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I am half way round the world too so Im not sure how the call schedules would work for me. It is so lovely not to feel alone with all this.. I am still discovering things that make me happy.. Maybe the breakthrough after this breakdown will be a wedding ceremony for your and your man. I see that kind of thing happen a lot.

I would love to see you get some support. Thank you again for another supportive reply Laura. I expressed my desire to become his official wife in his Valentine letter of appreciation and respect I also included an apology for years of disrespect.. Your work has been wonderful for me.. I started off with my finger pointing firmly at him and his discrepancies and thankfully ended up pointing it at me..

I could never thank you enough Laura as you have given me the skills I needed to finally start taking care of myself and to bring our family closer together.. I will look into a discovery call as I realise this is going to be difficult at times and will need alot of support and encouragement. My daughter is getting married this year and I will definitely be buying her your most recent book to help them to have a loving journey together in married life? Hello Laura Doyle I really want to buy Your book and read it.

So I will just try to write here if there is anyone similar situation like mine and can give me some advices. My husband just broke up with me a month ago after almost 9 years of married.

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We have 1 son 4 years old. He broke up with me because I always bring the past back. I saw him kissing somebody else when he was drunk way back 2 years ago. And because that woman is just our neighbor, I can always remember what had happened everytime I see her.

And since then, I became unhappy, moody, easy to get upset and always find reason to get upset at him. And also he broke up with me because he thought I am using our son as a fuel for our arguments and also he thought I am making our son to hate him. Do You think I have any chance to win him back? I love him very much. He is my first boyfriend and my first love. I already apologize and admitted that I was wrong but he said I forgave You already but we cannot be together anymore. That we are not lovers anymore and we never will be again. Should I just give up on him too? I hope there is anybody here who can give me some advices what to do.

Thank You very much Laura…I would really appreciate for any replies.

I absolutely believe you can save your marriage and keep your family together. That would be a big help. You have the power to make this marriage great again. Hi Laura, i have really liked reading through your website, and it has given me a different perspective on things. I am trying my best to implement what you preach. But let me tell you my situation and maybe you could give me some advice? My husband and I have always had a very close loving relationship. Some months ago, he started an affair. I found out about it pretty early and he promised me time and again he was going to end it.

To cut the long story short, I gave him many months but i really was sick and tired of his neverending lies. Despite me giving him an ultimatum, he continued to lie. It might have been wrong of me to do so but I spoke to the other woman. She promised to leave him.. She said she never saw a future with him because he was already married. Well guess what, she ended up divorcing her husband. How should I handle this? And now I am back to trying the soft approach again. She seems to be putting pressure on him, but that frustrates him and he transfers that frustration to me and tries to pick fault with me.

But then they will have a quarrel and somehow he takes it out on me. I also hear that you want your marriage back, with just two people in it instead of three. I can certainly see why you feel that way! It deserves a longer conversation. Consider applying for a complimentary discovery call to determine the best move you can make for your relationship here: Laura how can I seduce my husband if he moved out? She wanted him and got him. He has destroyed our home. I spent 10 years searching for answers for our sick son.

And he had the nerve to call me lazy! He is avoiding and has moved in with his sister. I never thought I would put up with cheating but my head and heart are at war. Ginger, So sorry to hear about your husband and friend betraying you. I invite you to apply for a complimentary discovery call to determined the best next move for your relationship. I have two of your books and your advice is excellent. My husband and I have been separated for 5 months now.

We are now talking about reconciliation and are going away together next weekend. I would like to relinquish control of the finances when my husband comes home , but I have two problems. First he has no job, and second he is such a cheapskate. So cheap he wanted to buy me my engagement ring from a pawn shop.

He did not want to buy his own children Christmas presents so I had to buy them and he was angry with me for doing so. When we were living together I went to work everyday paid all the expenses while he contributed nothing. He went through the 3 jobs in 6 months and used the excuse that his arm hurt so he quit them all. He lets me pay for all of our dates and I am even footing the bill for this weekend getaway.

I completely understand your concept of letting go.

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Will letting go make him more responsible? I want to respect him but it is kind of hard. He was working up until we got married less than a year ago but then quit shortly thereafter. He left after I told him I felt less of a woman because it seemed he had no desire to take care of me or our future.

And I remember how scary it was to relinquish control of our finances and go all in. I am going to take your advice. My biggest obstacle are my children. This is the second marriage for both of us. My first husband of 27 years passed away and he was very generous. My children do not like my new husband at all and think he is using me. My two oldest , who live on their own, confronted my husband about this and that is one of the reasons why he left.

I want to build my husband up in a positive way but my adult children may be a problem if he does not return to work right away. Tammy, Sounds like your children want to protect you, which is natural. In many ways your children are cueing off of you. If you build him up that version of your husband will come into focus for them too. You have a lot of influence. I hear you want to build him up and I admire that. Thanks again for your awesome advice.

I have tried for a while now to get my kids to like my husband but they refuse. I do build him up and tell them how wonderful he is, but they have deaf ears, I replaced their Dad and they are upset about it. Death does strange things to people. I try and stay calm but my anger at him does bubble over. Mia, This is heartbreaking to hear. There is definitely hope for you to reconcile, and by that I mean to make your marriage amazing again. We have an expression: A wife with Intimacy Skills trumps a mistress every day of the week and twice on Sundays.

You are his wife and mother of his children, and you have the power. Given the crisis in your marriage, you will definitely want to consider getting a coach to help you restore your family. You can apply for a complimentary discovery call here: My husband and I has been married for only 5 months and then one day he said he needed space, that there is no point in continuing the relationship because the connection we once had was gone. There is hope for restoring your marriage and regaining that connection you once had. Next, consider applying for a complimentary discovery call to uncover the best move for your relationship.

My sons and I were suppose to join him but after a few weeks of being there he suddenly had a complete change of heart. I feel he is being coached by someone or several people. My question is your advice is good if my husband was here stateside but since he is so far away is there anything I can do to try and win him back? Monica, That is heartbreaking.

I see how that makes it more challenging to use The Intimacy Skills with your husband, but I feel there is still hope. This deserves a longer conversation. Consider applying for a complimentary discovery call to connect with one of my coaches and figure out the best move for your marriage. That sounds very painful. Sounds like you are divorced and he is remarried. Shattered, So sorry to hear! Sounds like this deserves a longer conversation. I invite you to apply for a complimentary discovery call, to connect with one of my coaches and figure out your best move.

Hi Laura, my husband has been gone for nearly eight weeks. He is very resistant to rebuilding the marriage and me and my daughter are devistated so it is really difficult to remain positive. Your story can still have a happy ending though. Consider applying for a complimentary discovery call to determine the best move for your relationship.

Thank you For your response Laura. Can you recommend which of your books I should get first to learn the six intimacy skills? Have you had many successes with reluctant husbands who are no longer living in the marital home? CJ, Yes, we have had great success with reluctant husbands who are no longer living in the marital home.

You can read a free chapter here: Thats how i found out about the affair,however we spoke things through and wanted to continue with our marriege. In October he then became distant always seem distracted when he came home to be with us, whenever i asked him whats wrong he never seemed to want to talk about it. Early January he called and we had a long conversation and he said he wanted a divorce,i asked him if it was because of that lady he said no and told me he loved and that we had compromise our marriege. I was devasted for days, in February i received the divorce papers and i signed them.

However he then told me not to send them through we will do it together when he comes home. He always postponed coming to see us,and in April he told me he no longer wants the divorce and i should tear the papers and said he loved me and our daughter very much and he doesnt care what happens or who foes what. When talk constantly on the phone and we text from dawn till evening but he still hasnt come to see us.

Im whenever i ask him if he has left us, he says no and says he loves us very much and wants a future with us and no one else but i cant help worry about that other woman and why hasnt he come to see us like before. This deserves a longer conversation because your whole family is hanging in the balance. Consider applying for a complimentary discovery call to connect with one of my coaches and determine the best move for your marriage.

I regret everything bad I ever said or did to him I now know how much he means to me I should of paid more attention to him than always being with our kids. What can I do? There is plenty you can do to restore your marriage and make it everything you dreamed of. Have you read or listened to The Empowered Wife? If not, start with that as soon as you can.

You can apply for that here: My husband left me 4 months ago he is now with the women he was messaging while we were married and says he wants a divorce I want him back we have a 15 months old baby what do I do can I turn it around. Donna, I can imagine your heartbreak. Sorry to hear about the separation and the affair. I saw him yesterday for the first time in a month when he was visiting his daughter and I pretended it was a date and he showed no interest what so ever!

Feeling hopeless and as though he will never ever come back to me. I feel so lost o know where I went wrong and I am working on changing for myself and him but I am slowly losing hope. Donna, Good for you for pretending your visit was a date! That takes courage and faith. It makes all the difference, in my experience. Have you applied for a complimentary discovery call yet? Hi Laura, i need your help. Me and my husband having difficulty in our relationship.

We are married for 3 years but he left me 2 weeks ago. We have 1 year and 3 months old baby. Mayne, So sorry to hear about your husband leaving. That must be so painful. Thanks for reaching out for support. There is every reason to be hopeful about your marriage and reuniting your family! I invite you to apply for a complimentary discovery call to connect with one of my coaches and explore the best move you can make for your relationship.

Hi, My situation is he left me right after I had a baby. We had an argument and he packed his stuff and left. Its been about 3 months now he doesnt live at home. No one can talk to him. He will not say what he wants either a divorce or work on his marriage. I am living in limbo for the past few months. How can I get him to talk? Sam, That sounds scary and lonely. My husband left 3 months ago. We have a beautiful 3yr old daughter. The only time we communicate is when it concerns our daughter.

The most painful part is that my daughter is autistic. She needs both of us. I understand what you are going through. I want him back. My husband just left me with his suitcase and work laptap. I have no idea where his going. I text and call him but no response. And my biggest problem is he drinks alcohol like water. Also his in steroid. And the drinking and suspicion also sound like painful problems. I have been reading your book The Empowered Wife and half way through and it is difficult to put down as it is so good but what worries me is its all about women who want to leave their husbands so I am anxious that the strategies will not help me to get my husband to return home to me especially as he left 4 months ago and is now seeing someone he was messaging whilst we were married.

I am trying to remain positive and love the book but it seems to be more from the perspective of a women not wanting her man as opposed to the man leaving her any help or advice I have booked a complimentary call. You can do it. You can do this, Donna. My husband left me back in january. I actually find out he was living a double life.

Lying to her and me. They were living together as a couple sharing a flat since february. During that time he was saying to me we still have a possibility and could make it throught. Didnt want to talk divorce. He was saying to her i wasnt ready. Now all in the open. He still say he want to be my best friend that i am his soulmate but its her he want. At the moment he has to show her every text and call he get. He is not allowed to text me or call me even so we have a daughter. He is not allowed to leave the room and talk to our daughter or myself in private. He is still lying to her as he send me emails which she doesnt know about.

But he says he lives loves her. He also says he care about me that he doesnt want to loose me as his best friend. So if he loves her why keep emailing me and hidding it? I love my husband yes i want him baxk which my be stupid. But i can see the man i fell in love within him. We been together 14 years. I was his second wife. He was still is my first husband.

The man he is with her is not the man that i knew and know is still inside. How long can he keep up with no privacy? Showing texts and proving where he is? Can i win him back? Is there hope still? What can i do? Shall i just let him go? I dont know why but got this dreadul feeling that he is making the biggest mistake he has ever made. I am also wondering if because of the problems we had he thinks he is in love with her. He said she make him happy.

To which i said untill u r happy within yourself that wont last long because sooner or later what is missing inside you will come back. I am at lost. I really want him back but is there hope? Why keep our email secret? But it bodes very well for you because how long can he stand her acting that way? The first step is to apply for a complimentary discovery call to connect with one of my coaches and determine the best move for your marriage.

Laura, The first thing we should tell a wife whose husband has cheated on her, is to love herself first and get herself stronger than she is now. If a wife cheated in her husband, men would not advise him to go running and begging to her. Why do we often hear women tell other women to make the adjustment in herself, when he is the one who did the sin, not her.

This is bad advice that hurts women. Kitt, I can see why you feel that way. In my experience, most marriages are comprised of more than one sinner—not one sinner and one saint. Hi Donna thank you for your reply. This saturday night he came around for half a hour. I called him asking if he could as i needed to talk to him in private. He didnt want to not even go into another room for us to talk more privatly. I told him that he did wrong by me too and should try to repair some of it. He said if was to come he will be trouble so i told him fine.

The next thing he is there knocking at my door. Then i emailed him to said thank you and that him coming show he still cares. That it wasnt just words. For once he acted. When he came to take his daughter out he said the email made him smile. Now next week the OW is going for a overnight stay at hospital for a small surgery nothing serious. He asked if he could come around for a cuppa. I said yes and then he said lets keep it between us?? I am his wife so why do i feel like the other woman?? He still says he loves her not me. That i am just his best friend and soulmate. I am still at lost.

And yes i want him back but a part of me wonder why he is doing that?? Why surely that shouldnt be a problem? Why if he try to restore some trust in bis new relationship and be open and all is he keeping our emails and us seeing each other, not for long mind u, a secret? I am just wondering what i can do in the meantime.

Hi laura It seem hard. Hard cuz if i do text him. We cant talk on phone as she is always there with him. He says cuz he tryi g to repair his relationship with her becuase of the lies he has to keep our friendship secret. He keep saying be loves her ot me. So why all this secrecy?? As they been living as a couple for 6 months and all his lies are i the open is there a chance for me to win him back?

How can i achieve that? Have u got any advice toget me started. I am waiting for yr book. I am also wondering if there is hope? I just dont understa d all this secrecy even so i am still his wife. You seem very committed and I admire that. I only just read your post. I typed in Google I would do anything to save my marriage and your post came up. The thing is I would have done anything but I have a unique situation where my husband said he wanted a divorce over the phone and then never came home never got his things.

That was 7 months ago. He changed his phone number and his email. I have contacted him only a handful of times because we have a house together, but he refuses to speak to me. The thing is what he has done and how he has treated our relationship clearly speaks he has no intention of ever returning.

We were married for 5 years together for 8 and known each other for What do you suggest in a situation like this one. There was passion there once and there can be again. What are your intentions? Sounds like you want your marriage back, and I want that for you too. Consider coming to the Cherished for Life Weekend and getting a jump start on practicing the Skills! All the details are here: Yes my intentions have been to save my marriage but with absolutely no contact I have resorted to simply prayer. I will look up the conference. What would you suggest for me to do in this moment.

He told my best friend he was dating and he wished I just had a boyfriend. When I did write him a letter soon after he left he burned it in front of our friends and said that I cannot try to reach him through our friends. I hope you can make your way to the Cherished for Life Weekend! Heather-I am going through something similar. We were living in Vermont, bought a house in Florida. I came down first and the plan was for him to go back and get that house ready to sell and then come down.

We thought it would take about 6 months.. Last fall, he stopped communicating at the end of Oct…. I finally flew up there in January…he knew I was there and wouldnot come home. I finally was able to talk to him at work and he did come home. It is only my actions that have been saving it. Put it on the market a week ago, the way it is-not completely ready.

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I am trying to take care of myself. It is difficult…I donot want to live in Florida all by myself…I want to go home…. Laura…how do you know when to let go and divorce? I really cannot live in limbo like this? Roxanne, Sounds really difficult! I would love to see you get the support of a coach to walk you through this. Have you had a complimentary discovery call? Laura- I have had a discovery call which was so supportive.

I cannot afford a full counseling session.. Roxanne, Is there any way you can join us at the Cherished for Life Weekend on the 23rd? That would be a great way to get a quantum leap in your relationship. You can see all the details here: Laura- I wish that I could…it sounds like such a fun, exciting and wonderful weekend.

Unfortunately, I am the sole caretaker of this farm and also nurse…so…you know I am working that weekend!!!!!!!!! I have all your books, and I am so pushing myself to take care of me in spite of the emotional turmoil. I want to save this marriage, but I am the only one trying to do anything….. Roxanne, I admire your commitment! How about attending this free webinar for some inspiration.

I know how excruciating it is and I will pray for your marriage. For me when my husband completely checked out not only all responsibility but also emotionally abandoned me it crushed my whole identity. My husband left our 20 year effortless marriage four months ago. He had said he wanted to live alone, something exciting,felt dragged down and wanted something different. During this time he became increasingly agitated and distant. He had started his 3rd job in November when all this started.

The house sold we moved into a rental on the Friday and he left on the Sunday. He said to clear his head. He is living in his home town but we have met a few times. Our adult children are devastated. When we meet his story changes but the bottom line is he seems miserable, has a new job with more flexibility. He said he cares about me and wants to support me through all this but shows no sign of coming back. Im considering turning up at his flat to try and shift his resolve. Its been a week since his last functional text re money into my account. We have contact via his sister,a friend and the children so hard not to know about each other.

Our last meeting was up and down. He still seems angry but seemed upset when I bought his watch to him. I think hEdinburgh left because of increasing work and relationship stress partly induced by his withdrawal. Any thoughts on helping to turn him around to be amenable to reconciliation? I invite you to get a guide before you show up at his flat to try to change his mind as it can be quite tricky to do it on your own.

But with the 6 Intimacy Skills and support and inspiration you can save your family. Consider applying for a complimentary discovery call to connect with one of my coaches and determine the best move for your relationship here: Avoid helping around the house Believe it or not most men go to the extent of doing just about anything so as to avoid taking up responsibilities. Your husband may decide to be coming home late so as to avoid helping you to take care of the children by ensuring they have done their homework, taken a shower, eaten and going to bed on time.

SignUp For Newsletter Get amazing content delivered to your inbox. Subscribe to our daily Newsletter. Lady Speak Ladies,your constant nagging could be the reason why your husband comes home late. By Esther Muchene 22nd Jan Related Stories Living What is the role of a maid of honor in a wedding? Seven duties to remember By Davis Muli. Anything but hurting the children and me with a reckless move like the one you're talking about. She Googled "responsible separation" on the computer, and printed off a list of FAQs about the sharing of keys, credit card access, pets, etcetera.

Do you want to know what happened next? She claims to be handy with a chainsaw and is used to hauling 1,lb horses into trailers. You don't doubt it. When we talk, it's 9am in Montana and Munson is sitting with a cup of tea and a view of pines and firs and mountains in the distance.

She has got the kids off to school and needs the rest: The offers are pouring in — China and Taiwan have bought the rights, the German contract is being negotiated. Things haven't always been so professionally rosy.

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Before this book, Munson wrote 14 novels that have never been published. Lesser mortals would have given up, but Munson just developed armadillo hide for skin. We return to that fateful morning. It seems pretty simple.

People in crisis say all sorts of things. Surely it must have been incredibly annoying, having someone staying completely calm and saying, "Do you need a bit of distance? Munson replies, "Well, then he can't play victim. He has to be responsible for his own wellbeing. When you don't engage in the drama, it bounces back to the person who flung it in the first place. In her writing, Munson uses the analogy of a child having a tantrum. The child shouts that they hate you.

Do you join in? Do you answer back? Of course you don't. It's their problem, not yours. You ignore the tantrum and walk away, even if the toddler's teeth are still clamped around your arm. She says carefully, "I'm not saying my husband was being a child. Of course, nobody would dream of saying thwarted middle-aged men behave like toddlers — perish the thought — but when a toddler is out of sorts, you give them "time out". And that is precisely what Munson offered her husband. So that summer, instead of moving out — the credit card list seemed to have frightened him — Munson's husband did what he was told and took "time out".

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