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Life is a bit like that. We can view it as a succession of choices.
Indeed, modern life in rich countries is a series of choices which would utterly have bewildered our forebears, who usually had precious little choice of the work they did, where they lived, or even what they thought. And like a game, but played out over a lifetime, the choices we make will be fateful and determine, in good measure, how we end up and how we feel about it. And the principle will tell us about choices, as about everything else, that most of reality doesn't matter, but a few things -- in this case choices -- matter a huge amount.
In other words, there is a very small number of choices that will determine the great majority of results. Rather arbitrarily, here is my "top eleven" -- I tried to cull it to ten, but couldn't -- of the most important choices we can make in our lifetimes, in ascending order of importance. But bear in mind that these choices, though only a tiny fraction of the choices we will make in our lives, are the ones most likely to determine how happy and useful we are:.
I wanted to start with something you wouldn't expect.
But I am not being frivolous. Six years ago my partner and I did what it turned out we had each wanted to do for a long time, but never had -- we welcomed a tiny little canine friend to our family.
Since then we have fallen in love again - with the dog, I hasten to add -- and she makes it clear she's in love with us too. Tocker is a beautiful brown Labrador, and I recommend that you choose one of the friendly and good-natured breeds, as no doubt at least 80 percent of dog affection comes from 20 percent of breeds. If we are a bit down, Tocker comes and says hello and stares with her liquid green-brown eyes straight into our eyes, and it cheers us up no end.
We also do a lot more walking. Specifically, get into the habit of saving a tenth of everything you earn.
Do it by direct debit, straight from your income, so you never see the money. This habit alone is likely to ensure that you will never be hard up, and it may help you get rich. It will certainly diminish your money worries -- and that is important for happiness and effectiveness. Give it personally -- to a real, specific individual, or to a small charity that you are personally involved with. There is a theory that the more money you give, the more you get; and though this is not a great reason to give money away, it does seem to work eerily often.
The real reason is that giving money helps other people, and it helps you too by making you feel good. All food is habit forming. You eat bad food -- you'll want to eat more. You eat good food -- even if you don't like so much to start with, you soon will -- at least for some of it. So eat more of that.
I adore garlic -- you have been warned -- onions, berries and cherries, certain fish, and most green vegetables. Experiment with food that is good for you -- it is well worth having a blood test and seeing a nutritionist -- until you find food you love and that loves you. It is easier to exercise each day for half an hour or more, than to try to do it three times a week. Do it at a fixed time so it becomes a habit. Don't let work interfere with it. If work might, do it first thing. Find some exercise you enjoy and stick to it -- walking, running but not on hard surfaces, especially if you are over 40 , cycling, and swimming are all excellent.
I'm so glad to have read this book. When you reach a fork in the road, how do we know the decisions are right? Please try again later. We can view it as a succession of choices. Although the study guide may not seem to fit well with the book - I found that they pair nicely together and I'm glad it isn't just a rewording of the same thing.
Exercise not only improves health immeasurably, but also clears the mind and makes you feel good. Not a whole book! But for at least half an hour be alone with a book.
There are so many books of so many different types that if you can't find a book you really want to read, you are not being serious. Make sure you have a small pile of real books or a few on your Kindle that you want to read. Take a book or Kindle everywhere you might be able to read for a few minutes. Without excitement, we are not fully alive. Some people are fortunate: But if you don't or even if you do , find excitement, again for at least half an hour, in some activity that really turns you on -- sport, sex, dancing, games, gambling, playing cards, anything at all that doesn't do you or someone else harm.
Modern life is often far too tame. Accept the risk and the consequences of taking it…both good and bad.
You will have learned a lot in the process, become braver, and will be glad you tried. If you do, you will forever cripple yourself. Let yourself fly, you were meant to soar. I am having trouble deciding whether to go to a boarding school or not my gut really tells me that l should be a day scholar but my brains are telling me to be a boarder. But my gut is persistently telling me to be a day scholar although my brains are screaming out that boarding is the right decision.
What should l do? Hi my passed wont get out of my head am trying to think whats the best thing to do how do you make things brighter happier from a passed spilite do I move on how the hell do I know if if ive ever meet anyone that gets me again. Your email address will not be published. Just type and press 'enter'. The first is this: The Dalai Lama once said: So start by being open to alternative outcomes. Avoid Over-thinking I think secondly, over-thinking is one to avoid when decision-making.
In my opinion, balance is key. Would this be a wise decision?
Editorial Reviews. About the Author. Lysa TerKeurst is the New York Times bestselling author Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions . Lysa Terkeurst does an amazing job guiding us women through a study all about in making decisions whether they are small day to day decisions or large life. The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands: Six Unglued Participant's Guide: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions . I felt I had a handle on saying "yes" or "no" to opportunities in my life and ministries. Lysa Terkeurst does an amazing job guiding us women through a study all.
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