Things I Wish I Knew Then

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Sometimes it takes warming up too. It can start with a smile at a stranger when you two meet with eye contact, then small talk with the cashier. When you feel ready, you can start talking to whoever you want ladies included. If you really want to push your comfort zone and have fun while doing it, do some whacky social experiments. It is difficult but not impossible to find people to connect with on a deep level. And, life might be a bit more lonely, but it will be more meaningful. Ah, I really enjoyed reading this! If I would add a single thing I wish I knew much earlier in life, it would be: The common saying is to embrace failure.

However, I think that too often, we do things with an expectation to either fail or have average results. Never be afraid of achieving success! By the way, I saw your tweet to Jonathan Mead. Did you happen to find me through his shout-out? I figure being cliche on a blog like this is about the worst thing I can do when I write. Glad to know I took you for surprise in a good way. As a computer engineer I have come to think about life in a somewhat different perspective than I did before.

A way of thinking that have made me happier and less insecure and is the following: Think of yourself as a machine that collects data, computes some results according to some algorithms that has been learned from previous input data, and then reacts on these computations with some output. The only way to fix these things is to find out where the error occured and why it happened so it can be fixed and therefore work better next time.

Maybe you could add this to your othewise amazing list. This is exactly what I experience on a regular basis. In my opinion there are way too many people out there who are so conivinced that their path is the only path, just because everyone else does it. I heard one good line from Chris Guillebeau on this. He said instead of asking you if you would jump of a bridge if everyone would do it, the people around you ask you why you are not also jumping from the bridge, just like everyone else does it.

Very helpful insights and the one I need the most right at this moment is to learn how and when to say no. And thank heavens for that! Thanks for having such a great perspective, and for sharing it. For me simply awesome is beyond everything, even awesome too and your excellent work do that for you. I found that many of them, I also felt in my life. Again, thanks for this article.

Keep Going and spreading happiness in others life as you are doing this very nicely.. This post resonated with me a whole bunch.

5 things I wish I knew then

I agree with your 7th point, being yourself should never be an excuse for mediocrity. And true, being older does not make you any smarter. I strongly agree with what you say here. If people follow all the guide, I believe people can through any obstacle on their life. And number 28, I like it so much. Doing these things make me far happier. It kind of sounds like be complacent. That being said, be realistic. On the other hand, you can do whatever you want, you can be the next Michael Jackson if you wanted to and had the knowledge to pull it off.

Ranging from how others think, to confidence, first impressions, and friendship. Every time we look back at ourselves five years ago we think we were an idiot. Ask for advice, and learn from your elders. Those can be elders within your family or your field!

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Voted "Most Guapo" five years in a row lost during 6th year to a hand model. Latest posts by Vincent Nguyen see all. How to Stop Worrying About Are You Tired of Feeling Trevor July 15, at 4: Vincent Nguyen July 15, at 6: Ivan July 15, at 9: Razwana July 16, at Perhaps number 41 should be — test the advice you read and then make your own.

Vincent Nguyen July 17, at 7: Fatima August 19, at 2: Sunrise Guided Visualizations July 15, at 4: Onder July 15, at 6: Very good list bro, One thing I definitely realised recently is that the things I thought I knew as a 19 year old was definitely not all there was to learn. Kevin Cole July 15, at 8: Hey man, This is an awesome list. Vincent Nguyen July 15, at 8: The following points stood out for me in particular: Vincent Nguyen July 15, at 9: Chris Bailey July 15, at Vincent Nguyen July 15, at 3: Chris Bailey July 25, at Great Jollyhoombah Hoombah July 15, at Vincent, one of the points I really liked: Vincent Nguyen July 15, at For relationships, which are a massive part of life, this one is just…huge.

Vincent Nguyen July 16, at 8: Stephen Guise July 17, at 5: Vincent Nguyen July 17, at 6: As a slight alteration of 6, I would say: Dan Erickson July 16, at 4: Isha July 16, at 5: Tom Dixon July 16, at 6: Dan Black July 16, at 7: Chris Peek July 16, at 7: There are some deep insights here Vincent. The above scenario shows who I was. Insecure, needy, reliant on the external.

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Three Steps to Building Meaningful Friendships blurt-online. You made me feel guilty and over think a After my recent project http: Failing is inevitable as we are young and we have many things to learn and the only way we are going to learn is to make mistakes and learn from them.

No one expects you to know everything. Don't ever pretend to know everything. Learning is a big part of life and it's totally okay if you don't know everything. That's what we have family and friends for so when you don't know something use your resources wisely. Don't pretend to know everything because this is where mistakes happen.

I hated taking advice from others as I thought that I knew everything. But thinking like this got me into a lot of trouble and I've since learned to ask if I don't know something. Limiting your creativity and options because you've set them in stone is mentally and emotionally dangerous. When I turned nineteen I had a specific direction that I wanted my life to go in however I had to learn to be open to change and to be open to the fact that the direction of our lives can changed at any moment.

I also learned that following one path because you believe that it is the "correct" way to go can be very detrimental to our emotional stability especially in the course of failure.

24 Things I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then

Building a team takes work. If it's easy, it's often not worth having. Surviving the first year after turning nineteen was not easy.

I thought that it would be a piece of cake and that everything would work out perfectly.

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