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Everyone does do it. And the competition for people's limited time and attention is enormous.
So, you've got to differentiate yourself from the pack. That's the only way you're ever going to get a response. Sure, it's hard to do. Hard, but not impossible--if you follow these seven rules:.
Make sure it makes sense. I get requests from people every day that I just can't make heads or tails of. I don't know what they want or why they think they can get it from me. They either don't make sense or they're not appropriate, at least not to me. People respond to whatever it is that interests them. And most people are interested in themselves.
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That's why a long introduction about you isn't likely to get their attention. Hopefully, there's a good reason why you're reaching out to this person. Some sort of connection you have with their background or something they wrote. Just make sure it's appropriate.
Use a little common sense. I get loads of requests from people. They spend paragraphs telling me what's in it for them. I know what's in it for them. If you can't do that, then don't bother. You might get a polite response, but that's all you'll get.
Just because one of you likes to do the internet equivalent of shouting from the rooftops how in love you are doesn't mean the other one should have to suffer through it. On the other hand, if one of you never references the relationship on your page, the other may begin to wonder why. It's best to talk about it first. You're not alone or irrational if you get a little nauseous every time you see evidence of your significant other's weekend in Cabo with his ex.
In the same vein, you shouldn't be surprised if your boyfriend isn't interested in having a reminder of the guy you dated right before him. That's going to sting for any human. Other people might have a tougher skin, but I say [err on the side] of caution. Do some preventative work. Better to be safe than sorry. Having a hard time untagging yourself in those photos? Estes suggests asking yourself why that is. Jason and Kelli likened the tagging issue to going home to your parent's house and them still having pictures on the wall of you and your old boyfriend.
When deciding what to untag or not , the best approach is for both partners to agree to untag themselves from photos that make the other uncomfortable.
You could be in a vulnerable state. You could have had a couple glasses of wine. It could open temptation to revisit the past.
But what if you're percent not tempted by an ex? Is there any harm in accepting the request? Yes, said Jason, because you don't know what the person on the other end of that friend request is thinking. They might have been pining for you all of these years, waiting for the day you reconnect. Estes suggested addressing these requests on a case-by-case basis: It's how you handle it that matters to your current relationship.
In some cases, existing friends you have a past with are harmless and can remain that way -- though Kelli suggests hiding them on Facebook to avoid trips down memory lane. Then, there are the people the experts refer to as "red flag" friends.
These could be people you've never dated who've started to show an interest or actual exes. They utilize it as a way to say, 'Hey I'm interested,'" says Kelli. These problem friends can be exes, though they don't have to be, and they're a common enough issue that Estes mentions them on her website:.
If this person is a red-flag for either you or your partner, it may be time to delete them from your friends list or you may need to confront the issue straight on.
Either way, the couple needs to agree about these friends. It's a fact that there's an unspoken awkwardness to defriending -- won't it show your ex that he or she still has a hold on you? And it's probably time to stop caring about what your ex thinks, anyway.
When couples sees a post on their partner's page that makes them uncomfortable, they shouldn't just let it go.