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Where Is God In All of This?

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How depressing is it not to even have anyone to talk too! The people who live right never receive a blessing!! God Bless YOU for being courageous and vulnerable and open! You will speak about your anxiety and you have comforted me today for sure! Am I in another desert? But the Bible is full of miracles and I must remind myself daily-sometimes several times a day that I am going to be strengthened in this journey.

We are not alone! Thank you Mandy for this beautiful post! I needed what you said. I am in the same place exactly. It is one interview after another of hope and promise followed by rejection everytime. That is IF i ever make it to an interview. I too am a single mom to two. I watch and listen to people gripe and complain about their jobs or job hop with no appreciation. At this point I would almost rather be in a miserable job making money vs unemployed. To me the worse is I cant tithe to my church. Or I have little to tithe when I can. It is so beyond depressing. You gave me a sunray of hope.

Hi, i saw your reply about being unemployed, what are we to do I know God promised me buisnesses.

I have really been trusting God I have been Blessed with more money off the job than on.. Do we get on a job are keep waiting for door opem for his Promise.. Because He said he would do it different than before I dont want to mess up and move and God didnt say.. Thanks for hearing me out.. Dear Lynn, You are not alone. You may be single, but you are not alone. So sick of hearing things like: When you learn to love yourself, then someone will too. This one resonated with me because in some ways it is true; but it does not guarantee marital love will come your way.

Have you tried fill in the blank? Oh no, I have been sitting on the sofa in my pajamas waiting for him to ring my doorbell silly me. Hope is something we possess in abundance, but with each decade that passes single it depletes greatly. Really, and for those that die never being married? Those that never have children not by choice?

Those that never connect to a faith after a lifetime of soul searching? My answer is this. There is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with me. There is nothing perfect about those who attain everything. It is what it is. You life is not measured by destinations you achieve, but by the journey and path you forge for yourself.

The single life lived well and full is like a path for those and there will be many who will follow or look for signposts you have left. If you find your strength through God, great. If you find your strength in yourself, great. If you find your strength through others, great.

Just know that it is your life, and you are the best person to know what is right for you. But most importantly know that you are not alone. You may be lonely, but I have known people in marriages that are lonely. Take pride in your decision to not accept less than you are comfortable with just to appease society!

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What an amazing answer! My mom always tells me when I am stressed or worried about something that God is in control! Thank you so much I needed to read this. I have been struggling with my life and where I am at. I am trying to find my higher power and accept God or something cause I just feel lost right now. This week has been very emotional. I just finished reading your book and it helped me a lot. Your words could not have came at a better time. I needed to read this. I am struggling right now..

Everything in my life is falling apart.. I have chills after reading this. I have recently fallen away from God because of the horrid things that a Christian family has been doing to my daughter and I. I know understand that God is not bad or mean, that he is just bringing me to my happiness.

It may be a hard and long road but if I continue to give my problems to God it will shorten my road to happiness tenfold. Thank you so much Mandy! I have to share something that I realized a few days ago. My first husband died many years ago. I remarried — and that marriage ended in divorce after almost 20 years.

People ask which one hurts the most. I have always said — divorce. God choose to take my first husband home, but in divorce my second husband chose to leave. But then I realized that God was actuallywas there working. I never for a moment felt He had forsaken me when I was diagnosed with cancer last June. This article so eloquently explains how I felt about my diagnosis and so much more! Thank you for this! Reading this made difference to me. And it is very helpful thank you for sharing may God bless you more to keep shining..

Mandy and Friend you have already touched my life. You are both awesome. Our crosses seem so very heavy, especially when you are single, many a time I feel quiet alone…. Thank you Mandy, you are an amazing woman of God. We serve an amazing God and he allows us to go through trials and tribulations to prepare us. It is never easy but if we stay focused on him, we can see the light. I have had that same question before, and then out of nowhere, he shows you the answer.

I have seen it many times. I pray for that sweet lady and her situation and I lift you up as well Mandy, to continue your work witnessing to other. Have a blessed day. This really touched me. I too question where God is at times. I am a divorced 37 yr old woman with no children. I have faith in God and love him and know that I am truely blessed for what I do have and try to focus on that instead of what i dont have.

I have always wanted to be a mother and was always told i would be a great one but it just never happened. I have been hurt so many times by men and now even though i am extremely lonely I dont even try to find someone it seems to be a waste. It is hard to see others like my ex husband who arent good people living what appeara to be a good life, it hurts but I keep trying to have faith that This hurt was all worth it that I will find happiness again someday.

But my youngest graduated high school last year. So now my time I feel? God on the other hand? I have tried dating sites. So God will just have to have me meet this guy another way I guess? That to me was a blessing bcuz it was about her as it shouldve been. And the part about seeing your story as a gift that hit hard in a good way!! And your hopes about your anxiety reaching someone … It reached me i struggle with it im encouraged by your story and reminded to see it as a gift. I needed to read this today!

Like right on spot with your answer! I was and am at a very low point in my life and reading that helped more than I can ever thank you enough for! I have struggled with this a lot lately. I know he is always there. That was beautifully said…I have struggled with so much lately that I had almost given up. I am finally coming to realize that God has not forgotten me and that things will turn out the way it all should. I thank him everyday for that little bit of strength that he has given me when I wanted to give up because I know it was him by my side pushing me forward.

Thanks Mandy for taking your time to respond to this encouraging woman…. All of our defects are a way to keep us near God, they help us to understand that everything has a purpose, no matter our age, status or culture! And foro those of you concerned about yor age, let me say that my mom hot married after two terrible divorces, at the age of 50 and it has become her largest marriage 10 years!!!!

Something caught my eye about this blog and I had to continue to read the entire message. I too suffer painfully, especially lately with anxiety. I try to control it, but I am not having very much success. All of our struggles are different, just like the lovely lady you answered to in your blog. The words allowed me to breath a bit easier knowing I am not the only one out there feeling entirely alone without anyone to share my concerns with. Thanks for sharing and caring. I know that the struggles in my life and the thorns of my flesh are spiritual tools God has given me in this life to connect and empathize with my fellows.

These are all hard to handle alone, and wrapped together they are even more difficult to overcome. My whole world has changed. I now feel like damaged goods….. The answer that I see clearly now is God. I am perfect in his eyes, and I rest safely in his arms. God has made you the head and not the tail. He has beautiful plans for your future, may be the year you experience a higher level of faith and blessings!

Reading your response has helped me to make a decision regarding starting a blog. Because I know that I will be honest and it will be deeply personal I have been on the fence…I am deciding if I am ready to reveal so much of myself on a blog…do I want to open up to possibly a lot of people? I have been thinking that sharing my struggles of the past few years might help someone else who is going through it now or someone who has gone through it and will find comfort and laughter in knowing they are not alone…we all have struggles but so often people chose not to share…making it even worse.

After reading your reply to this woman I think I am one step closer to deciding that yes I should do this…just maybe I will help someone and maybe I will help myself to move on to a better more rewarding life. Thank you for sharing this. I would like to follow your blog. I would like to follow your blog as well. I feel lost and wondering around aimlessly 5 years after my divorce. I am 50 ,a newly single woman and mom to an autistic child. Just a little reminder that there is a bigger plan here and watching all of my friends get married and have children is just part of my experience.

Anxiety…I know this one well ………I have lived my life trying to outrun it…that would be similar to out running a train…Now I lean into it, embrace it, remembering the episodes will not last forever.. I suppose this is brilliant if one indeed has a solid relationship with G-d. For those of us that are re-evaluating our relationships — all of them including the one we have with G-d and unsure what we believe or what G-d believes — coming to accept being alone is difficult. Even if it is our choice. I would encourage the reader to find the courage to attend or create groups for exercise, walking regularly to build those feel good hormones, sharing talents through volunteer services, teaching skills, volunteering or part time work even.

I think that is where G-d is based on my very real and recent experience. Being socially busy is important to find my voice in a world that is going very fast and forgetful. What this anonymous reader is writing should be taken very seriously. Staying active puts me in the seat of control of my life to abate that fear, even if only for a few moments at a time, to get back in the game of life. And G-d has appeared where I least expected it and in different ways than I had once believed. My friend, I am about to turn 60 in March.

I have been single since and I have had multiple heartbreaks. The last one, quite recently, was particularly painful. I can only advise you that perhaps you are being spared of something far worse in life. Maybe now is not the time to be visible, but it definitely is the time to prepare yourself for a great moment in your life. That is up to you.

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What do you want? It is not so easy to answer that question when you think about it, because at this age, we know that there is always challenge even in the best of situations. That comes from wisdom. Your heart knows this and only wants your attention. Listen to it, because God sends you His messages that way. I know this seems abstract, believe me. You are not alone; there are many of us in the same situation. May we find the courage — the heart — to do and receive what is in front of us.

I also cried the whole way through your blog. I know He is always there but for some reason today, your words sank in long and deep. I have a daughter that grew up in the church , got off track for a while , five years that have seemed like an eternity to me , a friend gave her your book and she read it in a couple of days. It helped her re-focus some things. She cannot wait for your next book to come out.

She is now pregnant …. He will see her through this.

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Thank you for writing. Young women and even us older ones need to be reminded of Truth. God is indeed giving you voice into the lives of thousands and you are being heard……and making a difference for the Kingdom! I love the way He does what He does!!!!! Thank you so much for motivating me. I am 26 years old, i have never been in a relationship because i was always studying and hard to believe im still yet to experience my first kiss from my first boyfriend. People think im weird and encourage me to sleep with guys for the experience because im almost 30 and being a virgin is apparently no no in relationships.

But i shut them out-because i know God has plans for me-he wouldnt have put me in this role if he didnt have the right guy out there somewhere. For the first time in years im leaving behind the tears and insecurity and trusting almighty God. God bless you, Mandy. Your response is perfect, and really ministered to me. I have the following message hanging in my cubicle at work: Let me add to the list of people who have been really touched by this message.

Depression, anxiety, financial problems, and an absolutely crippling insecurity going back to childhood are like giant fire-breathing dragons that have me surrounded on all sides. It has been so hard just in the last five years to believe in a God who really cares about my little life. A terrible thing to want, I know. But the answer is always no, so I keep struggling along, doing the best I can. I know I was never promised an easy time of it.

I just never thought it would be so hard. I must confess that most times I make it more difficult than it has to be. If we ask for bread will He give us a stone? In the past six months, my life has undergone some major obstacles. Sure it gets me down and angry and frustrated, but I believe everything happens for a reason and that God has a plan. I can offer advice or just a listening ear. I love your response Mandy.

It is so true. And he is there for us to help us through the hardships. Mandy, I can relate to this woman in many ways. I took a stand and walked away. I moved out of state with my children with no job, knowing only a college friend. Life was difficult but God gave me peace I had never known the day I moved in. It took a while, but God kept working on me, through all of the difficult times for me to know He was with me.

His ways are higher than your ways Isaiah There are still difficulties but I know where my strength comes from.

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God uses you to help others. God will also use others to help you, physically, financially, emotionally. I talk to Him daily, out loud! I tell him my feelings, good or bad. I recognize he is listening, when someone out of the blue tells me something I need to hear. For this woman, I am almost 55, not married. Do I want a husband, yes! The God who loves me unconditionally. The God who takes care of me and my children, each and every day.

You have something to be thankful for, are you blinded by it because you feel rejection and loneliness? Focus on what God is doing for you in other ways. I agree with your answer and totally accept it in my head and sometimes in my heart. However, I read the response of Marsha and Jeri. I do not see the purpose of being single and not being married at 38 yrs of age.

Not only do I suffer with this state, but all my closest single Christian female friends who I have known since birth also single. While my male friends are all married with kids.

Did they love God more? Did we sin in such a way that we will not be given the opportunity to get married? Is there a black male Christian shortage? Also, I will be truthful, I will be strongly disappointed if I o not get married and have children. I feel that is my purpose. It is the only thing I have been truly passionate about fulfilling. I am teacher in community college.

I am thinking about pursuing my PH. I am slowly getting my finances in shape. But, parts of me just feel like I am marking time waiting for something that God seems to want to deny me. And so I endure with the longing for me and my friends waiting for God to do what I asked him to do or to take the desire away.

Do I have to be like Paul and continue to have the splinter in my heart forever to prove that I want to follow him? Perhaps God wants to get you to the place where you find happiness and peace within Him and within yourself. I have learned this many, many times until I finally grasp the concept. A relationship ca only make you more of what you already are. Wow words hit home, I have a traumatic brain injury and most people dont know how to just understand im still me just have a few injuries now. I understand how this person feels. I have had people ask me why does God allow you to go through this?

But my answer is the same as yours!!! There are reasons I go through this. Maybe to keep my faith strong….. I believe through out our lives if we were never weak during certain trials whether they be short or whether they are with us for the rest of our days, well then we would never find our strengths and we would never become the person we are meant to be…I believe the person each and everyone of us are at this very moment is who we are supposed to be..

I believe without any questions or thoughts in our heads or even with them.. He knows whats in our hearts. He might just be waiting for you to meet that special someone who is perfect for you and until that day comes he will not let you settle for anything less, but these are just thoughts positive thoughts. God bless you all. I pray for all of you to find what you are searching for… Love a Sister. As a 46 year singleton woman never married who lives by inspiring others to believe in their self worth and love, I could not have written a more beautiful response full of Gods love and truth.

Thank you Mandy, who you are makes difference in many lives! God bless you for your beautiful response to the woman who wrote you. You are so accurate in your statements.

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God will never give us more than we can bear. God bless you abundantly and may God bless the woman who wrote you. I will lift you both up in prayer. God Bless you Mandy! I just so needed to read this today!!! I struggled and still do anxiety, depression, difficult relationship, sick mother so much over the last year that I often think, this is it, I cannot take it anymore.

Been praying today all day — before work, at work, now at home… You and Joel Osteen are the light that help me through the day. Thank you so much for being you. This was an absolutely beautiful response and one that rings very true. I too have suffered with anxiety for much of my adult life, along with being single. At time I feel that God has forgotten me. I look at my brother and sister in law with their beautiful child and think how badly I would love to have that too.

Thank you Mandy for your wonderful blog! Sometimes I do wonder, but I truly believe I am being looked after by a Father who loves his child. Thank You, Mandy, this is just what I needed to read today. Has been a really stressful time lately, and this gives me hope. Bless you and the person who shared.

I also wanted to be like you. You inspire me to make a move. Thanks for writing this. I compare myself to Job in the Bible sometimes, that helps. Being single myself at 33, I can definitely relate to that aspect of this post, but more than that, I want to thank you for being so open about your anxiety.

Your words about both topics are inspiring, as your words always are! Your words are really encouraging, its all i needed to hear to start this new day with a positive perspective about my life.

God bless u n bless us all. The verse I read there is also applicable to the story of your letter writer, Romans 8: Hi Mandy, I have cried and cried this evening….. The loneliness has been overwhelming. I lost my dad 7 years ago. I feel so alone it scares me. I ask that you please pray for me Mandy…. I need all the strength of prayers I can get…. Mandy, This is amazing. Love, peace and blessings!!! Thank you all for sharing. Yes, we all have our crosses to carry, just as did our lord. I hope it brings a moments peace as well as hope to all as it gave me.

I absolutely loved your answer. We certainly have the choice to be happy and find the beauty in something that is not favorable to us. Since this blog, I have subscribed. I also recommended the story for other women. Life is always going to throw us curveballs — some big, some small.

I soooo needed this…. All these things you share about and teach others about has become an amazing approach to handling the ups and downs of single life! I believe in this specific blog, the advice and encouragement you shared with her is golden!!! It is all about perspective, attitude, and choosing happiness!! God does not make us suffer nor does he ever leave us alone.

He hungers for our relationship and faith in him!! Everyone in this world is struggling. Mandy was 10 years old and Sandy was 9 years old. They were the only children their parents had. How to write a great review. The review must be at least 50 characters long. The title should be at least 4 characters long. Your display name should be at least 2 characters long. At Kobo, we try to ensure that published reviews do not contain rude or profane language, spoilers, or any of our reviewer's personal information. You submitted the following rating and review. We'll publish them on our site once we've reviewed them.

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