REAL CURES FOR LONELINESS: GUIDE TO THRIVING ON YOUR OWN

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However, I also could have pushed myself into a more social situation instead of wallowing in self-pity. Make a list — make it now — of at least 10 ways you could meet someone today and work your way thorough it. Some are more anodyne than others but the point is to start! There are people who live their lives surrounded by people — their families, their partners and their friends and still feel lonely.

Check out these tips for fun and easy ways to meet people while travelling alone. And if all else fails, how about working your way through my list of: Have you ever felt lonely while you were travelling? How did you deal with it? Any other good conversation starters to add? Let me know in the comments below. If you found this article useful, you might want to sign-up to my newsletter …. Jo Fitzsimons is a freelance travel writer who has visited over 60 countries. I am on a solo trip in Barcelona right now and found this article when googling how to deal with the loneliness!

I needed to read this and love the comments people have left. I find the daytime to be fine as you see what you want when you want. But I have that lonely feeling in the evening it seems so many other readers share of seeing all the families and couples. That and being nervous about being in a strange area at night and not speaking the language. I do think I am trying to see too much and just plain exhaustion is making the loneliness worse!

Two days to go and determined not to be lonely! I agree, hearing from other travellers and their experiences can put some of your worries about loneliness to rest. I just want to be distracted from the constant dialogue for a minute cue Netflix binge. I mean, I guess it makes sense — going for basically a month without having more interaction than casual dialogue about the weather with the table next to you at breakfast.

Thanks for putting this out there. Hope the rest of your trip went better. And returning home with 10 extra pounds is all part of the pleasure of Italy! I have the time and means. I have no problem being alone during the day- you wonder about, you visit places, you see sights, you shop, everything is great. But the evenings are awful. I fill ashamed and embarrassed. I can hardly go to a bar talking with the bar tender? Hi Ashton, sorry for not replying sooner — I have been in China.

Have you checked out my post about eating out alone?

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That might help you. What other hobbies do you have? I can spend evenings reading, writing, playing games on my phone, doing yoga, having a soak in the hotel bath. Otherwise, get to a hostel — there are plenty of solo travellers there. Was wondering how on earth I could feel lonely visiting New Orleans for the first time but I just brought my last child to school and talked to my newly divorced x about our divorce and his new wedding plans. Thank you so much for being so honest about this topic.

I feel a lot better after reading your post. Hi Linda, I also find writing things down gives clarity. Hi Jo thank you for writing this great article. It was just what I was looking for, as I prepare my first solo travel this year. I will keep in mind all of your advice. Hi Archie, I hope you have an amazing adventure whether it includes highs or lows or most likely both.

Hi Omar, it does make sense and I have it every time. I should probably write about it. I find it helpful to try and do touristy things at home, which tends to get me over the worst of it e. I hope that helps. Experienced digital nomad having a night wandering Budapest alone and let my mind run away from the big picture. I am planning on a week-long trip solo to Paris in late November I enjoy my own company, but my last solo trip to Denver in I felt very lonely, I discovered something about my significant other that really hurt me a lot a week before my trip, I took the trip since it was already booked anyway.

Do you think because I was heartbroken I felt lonely? I want to say it was and I am super excited but anxious about traveling alone again. Hi Jose, it sounds like you were not in the best place emotionally on your last trip and travelling when your mind is occupied with upsetting things can absolutely have an impact on your trip IMO.

Paris is a great city with lots to keep you occupied. Just make sure you reach out to other travellers if you start to feel lonely. I hope you have a better trip this time round. I broke up with my girlfriend last year and have really struggled to get over her. I wish she could be here with me as she loves travelling too.

By that time I was heavily hooked into the hostel scene and had made travel friends I kept meeting up with as I travelled through South America. I actually planned my trip the way I did because I was nervous about being in South America on my own rather than worrying about being lonely but in hindsight I did myself the biggest favour. Prior to that, I did go on a one week holiday which was exactly the kind of trip I would have taken with my ex and I found that incredibly painful at the time as I kept torturing myself with thoughts of what we would be doing together.

Instead, I was doing those things alone. Focus on finding travel friends and you will fill some of that loneliness gap, I think. And, who knows… you might find someone special in the process. It was just so nice awful, awful word but it works for me right now to read your article, made things feel manageable and positive again! Also- not really addressed in your article directly- I went on a very vague sense of knowing I had to leave and search for something, but no idea what. You raise a couple of interesting points. Yes, it feels fun at the time but finding myself on my own in a strange location with low energy and what feels like a lifelong hangover definitely puts me on downer.

Thanks for taking the time to comment giving me some pause for thought.

I love this article and I can relate to your experience. I left the lawyering career even before it started and travelled a lot until I found the career that best suits me — work from anywhere, travel when you want, and work when you can. The entire experience made me write the book Know Your Value: How To Price Your Work. Anyhow, your tips will serve as my stronghold as I begin with my travel bucket list. Well done on the career change and book! Hope you are well! Hi Alana, sorry for the slow reply. I usually find that speaking to local people is a more engaging experience.

Start with the street food sellers — they usually have decent English and you have a ready-made topic in front of you. I hope the rest of your travels go well. Talk about good timing! The last two days I have been feeling very lonely. Today I walked around Brick Lane in London hearing the same thoughts you wrote about. I was so deep in to those mean messages I forgot all the techniques I have used to handle those suckers! Tonight while out celebrating the fifth month of solo travel I plugged in, lonely traveling solo and up you popped.

What a well written, wise, empathetic article. Though I love London I have seen how different it is in friendliness. Barcelona was much easier as have been the smaller towns. As I read your article I wanted to cry thinking how wonderful it is that you took the time to write such helpful, encouraging thoughts that I would need to hear and how it would lift my heart. I used to live and work in the city and have many friends there and still sometimes find myself feeling lost at sea. I found the change of town can be a decent enough alternative. I read your article and agree that in a big city it is very difficult to make genuine connections with people — I think people are more suspicious of each other and tired because of high rents and overwork.

I feel very displaced in the world. How do you overcome the feeling of being alone and completely rootless no matter where you go? I was thinking of joining an expat group like internations. Is that a good idea in your opinion? In fact, I probably need to email myself about this. Last year I settled down in city that is hundreds of miles away from my friends. I also use my knee injury as a good excuse. I definitely think a group like Internations is an excellent start. I also intend to go to some of those Meet Ups I ago earmarked as interesting.

I guess adding all of these to my to do list will also help me make things happen — having a go at weaving social commitments into your life might help? Do come back and let me know how you get on. Yes, there are a lot of comments here from people who have been lonely but the numbers are less than 0. What you wrote is true. This is not my first solo trip so dealing with it is a work in progress. I hope Rome got a lot better for you since you posted. Do message me if you want to chat.

This article was a life-saver! I came back to Mumbai a few days ago to continue studying tabla with my teacher, but I decided to stay somewhere new in a different part of the city this is my third time here. Read through this a few times, got some sleep, and feel much better.

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Embracing the alone time, practicing, and enjoying this special moment where I can just be me. Thank you so much for this article! Ahhh, the language barrier challenge.

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The easiest, is stick to English at first. Most people have a few words, which is a better exchange than none. Have a look at local Meetups on the meetup website. Language get togethers are usually informal and a great environment where there are likely to be other English speakers you can connect with. Do a search for hotels in your area on hostelword and look at the description to see if they have a bar. Make sure you pick a place that has lots of reviews as this indicates it will be a busy hostel and therefore bar.

If Paris does feel too intense, escape to Ile St Louis, one of the islands in the middle of the Seine. Often we can get solitude and loneliness confused. People think they will be lonely, and that is the problem—the expectation is also now a cultural assumption. By Jane Porter 6 minute Read. Living In A World Of Undercover Introverts Hesitant as people can be in embracing moments of quiet and seclusion, research has shown many of us are in fact predisposed to seek such environments.

Flickr user Leo Hidalgo. Solitude Feeds Our Relationships Building these moments into our daily lives is important. Flickr user Georgie Pauwels. Embrace The Space Often we can get solitude and loneliness confused. Design 4 retail trends that need to die in Co. Design This noise-canceling dog house is perfect for pups who hate thunder Innovation By Design Why so many brands on Instagram look the same. While observing children, teachers can focus on the following, which may suggest signs of loneliness: Does the child appear timid, anxious, unsure of himself or herself, or sad?

Does the child show a lack of interest in the surroundings? Does the child seem to be rejected by playmates? Does the child avoid other children by choice? Does the child appear to lack social skills that might prevent him or her from initiating or maintaining interactions? Does the child have the necessary social skills but is reluctant to use them? Is the child victimized by peers? Does the child's apparent loneliness seem to be a consistent pattern over time, or is it a more recent phenomenon? In addition, because loneliness cannot always be observed in children e.

They might ask children, "What does sad and lonely mean? When observing and assessing children, it is important to be sensitive to and aware of their developmental abilities and personal inclinations.

For example, it has been suggested that young children who play alone may be at increased risk for later problems, both socially and cognitively. Many preschool and kindergarten children, however, engage in nonsocial activities that are highly predictive of competence. Therefore, over time, teachers need to observe children? Although research in support of specific practices assisting lonely children in the classroom is weak, teachers might consider several approaches that may be adapted to individual children.

Children are rejected for many reasons, and teachers will need to assess the circumstances that seem to lead to the rejection. Is the child acting aggressively toward others? Does the child have difficulty entering ongoing play and adapting to the situation? Does the child have difficulty communicating needs and desires?

Once the problem is identified, teachers can assist the child in changing the situation.

The teacher can point out the effects of the child? Children who are neglected or withdrawn also report feelings of loneliness, although to a lesser extent than do aggressive-rejected children. Because these children often lack social skills, they have difficulty interacting with their peers. If children lack certain skills, the teacher can focus on giving feedback, suggestions, and ideas that the child can implement.

Children who possess adequate social skills but are reluctant to use them can be given opportunities for doing so by being paired with younger children. This experience gives the older child an opportunity to practice skills and boost self-confidence. Children who are victimized by others believe that school is an unsafe and threatening place and often express a dislike for school. These findings point to the importance of implementing immediate intervention strategies to reduce victimization.

Teachers can provide firm but supportive suggestions to the aggressor.

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