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The sad fact is that if you do not deliberately and consciously talk to yourself in a positive and constructive way, you will, by default, think about things that will make you unhappy, lower your self esteem, or cause you worry and social anxiety. As we said before, your mind is like a garden.
If you do not deliberately plant flowers and tend carefully, weeds will grow without any encouragement at all. Perhaps the most powerful ability that you have is the ability to visualize and see your goals as already accomplished. Create a clear, exciting picture of your goal and your ideal life, and replay this picture in your mind over and over.
All improvement in your life begins with an improvement in your mental pictures. Your choice of the people with whom you live, work, and associate will have more of an impact on your emotions and your success that any other factor. Decide today to associate with winners, with positive people, with people who are happy and optimistic and who are going somewhere with their lives. Avoid negative people at all costs. Resolve that from today onward, you are not going to have stressful or negative people in your life.
Feed your mind with information and ideas that are uplifting and that make you feel happy and more confident about yourself and your world. Feed your mind continually with positive messages that help you think and act better and make you more capable and competent in your field.
Watch positive and educational DVDs, educational television programs, online courses, and other uplifting material that increases your knowledge and makes you feel good about yourself and your life. Almost everyone in our society starts off with limited resources, sometimes with no money at all. Virtually all fortunes begin with the sale of personal services of some kind. All the people who are at the top today were once at the bottom, and sometimes they fell to the bottom several times. The miracle of lifelong learning and personal improvement is what takes you from rags to riches, from poverty to affluence, and from underachievement to success and financial independence.
When you dedicate yourself to learning and growing and becoming better and more effective in your thoughts and actions, you take complete control of your life and dramatically increase the speed at which you move upward to greater heights. Take excellent care of your physical health and wellness. Resolve today that you are going to live to be eighty, ninety, or one hundred years old and still be dancing in the evenings.
You got up on time this morning. You poached your eggs to perfection.
Brushing your teeth, showering often and wearing clothes that fit you well are simple steps to improving your confidence. Not Helpful 27 Helpful Find a way to make helping others a part of your weekly routine, whether you volunteer at your local library or you help your little sister learn to read. Please leave a comment and share with your friends! Your past can control you if you don't control it.
Celebrating the small victories is a great way to build confidence and start feeling better about yourself. Find people who make you feel good about yourself and avoid those who tend to trigger your negative thinking. You do you Comparing yourself to other people is a sure-fire way to start feeling crummy.
Celebrate the small stuff You got up on time this morning. Surround yourself with a supportive squad Find people who make you feel good about yourself and avoid those who tend to trigger your negative thinking. What can I do now? I imagine that a rope is pulling the top of my head toward the sky, and the rest of my body straightens accordingly. As an aside, people who stand tall and confident are more attractive.
In a nutshell, self-esteem is your opinion of yourself and your abilities. Comparing yourself to other people is a sure-fire way to start feeling crummy. 3. Get movin'. Exercise is a great way to increase motivation, practise setting goals and If you spend time doing the things you enjoy, you're more likely to think positively. Self-confident people tend to see their lives in a positive light even Self- confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered--just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better. Not only will this make you feel better about yourself, but others are more likely to.
How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent.
And how do you do that? By studying and practicing. Just do small bits at a time. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write for example , and the practice will increase your competence.
Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. Now set another small goal and achieve that. Change a small habit. Not a big one, like quitting smoking. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up.
Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. If you are a complainer, or focus on problems, change your focus now. Focusing on solutions instead of problems is one of the best things you can do for your confidence and your career.
I feel instantly better when I smile, and it helps me to be kinder to others as well. A little tiny thing that can have a chain reaction. Not a bad investment of your time and energy. But I put it here because while being grateful for what you have in life, for what others have given you, is a very humbling activity … it can also be a very positive and rewarding activity that will improve your self-image. Gosh, I seem to put this one on almost every list.
But if I left it off this list I would be doing you a disservice. Exercise has been one of my most empowering activities in the last couple years, and it has made me feel so much better about myself.
Empower yourself with knowledge. Empowering yourself, in general, is one of the best strategies for building self-confidence. You can do that in many ways, but one of the surest ways to empower yourself is through knowledge. The Internet is a great tool, of course, but so are the people around you, people who have done what you want, books, magazines, and educational institutions. Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way.
Doing something is almost always better than not doing anything. Of course, doing something could lead to mistakes … but mistakes are a part of life. Get off your butt and get active — physically, or active by taking steps to accomplish something.
Work on small things.