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One accused me on his blog of "lezzering on again" after hearing me on Radio 4. I was surprised because the item he was referring to was about the cost of car insurance for women. Another Guardian writer, Cath Elliott , is often assumed to be a lesbian by men who take offence at her dislike of rapists and sex murderers. She once got so tired of comments posted on her blog asking her about her short hair and lack of makeup that she told them we both run a lesbian militia training school in the countryside for straight women.
I married at 24 and had two children, but I used to wish I could have sex just for the sake of it. They are also more likely to have had sex only with other-sex partners in the last year than are gay men or lesbians, but are less likely to have done so than are heterosexuals. Male fascination with things Sapphic is usually born out of total indignation that we do not desire the male form. That destroyed a lot of the pleasure for women. Experts estimate than about one out of 10 people may be lesbian or gay, and many historically famous women were lesbians. Check with local bookstores, health food stores, and gay bars for copies. The very first time is up there, because it felt significant and I felt really loved.
Men make bad lesbians, but with some effort they could be more convincing. Who better to run a lesbian school than me?
I have 34 years' experience and have never wavered or lost interest in the topic. Let's start with the basics: Argue in public but come home with drill bits and a self-assembly wardrobe. This is an important lesbian signifier. Drool over Mary Portas and pretend you are friends with Sue Perkins. Julie Bindel's guide to lesbian life Men make bad lesbians, but with some effort they could be more convincing. Do not use for basting turkey. Order by newest oldest recommendations.
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Kristine, Michigan, age Well, knowing was never the question. It was accepting it that was [the question]. Lenore, Illinois, age During adolescence, most young women begin to be aware of sexual feelings and to take an interest in dating. Many young women feel physically attracted to men. But other young women feel physically attracted to women.
When your girlfriends are checking out the guys, you may find yourself checking out other women. Going out with men may not interest you. Some women have relationships with both men and women throughout their lives. Some women eventually decide to be exclusively lesbian or exclusively heterosexual. Whoever you fall in love with, that is normal sexuality. Normal is in the eye of the beholder.
Normal is different for every individual. I tend to laugh at people who are close-minded. Also, I speak up in school when anyone makes the slightest homophobic comment. Rachel, Maryland, age Yes, you are normal.
Many people are lesbian. But, I just love women too much to ever dream of hiding it again. Red, Australia, age I used to be confused by that part of my personality; but, through time, it became a very important and precious part [of me]. I have a right to be who I am, and I am willing to fight for it.
This is not to say that it s been easy, because at times it s unbearable, but if I could change my sexual orientation, I would not. Jessie, New York, age Your sexual orientation is only one part of who you are. You probably have hobbies and interests that are the same as those of some of your straight friends. I am a virgin. But, if I was with someone and we were having sex, it would be protected sex. April, Michigan, age I insist on safer sex. Despite the rumor that dykes are indestructible, I m not taking any chances.
I always tell my partner, up-front, that I demand safer sex.
Rayne, Pennsylvania, age Annie, Minnesota, age You and your partner should discuss your risk factors and hers for HIV infection and decide what safer sex methods to use. Lesbians who are at risk are those who: Talking to someone is the best help that I found.
It makes you feel less alone. I use a gay and lesbian chat room; it helps me find people to talk to. It helps to learn to look inside yourself and to see that the gay part of your personality exists together with, not separate from and not in spite of, all other parts of yourself. It helps to see how everything you do or are is somehow affected by your sexual orientation.
All people are valuable. Developing self-esteem is very important for young people, and it can be difficult for gay and lesbian youth to feel good about themselves when many people around them believe that lesbians and gays are sick or perverted or destined to live unhappy lives. Feeling like you have to hide who you really are could make you feel like hurting yourself, taking senseless risks, using alcohol or other drugs, or attempting suicide.
But, more and more young lesbians are learning to like themselves. You can find help by reading good books by and about lesbians — books with accurate information about lesbians who are leading fulfilling lives.
Meeting other lesbians helps, too, because then you discover that lesbians are as diverse as any other group of people and that society is full of misinformation about lesbians. These web sites are developed by and for young lesbian and gay people. Over 15, young gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender youth visit the sites each month; many visit repeatedly. You will find a community of support. When you feel confident, the best person to tell is the person that you believe will accept you and love you for who you are.