Thankfully, Florence reappears to save her from herself. The final suitor is Timini, a year-old film star. He is confident, good-looking and forward-thinking — and he takes AJ on a date to the beach in a speedboat. This was never going to be a show about a genuine search for a husband, but about the infinitely more interesting second-generation search for identity. There was more to say, charming though this programme was.
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Show 25 25 50 All. Sbuttoni adds, "With most children, anger is covering up their anxiety. If he was feeling you didn't like him — how scary is that? At last I recognise what is happening. I also see that I am not a victim of his behaviour; I have the power to stop it. I comment on his every good deed: I have a foolish reticence, as if by pushing myself close, I'm interfering. At heart, I'm scared of his rejection.
But when I join him in the garden to play, he is so pleased and surprised I feel ashamed for holding back. He blushes with delight when I attempt to fast-bowl. I give him credit. I recognise that we expect a lot of him and work on recognising his vulnerabilities. On the outside they are supposed to be big and strong and tough — inside they've got real feelings and are trying to cover them up, understand them — and many people do not acknowledge that with boys. It's still hard for a boy to talk about feelings and when he has an adult who allows him to, there is friction inside: My power to do good or evil is thrown into sharp relief by her words — and with it, my huge responsibility.
I also see, with far greater clarity and compassion, his position. When George does explode with frustration, instead of snapping, I charm away his bad temper. I find this supremely difficult. When he swears, I say, "Please don't speak like that. I even — as Sbuttoni advises "stand there, as if you are a gorilla over him" — to indicate on important issues that while he is as powerful as me, I am in charge.
But mostly I try to put my ego aside and see it his way. When I help him with an essay, he asks, "Were you the cleverest person at English in your year at university? I feel a great rush of love. Because he's so eloquent, it's easy to mistake his for an adult mind, to roar, "Oh, grow up! I am a difficult parent: Yet he loves me, as I do him, with painful, primal ferocity.
I see I just had to learn to try harder. Is it common not to like your child?
It's difficult to know as it's such a taboo subject that people won't readily admit to it. We are supposed to love our children from the minute they are born, like magic, and if that doesn't happen you can feel you are stumbling from the start. While it's perfectly normal to find your child annoying occasionally, or dislike aspects of him or her, not liking them long term can usually be traced back to a reason, or sometimes several. There might have been a rupture in the bonding process. Sometimes children remind the parent of parts of themselves that they don't like.
Or they find it hard to cope with a child's extreme vulnerability. How you were parented can also have an impact: What is damaging for children is if they can't get back to a place where they know the parent really does love them — in other words, if there's never a time at which the child has a secure base. There has to be trust on the part of the child that underneath it all, he or she is loved. Family therapy can really help if things are cyclical because unless someone steps in to change the patterns — how parent relates to child and vice versa — it just perpetuates.
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