found God waiting with a fresh new start Grace being sufficient I now have hope Praise God, halleujah, no longer contemplating suicide to cope.

Being free to live again is my decision. Mind revived, pure and right Victory is mine and not only for the night! What a great topic…as we get older we are faced with more and more of these situations. So, it pays to learn how to cope! For me, I struggle with how to reconcile being so happy to have him back at the expense of his loss. So, I try not to dwell on that but instead be grateful for how happy he makes me and the life we share together. I agree with you completely. While I may not be able to fully comprehend that intelligence in a given moment, it allows me to shift into a space of grace and trust.

Your content is amazing, real and comes from the heart. So yes, it helps! And you know what each time I do that — which is not that often, it is amazing how much help comes out of the woodwork and support from all these people who want to be there for me. I totally agree with being completely open and honest with people in your life about what is going on, and along with that, really being up front with them that all you want from them is just someone to listen. I experienced this last year after the death of my mom in March I was at true peace with her death, but no one around me understood that.

Then, to top it off, I began to go through an intense self-discovery process. The more I tried to talk about stuff, the more awkward it got. Unfortunately, since I work in a church office, these were coworkers and fellow churchgoers that I see often, and several months of the silent treatment gets really awkward when all you want to do is share your process with those who you thought would support you. Anyway, once I told my pastor all of this, he himself was actually skeptical about my ideas, which really hurt, but after a few days, he really turned around and is now supportive of me and is encouraging others to be as well.

The biggest morals of the story of my last year have been these: As everyone is saying here, the greatest losses, even the loss of a family member or more than one , can teach you things about yourself you may not have been open to learning previously. When you feel that you have practically no other support system, you learn what an amazing support system you can be to yourself. Talking to someone has been essential for me—especially in the face of the added shame I felt in keeping silent about losing my former support system, since I still had to see them so often.

If you have one person that will listen, that is amazing, but more than one, if possible, is healthier. They need not understand—they just need to exist in your space and witness your process, and communicate that they are there for you. Listening is indeed enough! That will mean the world to them. So to everyone whose life is falling apart—hang in there and stay open to receiving and growing—like Marie says, your greatest lessons may truly be just around the corner. I hope your feeling better pretty lady. Great video this morning, I really needed the pick me up.

How did you get to be such a smart young lady? You bring things back to Earth, good job, I am going to check out more of your blog. I am a cancer survivor! Meditation, meditation and meditation. I am experiencing this right now- Its good to know I am not alone. Dealing with grief and loss, meditation has repeatedly come up for me and even a need to detach from social media which I use to detach from pain has surfaced. Thank you for this reminder to follow the spirit and take care of my needs. Love the focusing on the moment of now — anxiety about the future sometimes rules my brain, so thanks for the reminder.

The Big U is always at work helping me out. Thanks for your video. This was so helpful! That jumped out at me. I encourage my clients to literally make a little to-do list and only plug away at one thing at a time. If you give things in your life positive energies, positive things will happen to you. I really believe that. Start with the basics, only. Also just as important, feelings!!! Be in the moment!

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When my clients are down in the dumps and in a never-ending pitty party, I ask them if they have food in their fridge. I love that, Heidi! I have also found that interrupting with something completely unexpected helps during arguments, for instance. As others have said here, surrounding myself with people I love and who love me has been key. When my dad passed away about 5 years ago, I was shattered… completely and totally. My mom was around for a few weeks afterward they had been divorced for over 30 years but always on good terms, but then she went back to her home in Italy I live in the U.

Please come back and stay with me. But I asked anyway. But, unfortunately my mom was acting not according to what I hope for. Almost all the time, I keep blaming myself why did I act like that, why did I have to make that step, every second is so painful to me. I felt similar to Vanessa, and thought that life was giving me a series of strikeouts. My favorite suggestion was just to go out with friends or and do something, no matter how tired or unmotivated i felt. I remember going through just about all of those steps when the most devastating thing happened to me — my perfectly healthy 7 week old daughter died.

Yes, I was that mom walking around crying all the time without even realizing it. Everyone was coming at me with advice about how the experience would build my character and that all things happen for a reason. I hated those people! I was a three weeks from starting grad school and my first teaching assignment, so threw myself into work and school.

When I did reflect on the situation, I was happy that I was able to be a mom. I realized that I did an OK job as a mom. That was super important because I thought all my life that I would be an awful mom. All of a sudden, a horrible situation started to give me joy. Everyday I focused on what I had to do for that day. Everyday it got a bit easier to cope with the pain and let more joy in my mind.

Fast forward 19 years later wow — 19 years I still think about my daughter, and I feel so blessed she was part of my life. I have two wonderful children with me now, and everyday I thank God for them! Many people tell me I am the happiest person they know. I know I could be devastated, pissed off, and cruel. One more closing cliche that helps me with perspective: That is why it is called the present. I cannot imagine anything more devastating than the loss of a child.

Your story perfectly shows how strong we humans really are. Africa — thank you for sharing your incredible story! I completely agree that timing is everything. Hi Marie — thanks so much for this — I really needed to hear this today. I have worked on myself so so much but feel like I still have such a long way to go in terms of really living in my own skin and in my own life. Otoh, when I allow, things seem so magical and life seems so easy, but I still find that state hard to sustain all the time.

I keep telling myself to have faith , that this has happened for a reason, which even though I cannot see right now, will come when I am ready to receive it. My biggest hurdle to overcome is my own perfectionism and the pressure I put on myself to be better at all of life, all at once.

But I am working at it the best I can, one day at a time, trying to lose the victim mode and shift into who I can really be minus all the stories that I have created in my mind about who I am. I understand what you mean when you say in one way you see how it could be so easy to move forward but its hard not to be pulled back into it all. Congrats for doing keeping your sights on the highest for yourself- that can make a world of difference. I like stillness in nature. I had been struggling with going to school for others and not myself, single parenthood, financial issues and family non-support…I now, know that I am in the wrong place in my life and need to just be for me, and not for others!

I am a one year cancer thriver I am not just surviving cancer…I am kicking its ass. BUT the kicker is I have also felt extreme moments of happiness, love, friendship and inspiration. I know cancer is the extreme, but it is a great example of how strong we humans really are. I love to write so I dusted off a beautiful story I had written years ago and pushed to finish it now I am working on book 2. I love to see people smile so even on my worst of days I greet people with a smile they almost always smile back. But I do believe that you can choose to find an empowering lesson in everything you experience.

As long I am learning, I am growing. As long as I am growing, I am actively living.

And actively living is pretty damn special to me! I can stop and take a little time out whenever I like. I just allow myself to have my little moment, and then get on with it. And yes, I am going through the experience of feeling completely shattered as we speak! Over the past year, I lost my best friend and tennis partner to pancreatic cancer while simultaneously going through a very painful ending to my marriage of 18 years. I have managed to pull through this by taking things one day at a time and staying present to the pain, knowing it is ultimately for my highest good. My three children are transitioning well; I am closing on a new house tomorrow; and my husband and I have reached a point where we have been able to release all of our anger and resentment towards one another and treat each other kindly and lovingly.

Thanks for posting about this important topic. Over the counter meds just suppress your symptoms.. Would love to educate you more about essential oils if you feel inclined to learn more! Email me or check them out for yourself at http: I have gotten through some pretty tough things in my life with these very same principles. A couple of years ago I was starting over at age 50 after closing down my business. Things were going pretty good until I was diagnosed with cancer. I realized that if I was going to get through that I was going to have to accept help from other people.

I have always had a hard time doing that. The changes have been astounding! My husband was diagnosed with a rare cancer when my daughter was an infant. For four years he was brave, never complaining through extreme pain. He took it a day at a time. He felt my life is great with a loving, supportive wife, daughter, family, friends and great job and I have cancer.

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He died, then my Dad. Other trauma as well has come to our life. I get up each day and see my young child who needs me. I stay strong as she needs me. I appreciate little things deeply now. Exercise and eating healthy are essential to me getting through the day with manageable grief.

Remembering I am brave and better things will come my way. It has made me stronger. Wow Mary thank you for sharing your story of bravery. Good for you for taking life one day at a time and doing the very best you can with that day. Your daughter is very blessed to have you as her mother. Cheers to you for seeing that your child has become more empathetic from her experience.

I also applaud you for recognizing that she is watching you and learning from you. You are a great mom! Yes positive conditioning works. You must feed your mind daily with motivation or inspiration to stay on top of life. For instance, just a few short months ago I got a really scary diagnosis of MS. And I let it all out. I cried so hard I thought my eyes were going to fall out of my heard. And my poor husband just sat with me and rubbed my back not knowing what to say.

But you know how long that lasted? In total since the day of diagnosis — 4 days. A sun total of 4 days I have spent feeling sorry for myself or crying. And I determine to achieve health and vitality. Yes it matters what you put into your mind. Great for you Michelle, I am on your side achieving health and vitality. You are not on your own! The four points you mention here are SO important!

It really does boil down to these points. I would also add:. Anything that helps will do. Thanks again for the video, Marie! As always, you are so entertaining and funny, even with a cold! For me, it was taking a sip of water. Every time I felt that knot, I did something I could control.

I made a decision to not think about it, take a sip of water, and repeat. I drank A LOT of water for a while.

All kinds of job opportunities passed by, but none with the social support we needed. Two years ago a job opportunity presented itself that would be on a farm just outside of town. Can you believe we are finally getting the contract at the end of this week? The passed 2 years have been killing me cause I felt there was no movement.

The not being able to take a step. All of our own choice ofcourse. I think I let go of a lot of good for me, like eating healthy, exercising etc. A month a go I started running and I am very eager to get on a healthy diet again. If you have any recommendations online that would be so helpfull. Living in the present is the only way. It helps me to concentrate on my breathing is-ness and feel any uncomfortableness in my body that will lead to what is emotionally bothering me.

Oh I have so been there. In August , I lost my job, my boyfriend of 3 years, and my home, all within 2 weeks. I was 30 years old and was completely devastated. Looking back, it was the BEST thing that ever happened to me. I got a great job, met my husband, and I now have a wonderful home and daughter. But it was hard to see what could be in the midst of the pain. And the healing took time. I got an apartment with my sister and a new job within a month, but finding love again took 3 years and lots of good and bad dates! Give yourself the time and space to heal.

Try to use that time to discover who you are now and what you want out of life. I invested in myself. I lost 30 pounds, bought new clothes, traveled whenever I could either with a girlfriend or by myself. I worked on my career which paid off handsomely. When I finally met my husband, I was making 6 figures, running my department, and traveling the world.

I had found my confidence and new what and who I was looking for. Shattered and lost in the background of my mind for 2 years…I am overly empathetic to my incredibly negative best friend going through Stage 4 bile duct cancer. As of Friday — all chemo is done with no further medical alternatives, and he basically refuses to allow my mind over medicine ideas I had the new book delivered to him. I have done all I can, and lost myself in the process. I have allowed his although good fight — negativity and fear to permeate my soul — and that needs to stop now.

Marie is like a super-tonic. I was diagnosed with stage II breast cancer 21 months ago. So I get what your friend is feeling.

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Nothing is worse than thinking you are going to die…except knowing you are going to die. Let him know how much you love him. Let him know how painful it has been watching him suffer. Let him know that you wish with your whole heart and soul that he would get better. Blast him with positive memories. Send a funny movie with your letter and let him know you want him to experience joy and happiness…even in his darkest hours.

Then my darling, start the process of protecting yourself. Only give him the time you can afford without damaging yourself. Maybe 1 hour per week as an example and use that time to shower him with love. He will either choose to accept your positivity.

And remember, people in pain lash out. So he could get down right nasty — hence the letter so he has a physical reminder of what the two of you share. It looks like you are realizing that you cannot control his thoughts and feelings as much as you want too. You can only control your own. I remember when I lost my marketing job in The best decision I made after being let go was probably to take that advice.

I did take some time to figure things out. I really wanted to think about what my next step should be, given I had been very unhappy in my previous job. Also, and I swear I mean no promotion with this, I launched my personal development blog, where I help and encourage women and girls to love and accept themselves. This blog has been one of the greatest joys of my life — and I would have never launched it had I not lost my job in So often, we want life to be easy, to only be filled with good things. But being tested in life is so critically important — not only do these tests help us grow, but they help us become stronger, more empathetic people.

Much is debated about what makes for a happy life. Being able to view your unfairnesses or adversities as lessons rather than injustices is a critical tool for a more joyous life. U are a sum it up girl! I love your enthusiasm and ability to put it to us straight!!!! My walk through depression is what I call the angel that carried my pain. I didnt realize it at the time, but her lesson was a big slap in the face to wake up!!! What you think can consume and create your reality. In right out of college I got fired from my internship, my father very unexpectedly passed away, my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me and my mom got diagnosed with cancer.

All within 9 months — seriously God??! But you know what I did? I cried when I needed to. I was a recluse until my friends literally dragged me out of the house for a night out and convinced me I needed others to help me get through this…and slowly, I began to stop having a self pity party and thought about the good things that came out of that year. My mom has recovered from her cancer and is now in remission. Sometimes a good cry is what the doctor ordered…and then pull yourself together!

Realize that others do care and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone is fighting some kind of battle…look at all the comments of strong people who waded through the yuck and have come out on the other side. The light is there, you just have to strive to see it! Hi Carol, sounds like you are in shock of having to let go of your best friend. I wish you strength in this hard phase and hope you can find ground under your feet soon again. Our wish to change the other is sometimes so strong because we wish to change something inside ourselves. Ive recently experienced something terrible in my personal life.

And it made me fall off track for a couple of days, but what made me come back was just listening to some self development tapes, motivational tapes and reminding myself to be grateful for what i have in my life and that everything happens for a reason. Also what helps for me is to start loving myself again, doing things that make me feel good. I now feel like a different person because of this incident, even though it was painful and unfortunate I still am grateful it happened because I learned such a big lesson from it. Well first, a man commenting on mainly a womanly blog…..

Your doing something right! Woman can do the same! Keep up the hard work ladies!!!!!!!! The one thing a man hates hates hates is a woman with little to no confidence! Well right around the time I was changing career I was going through a divorce, broke, no place to go since my entire family lives in Haiti. How did I get through it? I looked to God and did nothing except praying for a while then I realized I have to work, I have a child, I have to take care of myself to give my child an amazing mom.

I read a quote from Zig Ziglar that changed everything. It encouraged me to be of service to others which will help to stop thinking about my problems. I started teaching Zumba, Piloxing, and other group fitness classes. Then teaching and helping became exciting because I felt after each class or each session that I helped someone get what they wanteded at that moment.

I then signed up for B-School and continue to be of service. Today I forgave all the people who hurt me in the process including myself because the baggages were keeping me from getting more blessings and living my true purpose. It took me too much energy to be sad and it was literally starting to make me sick. So I chose to take it one day at a time, stop surviving and live the life I want to. I did many things you are suggesting here: I also made an intention focused on how I wanted to feel as opposed to what I wanted to have.

I worked with that intention daily and it worked wonders! Sometimes, even a little too much that being blue becomes an understatement. Again, there will always be something. Although this question was about a breakup I can apply it to what is happening in my life at the moment. I started my own business last year and did pretty well in the first year. This year business has slowed down. But things are still going slow. Yesterday I thought about my life three years ago and today. Three years ago I was driving around in a pimped-out Lexus RX Hybrid wearing designer clothes and accessories purchased from a personal shopper at Nordstrom and making six figures.

My impact on the world is greater than it ever has been. Again, thank you Marie!! Find the beauty that surrounds you. Love yourself, be kind to your self, love others, get lots of rest, eat right, exercise by a lake or beautiful surroundings. Surround yourself with friends that are positive and focus on three top goal to achieve for yourself even if these are personal, career, or otherwise. Eventually, you will find yourself empowered to make better decisions and you will be glad that relationship ended.

Turn off your negative filters and listen to positive tapes.. This is so timely. After a huge disagreement last night with my best friend of 25 years I felt somewhat attacked from left field. I have hit f5 picking up from here and embracing the changes that come with growth. Your 3 is what really got me through my devastating heartbreak.

When I had had two failed pregnancies, one at 19 weeks and one at 24 weeks I easily fell into a hole of pain and depression. Of course, much of it was natural grieving but, to eventually pull out, I literally had live in the micro-moment. Just like you said, I had to ask myself: So I focused on breathing. Then on brushing my teeth.

Then on drinking water — and so on. I can totally relate to what Vanessa is going through. Using what I learned from B-School last summer I was excited to introduce my first virtual program. The same day it was to launch, my year marriage ended. After being on my unplanned! Now a single mom, I must turn what was really more of a hobby into a business that will support my two boys and me. While hearing a thousand times before, it really resonated during this time of my life — key in getting me through.

If surrounding yourself with people helps you, by all means do it. But sometimes, when I feel lost, I need a solo retreat. I like to take time to myself, to listen to my heart, swim in the sea, read, do yoga, cry, meditate whatever makes me feel good. Just make sure you control negative self-talk and look at the solitary time as that of healing and not isolation. Maria, I love watching you. But the word ghetto has lost its meaning. My mom is an Italian Jew who lived in the ghetto. That is the place that they jews had been forced to live. The Ghetto was the place that the jews lived and would be locked in at night.

It is now referred to as a place of the same people. I really wish that the word would not be used so casually. I know that the younger generation thinks it is fab and cool. But to others it is an insult and offensive when it is used this way. Great vid Marie, and thank you for shooting this video despite all the troubles in your way! And what do you need in order to fix something?

And how am I working things out? And THAT is worth all the angst that happened beforehand. Great message today Marie!!! Is-ness and optional suffering are within our control. Thx for such a powerful reminder!!! I felt this way after both of my miscarriages but specifically my first one. I felt like a failure and after overcoming postpartum depression after my son was born to get pregnant and lose the baby seemed like punishment for me.

I went back to the things that worked when I was dealing with the postpartum, I ran…. Aside from that if I felt like I just wanted to cry, I did. I let myself feel the pain for a little bit and then forced myself to do something else, to focus on something else. Especially the first week after when I was dealing with the physical issues, I had to let myself heal both physically and emotionally and sometimes to do that you need to feel the hurt.

In the end it was better and I refocused on how grateful I was that my son is now 4 and healthy and happy. In reading these comments, I am struck by the magnitude of the losses and challenges endured as well as the power, bravery and strength of the writers. We chose grief as our topic for that day to honor the sadness everyone was feeling. The experience of loss and grief is what I would imagine being dropped out of a plane into the middle of a seemingly endless stormy sea, at midnight, with only a very flimsy flotation device would feel like. We feel the cold, the isolation, the hopelessness of it all and then we withdraw back into disbelief or denial.

Every emotion, any emotion, one can feel is normal at this point: Out there bobbing in the middle of the ocean, we might curse life, God, the people we feel let us down; we often curse ourselves too. The days languishing in the water seem endless and we wish and hope and pray that someone will come along and pluck us out of the water.

We want to be saved. People come and some are willing to swim beside us, but no one can pull us out of the water. The nights are harrowing and long. One day, out of nowhere land will appear on the horizon and the concrete realization that it exists will take hold. Then, just as the land appears to be closer the sea of our pain sweeps us under, pulling us back into its vastness.

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This is what processing grief feels like. A glimmer of good will come and our feelings of loss and sadness will overcome it and pull us under. Hi Marie Thank you for this video i really needed it today!!! PS it feels good writing about it …. In the interim i was introduced to you and several other life coaches you are my fav. I remember the exact moment when I realized why my ex broke up with me.

I was walking down a hallway at work smiling for no reason. I had given up shyness, embraced my weird parts, and was a lot more open to new experiences in life. I needed to become THIS person and it never would have happened with that guy. He was nice, but when I embraced life fully the universe sent me the one who really stirs my soul.

I know exactly how you feel. I was recently broken up with after a 3 year relationship that I thought would end in marriage. It was really hard at first. However, once I got past the initial crippling fear of being alone again I realized that I had been missing out on the life I wanted and needed by staying together. He too was a nice person and I could have made do with him as a life partner. But he was not the person that would compliment my life at its fullest potential.

I had two times in my life that really shattered me. Both turned into incredible leaps towards the future. Without wanting to make this sound too gloomy, I felt like I wanted to share it. I hope it makes you see the positive brought about by some negative experiences. First one was while I was working for the radio. A wild time in my teenage years. I had three close friends die during that time under completely unforeseen incidents. I was absolutely crushed and not only did I feel the pain, I also went into extended suffering and ended up with self-inflicted disease that almost made me have to go to hospital I was in such bad shape.

Completely changed my life around. The second time was only recently. My sister is fighting a losing battle with cancer and on top of it I lost my apartment which had become my home after I left my old life behind. Once again the rug was pulled out from under my feet.

The problems do not vanish but the way to deal with them has forever changed for me.

This after a perfectly happy or so I thought relationship. Talk about being blindsided! Your video gave some important reminders. Ask it questions…like, when and where have I felt this before? What action, or non-action does it inspire? What meaning do I give it? The trick is to get to know the pain and what it means…quite often it is just a trigger from a past pain that feels just like this one! Sometimes it takes days, or weeks, or months. But this focus is a pathway to healing. Say, an hour…or a day…or two days. Then, make a commitment with yourself to get OUT of the feeling and feel something good.

Take yourself out, buy a silly hat, take a bubble bath, dance naked in your living room…whatever it takes to make yourself laugh again. More suggestions…these seem to be working for me… Begin to visualize what you want for your future. You had some idea before the traumatic event, so expand upon that and begin to visualize your new life, adding to it what you need to create success. Focus on self care. If eating is difficult, set an alarm and eat a small amount of healthy food ever few hours. If eating is what you do to alleviate stress, do the same…small amounts of healthy foods every hours will help keep your physical body functioning well while your mind and heart work things out.

Be silent and listen to your inner voice. Find the place where you can be safely alone in the quiet of your own soul. In nature is a great place. Or in your favorite chair. Or in a park. Listen to what messages you are giving yourself. Are they in your favor? What messages would you WANT to hear? What messages would move you to a better place in life? And above all, remember that you are an amazing person to love! Give yourself all the love and acceptance that you have been missing. When you love YOU, you will draw more love into your life than you can imagine…and you will be able to love others with a greater strength, power and understanding than you knew you had.

I live today…focusing on the is-ness. And I thank you for this video and my opportunity to think through my own passage. Blessings to all those who need a little umph to get back in the saddle. We can do it! In my experience, what has been really helpful for me and my clients during moments of intense grief, whether it be from an old trauma or a new pain, is the ability to feel the pain deeply…and then set an intention to allow it to transform into what we need, like love, or peace.

To be brave enough to allow yourself to completely feel pain is a big step. This is essential to healing. The next step is to transform your pain and allow it to leave. Thank you so much, Marie! This was incredibly timely and helpful for me. I am in heartbreak, but just needed a little reminder to not make more drama out of it and just be in this moment. Which is good because I have a new campaign to launch today! So thanks so much, again! Hope you feel better. I once woke in a strange place and had no feeling below my chest.

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Discovered I had been in a coma for two and a half months. Strategies you offered in the video Marie were used. Love, support, and a lot of hard work is what brought me out of that funk. The thing is- everybody has do go through tough times in life. Nature was especially in those days very helpful for me, after a walk I always felt a little bit better….

I moved to a tiny town last year to be near my parents after my mom was diagnosed with cancer. No jobs in my field, so my yarn business became my fulltime job and it took off, major big time. And less than two weeks after doing so, Mom died. Mom and I were super super close: So I really felt the immense and nearly unbearable pain on personal and business levels.

My business took a huge hit and I nearly closed up shop. Have someone s you can talk with. We talk every day, not just about how much we miss Mom or sharing memories. That has been a real blessing, for both of us. Where do I want to go from here? I also believe that everything happens for a reason, and that even the absolutely worst things are opportunities if we keep our eyes open. After SO much soul searching and soul wringing do I just close down and move back to the big city to work fulltime? Not just by the seat of my pants: I miss Mom beyond belief and some days it just hits me.

You have to let yourself feel it. I try to embrace my pain when it hits, have that good cry, and when that wave is over, get back on track. This is a such a great topic, Marie, thank you. Brenda thanks so much for your comment. I recently lost my Mom but it was an unexpected and sudden passing.

It throws us off balance. I have searched deeper within my soul than I ever have and reached to my faith in ways that are so real. Hugs to you and to anyone that has experience loss and pain. Hugs right back to you! I can say I finally feel gratitude for my health experience of MS. I always have thought, how can I be happy and grateful for becoming immobile and disabled?

Well, This experience has forced me to slow down. If I was completely healthy, I would be busy running around, and completely in my head thinking of all of the things I need to do to raise my family 5 children effectively. Now, because I am sitting and still so much of my day, My choices are: I have had all the time I needed to be silent and be still Praying, meditating and being available for inspiration.

I have felt like I am being replaced, not able to do all of the things that I want to do.