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Originally Posted by CarrieT. Originally Posted by Crabbies. Forgive me, Miss Carrie, but according to the site, the above absolutely untrue. Unlike others I would definitely have a relationship like this I disagree because that is just one person's opinion. On all the BDSM sites which I frequent collarme, alt, fetlife, et al , there are a number of TiH factions just as there are Goreans and other groups with different philosophies.
Originally Posted by 2sunny. Originally Posted by sally4sara. It doesn't rest on opinion that the necessity of physical punishment hinges on the resistance of the one not in control. If someone is happily in their situation - what is there to resist? And if they want to be physically punished and only resist to create a situation where they can be punished, then absolutely and without it qualifying as opinion, it is a BDSM situation.
You might not want to refer to it as BDSM, but the author of the link you provided clearly does.
However, since it often needs clarifying, I use this explanatory blurb: All times are GMT The alpha male controls his environment the best he can, and cares for what and whom he perceives to be his responsibility. The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. For you it seems you aren't able to relax like that. Either way, I am still awkward with how I address him in public, and often catch myself in mid sentence and find myself trying to do a quick cover-up, which usually is an epic fail!
All times are GMT The time now is A willingly submissive partner does not submit to anyone. You do not blindly relinquish certain power to someone you don't know, or someone you know will abuse that power. Just like you wouldn't give your power of attorney to a stranger or cousin Jim the gambler. Yielding of will is a gift that should not be given or received lightly.
Many "tih" couples say their fights are almost nonexistent. They are easily ended by the dominant partner. One couple I know used to argue about how to spend Saturday evenings. There was always something one wanted to do the other didn't and they'd fight and up with her mad and him gone and no one had a good time, and they'd be in a fight till mid week. When they became a "tih" couple the ultimate say came down to him. Sometimes they'd do what he wanted, sometimes they'd do what she wanted and sometimes they'd do something neither had planned. She'd of course sometimes be upset at not getting to do what she wanted but he was fair and she would eventually have fun.
There wasn't that feeling of "I have to fight to get what I want or be right". He'd give her what she needed and what he needed and it was simple. There is also a sexual element to "tih". There is something arousing to a submissive female about the unshackled male.
There's an oddly exciting element to non sexual dominance. Giving ultimate power to someone outside the bedroom is rattling. Put in on and remove it like a coat at the door. You can be totally vulnerable in the boudoir but put up your shields everywhere else. Submissive partners do have to adjust to the frequency of sex, as well the spontaneity of it. I know many "tih" women who say their husbands want sex at the strangest times: I know I deserve a punishment. I have no right to ask how or when the punishment comes, I just hope you would understand that waiting hours or days for a punishment is so difficult.
Thank you for not giving up on me. See these two posts? Daddy sent these to me over the last couple of days. They struck a chord with me like no other. At least that is the idea in my head. By him sending me these two posts out of the blue, it has settled my heart once and for all that he not only understands my secret struggle, but that he truly does cherish me and appreciates me greatly. I am finally convinced that we are on the same page!
Thank you for that, Daddy. Our youngest daughter will celebrate her HS graduation next weekend with a big party. We started the weekend with fireworks, went on a Sand Dune Ride, had a picnic, Went to the Mall, ordered Pizza, Went to a fancy restaurant, etc. All her fave things to do.
Editorial Reviews. Review. Better Than Fiction - Shelly Douglas Jolynn Raymond takes you by Taken In Hand: A Guide to Domestic Discipline, Power Exchange Relationships and Related BDSM Topics - Kindle edition by Jolynn Raymond. "Guess it's time to be taken in hand. This is for your own good." (submits to being paddled, but only after ritual prayer to Jesus the Lord and.
We made some great memories. Daddy was the perfect father, joining in on all the fun, even the Mall. I am blessed with him. One of the things that made the weekend so fun was just the idea that we spent the whole time together, sharing small, loving moments together- even in the midst of the girls being around. At one point, while the girls went their own way in the mall, we stole a few moments in a lingerie store. It was fun picking out outfits we would like to try. At another store, a candle store, Daddy bought me two candles. I cut it short realizing what I was calling him in public.
Either way, I am still awkward with how I address him in public, and often catch myself in mid sentence and find myself trying to do a quick cover-up, which usually is an epic fail! I feel like I am always right back here at this place of Posting about an issue, misunderstanding, argument, or what have you.
It frustrates me sooo much!!
Daddy tells me I am allowed to ask questions or get clarification anytime he gives me a rule, or instruction to do something. So, I ask my question, or clarify and he automatically jumps to defense mode. Tonight is July 3. We worked all day on the yard and house so it will be nice when we host 30 people for a BBQ tomorrow. We find ourselves, at the end of the night, in bed-making love. Make sure you are pleasing me. Never let my drink go below half glass. But remember I have 30 people to play hostess to tomorrow. So, just like that, we are done.
He rolls over, I roll over. After a few minutes of silence, I ask if I can clarify my response. So, I tell him of all the things on my mental list that I have to pay attention to tomorrow. I have to make sure I have enough plates during the party. If I run out, I will need to get more. I have to keep an eye on the ice bucket.
If it melts, or gets used, I will have to get more. I have to keep an eye on the food to see if it needs refilled. I know that there will very likely be periods when his cup goes below half full and I will miss it. I totally get that I am to submit to his requests and I am to serve him. I will understand if you miss my glass, just try your best.
Marriage is just hard, plain and simple. I have briefly mentioned before about my struggle with this. I am wondering if anyone else experiences difficulty in your submission during that time of the month?
This girl hit it right on the head when she said that she gets easily frustrated, and everyone irritates her during that time.