Your freedom, spirituality and physicality does not depend on their resolution — it depends on your resolution between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway. Let go and completely give your pain, burden, and injury to God with the full faith, trust and confidence that He will handle it and do what is best and right taking everything in to consideration. If it is possible for you to go and make peace with that person, do so.
Understand that you do not have to resolve a single issue with somebody that has victimized you in order for God to heal you, so long as you have resolved that issue between you and God concerning them. Feeling you need confrontation and resolution to a harmful perpetrator binds you to the tragedy and victimization, which is not what God expects or wants from you. If you have something from your past and it is not possible for you to make right with the other person, you just need to make it right with God.
It is dealt with because God judges it by the integrity of your heart. If somebody is holding a sin against you, it is their problem, not yours. They have to get right with God just as you do. When you forgive others, you are not letting them off the hook, but you are giving them to God. Now you are off the hook. When you forgive someone, you have got to separate the person from their sin, just as God separated you from your sin in His heart when He saved you.
You continue to hate the sin the abuse, betrayal, hurt, harm and injustice , but you are commanded to love the person. Try to work into your heart separating the person from the deed. Just as we do not desire to be judged and measured based on a single event or phase of our life, so too try not to define someone by their interaction with you. Now for those who are truly evil and selfish, understand that you are collateral damage in a devilish and destructive life. Those people for sure need to be given to God! Christ commands us to love our enemies, bless those that curse you and pray for those who revile or abuse you.
How can I do that? We are instructed to love and bless them, or in other words to speak well of them. It is not enough to merely say that we forgive others; you must be careful not to curse them or speak evil of them even if you think they deserve it. But I may add, this can also be the time to say a quick prayer.
To work through the process of forgiveness and enjoy the peace and wholeness in health that you seek, you must do what God tells you to do, which is not only to forgive, but to go beyond that: Jesus challenges us to pray for them, bless them, speak well of them and love them. Because by doing so, you bless not only them, but yourself too! Your reward for your obedience in this area will be great, rich, strong, intense and abundant. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.
Hating those who hurt you is like drinking poison, and hoping that your enemy will die. Why spend your life angry at people who probably do not even know or care that you are angry? These people are going on enjoying their lives while you are thoroughly miserable. Release them, forgive them, let the offense go, let it drop. Have the same attitude that Jesus had toward His enemies. By doing this, you will experience wonderful freedom, peace and good health. Give it to God, who will show Himself strong as your Vindicator.
Remember, once you give it to God, it is not your job to monitor His response and keep track of how He is handling things. Let Go and Let God. Before you go to God to repent of the sin behind your disease, you need to forgive everybody who has ever hurt or wronged you. You may need to repent of your participation in the sin — even though you may have been the innocent victim of an abusive predator. God cannot forgive you until you have forgiven. I recommend that you do an exercise where you forgive everybody who has hurt or wronged you, whether living or dead.
Take a moment and ask God to reveal to you everyone you need to forgive. Release them and let them go. All the verbal abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, legal entanglements, control, rejection and betrayal you have suffered … let it all go. Say a prayer something like this: Look into the depths of my heart and reveal to me where there is hardness, un-forgiveness, bitterness and resentment or anything against anybody. Please bring their names to my heart right now by the power of Your Holy Spirit. I repent to You Father for sometimes repaying evil with evil and feeling justified by it.
I thought I was protecting myself when in fact I was behaving no different than the person that did evil to me. Father I repent for participating with the sin of bitterness and un-forgiveness. I am trusting you to make my forgiveness heartfelt — to forgive completely just like You do, without looking back. Please take the hardness of my heart and soften it with Your love. I pray that Your forgiveness will flow through me.
Thank You for the work that You are doing in my heart right now. Most of us also have the need to forgive ourselves. Bitterness is not always about others. We can feel condemnation, guilt and shame about ourselves. Do you hold on to guilt for an issue from the past? Often that negative self-talk of not being good enough self-rejection and less than self-hatred is not even coming from you.
Our thoughts can be influenced by an accusing evil spirit Revelation You must forgive yourself. Come on, say it - don't just read these words, say them out loud. I have bought in with the sin of blaming myself and have been bitter against myself all these years.
I have felt guilty, unworthy, ashamed and inferior and have compared myself to others. I understand now that I was designed to make mistakes so that I can learn from them. I repent Heavenly Father, for the bitterness and un-forgiveness towards myself and I forgive myself. I command, in the name of Jesus Christ, the accusing spirit that continually puts the negative thoughts of self-hatred, self-rejection and guilt into my heart and mind to be cast out from me. I ask for Your angels of light and love to tie up and carry away this dark spirit never to return. In the name of Jesus Christ.
Are you angry with God? Boy, I struggled with this for several years after my parents untimely deaths. The devils wants you to blame God because He wants to create a rift and a separation in your relationship with Him. This will steal your joy, love and passion for Him, and it opens the door to the devil in your life. If you have anger, un-forgiveness and bitterness in your heart against God, give it up and let it go. Say a prayer like this: I know that You have done nothing wrong, and I am in need of Your forgiveness.
My problems are not Your fault.
You are my answer. You have got to come to the place where you forgive God, yourself and others before you ever go to God to repent and ask for healing of a disease or affliction. Understand that the healing blessing from God of removing the angst, poison and bitterness from your heart is a gift that comes through the Atonement of Christ. Just saying the words will do nothing, unless it truly comes from the heart.
That is why it is a process. For me, I have had to pray and work within my heart to truly overcome my un-forgiveness. Like me, you may have to repeat these prayers many times. Change is rarely instantaneous. Persistence is often required. Forgiveness must become not only a practice but an attitude.
Forgiveness Letting Go as well as repentance Changing your Heart are what is required for each of us as we progress through our mortal sojourn. The object of our endeavor is transformation, even a mighty change or being born anew. This is a gift that can only come from God, but you must do the preparatory work. I promise you, peace and healing will come. So what is the often overlooked key to healing from heart disease, diabetes, obesity, and depression? Perhaps it is Forgiveness. The Unvarnished New Testament.
Resting In His Purpose. Whispers from the Secret Place. Eagerly Desire to Prophesy. Prayers of Hope for the Brokenhearted. His Voice to His Children. The Way of the Cross. Precious Lord, Take My Hand. Answers to Our Everyday Questions: Diane K Hiltz Chamberlain.
Where Are We Heading To? In the Court of the King. A Psalm in Your Heart. Words of Power, Echoes of Praise. Let's Get Back to the Bible.
Reluctant Prophets and Clueless Disciples. All Things New Study Guide. A Biography of Jesus. A Book of Sermons. Keep Your Love On. The Shadow of Death -- Book 2. Faith for a Dark Saturday. Stranger by the Lake. Jesus Christ, Ordinary Man. The Man Nobody Knew. Learning How to Trust Wallflowers in the Kingdom: A Vindication of Introverts in the Body of Christ.
Forgiveness - Never Easy/Always Possible: Healing Rifts among Families, Friends and God [A. Karl Boehmke] on www.farmersmarketmusic.com *FREE* shipping on qualifying. Editorial Reviews. From the Back Cover. Storyteller A. Karl Boehmke presents you with 40 FORGIVENESS -- NEVER EASY/ ALWAYS POSSIBLE: Healing Rifts among Families, Friends and God - Kindle edition by A. Karl Boehmke. Religion.
God Still Uses Vessels. Finding the Right One After Divorce. Secrets to a Man's Heart. Windows to the Heart of People of Faith. Getting Ready for Marriage Workbook.
It is a tool that allows you to become more self-aware. Looking at lifestyle and diet, they were able to discover similarities. All Things New Study Guide. For eight years The Forgiveness Project has run RESTORE , a group-based restorative justice RJ intervention program in England to enable prisoners to turn their lives around and give them the tools to re-enter society as active and responsible citizens. You've successfully reported this review.
My Conversations with God. Seeing with the Heart. Focus on the Family. Talk Now and Later. Rest in the Shadow.