So Far Away: A Daughters Memoir of Life, Loss, and Love
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When Irmgard wouldn't listen, the only way to remain part of her life was for Christine to swallow her mother's plans--hook, line, and sinker. Christine's father, as it turned out, prepared too slowly for old age. Before he had made any decision, fate disabled him through a series of strokes.
So Far Away: A Daughter's Memoir of Life, Loss, and Love
Confined to a nursing home, severely impaired by dementia and frustrated by his circumstances, his life epitomized the predicament her mother wanted to avoid. So Far Awaygives us an intimate view of a person interacting with and reacting to her parents at the ends of their lives.
And her next step was to tell her daughter all about it. As those we love are lost to the past, and every morning we awake we know that somehow, some way, we are more alone, we must continue onward. Irmgard, tells her that she plans on committing suicide when she turns seventy. If you are in a care-giving situation for your parents, buy, beg , borrow or steal a copy of this book. Sep 05, Jenny rated it it was amazing. Meanwhile, Christine fought desperately against the decision.
In a richly detailed, poignant story of family member's separate yet interwoven journeys, it underscores the complexities and opportunities that life presents each one of us. She could've just done it and none would've been the wiser. She didn't avoid anything by telling them in advance.
We should all treat everyone like death is imminent. I feared for Hans mostly because I feared for myself. Death was approaching me. Although the even was still far off? But if you respect someone, you always have to show them that you accept them as they are. I learned another difference between the two.
Love is messy, because it requires reciprocity, interaction, and flexible boundaries. Respect is pure and can be maintained even at a distance. Love draws other in. Respect keeps others out. All we have to do is look around at anyone or anything we are attached to. Instead of concentrating on this present moment, we can focus on the time when that person or thing will no longer be around.
Death is a part of life. Although we all know this, most of us spend more time with the daily process of living at the center of our attention. It just changes them. And the wheelchair is what i think my grief is life. I'ts different from so many things. It's different from anything I have ever experienced. It distinguishes me from other people in some way.
But something separates the experience of the woman on the pin and me.
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Everyone can look at her and know that she is in a wheelchair and that she's living a life that is different in some ways. But no one can see why I am different, because I am not talking about it. Death is the only inevitable loss all human beings recognize. So it makes sense that most of our fear, anger, sadness, jealousy, and anxiety consciously or unconsciously revolve around that central, immutable truth. In essence, the smaller losses in life manifest diminutive versions of the gargantuan elephant that's always lurking in the collective human living room.
What we believe happens to us after our organs cease to function, and how strongly we hold to this belief, may mitigate or accentuate our feelings about death.
But no matter what we believe, the end of our time on earth will come. And for most of us, it comes on its own schedule. It made me question my own self-consciousness, which sometimes held me back from expressing myself.
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I wondered who came to those events, and what people remembered when they went. And who would they be coming for? Hans as he was at the end, or the Hans they used to know? Dec 04, Kathleen added it. There are no maybes; no buts, only its constant passage. It is difficult, at times, to look out the window and watch life go by you, powerless to stop it, and sometimes it is still jarring to look into the mirror to find myself changed, older than I feel.
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So Far Away by Christine W. It is a story of coping with aging parents and the looming prospect of their death. At some p Time is certain. At some point we all fight against this terrifying idea, and feel powerless against the unstoppable force of time, which propels us forward whether we like it or not.
You see, I have two friends dying of terminal illnesses, both in the primes of their lives, and it is impossible to think that some day soon they will no longer be here. One is my own age, 48, and is the mother of a 9 year old little boy. The other, whose time to live grows shorter every day according to her doctors, is only Both would give anything to age, to be with their children on graduation day or to teach them to drive, to wake up every morning knowing that they will be here again tomorrow, to simply live.
To read this story of a woman whose mother plans to take her own life before she reaches 70, regardless of her good health, was not easy. In fact, I found myself angered by it.
How could one possess something as precious and delicate as life, and choose to throw it away? The story of her unconventional upbringing, her struggle to care for a father as he wasted away from dementia, and a mother who refused to face life plays on my worst fears of my own future with my parents.
Although it was tough for me to agree with a woman who chose to end it all so soon, the book was a highly compelling read, and I would recommend it.
All in all, one frightening truth can be gleaned from this touching work: There are no maybes; no buts, only its presence drawing nearer. As those we love are lost to the past, and every morning we awake we know that somehow, some way, we are more alone, we must continue onward. We must take every fresh breath of air knowing that in a moment everything changes.
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