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My mother was then working full-time and attending college classes at night. I think my dad was on the lam at the time, I believe for failing to pay child support, but also possibly for some assault committed in a bar fight or on behalf of some loan shark.

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I think sometimes that my grandparents just never figured out the modern world. Evangelicals are a very literal people. My grandmother is an incredibly dutiful and loving woman; I cannot imagine how difficult it must have been for her to watch her son fail over and over again to fulfill his patriarchal responsibilities.

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The community she left to work in a paper factory in Indiana—to make a better life for their children, no less—prized god and family above all else, and everyone had a job to do to keep it running. The boy was a toddler at the time, and my grandparents had already grown strongly attached to him.

His baby pictures remain all over the house to this day. Many bourgeois feminist social reformers have a lot in common with the clucking parishioners of my youth; they both believe that my childhood poverty was the fault of a failed patriarch.

There are many reasons why the model of paternal child support is a faulty one, especially when applied to poor or sick fathers. There is the punitive and inhumane cycle of inability to pay, imprisonment, loss of employment, and all over again. And of course, as with anything regarding the prison industrial complex, black men are disproportionately represented in this cycle. And then there is the secret that poor parents only speak of in abashed whispers: This private shame causes such pain and anxiety and sometimes eventually delirium that when these put-upon parents reach their limit, it appears downright rational to flee.

So sometimes they do.

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My father was a frustrating, sometimes dangerous person, but I have no anger for him. When she found out she was pregnant, she wanted a baby. Lots of people want babies, especially once they become pregnant. She did ask if my decision was about money—I had none—and I said I would still want the abortion if I won the lottery tomorrow. My mother would have to miss work for the support court hearings that she was obligated to attend. In place of that futile ordeal, she would have absolutely loved free, twenty-four-hour day care, or even a child allowance.

The child support system worked mainly to tie her to a selfish and mentally ill man for the full duration of my childhood. Half the time, he was too out of sorts even to hold down a job.

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Maybe if he had access to mental health care he would have been a better father. But some men are just hopeless, and my mother would have preferred to be free of her dependence on him—to relax, to live in a less decrepit apartment, to spend time with me, to socialize, to fucking sleep. And that was the end of that.

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After a few days and countless burned meals, my Papaw called her in sincere contrition, and there were changes. They left the Church of the Nazarene for what was, in all likelihood, an equally retrograde denomination I believe this one was Pentecostal. She got a separate bank account. He took her to Florida. When I say my grandparents adhered to a patriarchal religion, I mean a literal patriarchy—not an offensive TV ad, or some sports bar where you hear a sexist joke or two. Nonetheless, she knows the worth of her labor in the home and out.

Once every couple of years, she leaves him again—just for a few days—before he begs her to come back and meets at least some of her demands.

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He also funds more of her hobbies—mainly, flower beds, which he always considered a frivolous waste of good arable land that could be used for potatoes or sweet corn at the very least. They truly love each other. It seems to me that if you want to socially engineer a loving and responsible masculinity, men themselves must become thoroughly optional—meaning their participation in romantic partnership and or parenting would not be necessary to the financial security of either a woman or a family.

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There are those who fear this idea will lead to a rash of men like my dad, but I find this suspicion highly cynical. I think they need the same things women need to be good parents—time and money. A culture of involved fatherhood will follow from those two basic conditions.

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If you want to socially engineer a loving and responsible masculinity, men themselves must become thoroughly optional. Of course, co-parenting relationships will still involve pretty regular negotiations. The administrative division of labor will still exist after socialism and will still be decided within the home. And even when the economy makes way for the culture, you still always run the risk of ending up with a nogoodnik—however rare they may be in a just and subsequently more enlightened economy.

Sorry honey, some men are just duds. There is literally no other effective alternative solution to the culture-wide challenge of male parenting than socialism. I was always told never to take umbrage on behalf of parties not present, but the liberal feminists are always here to protect the rest of us from our men, and never from capitalism. Nonetheless, I cling to a vision of socialism that liberates women from sanctimonious cultural tirades and professional nagging. Full Cast and Crew. Our Favorite Trailers of the Week. Films I am waiting for.

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