Help! My Nanny Is A Prostitute!

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By Rachel Moran Tuesday 16 Apr , 7: What is left of me? I lost my humanity And yes, there is loss here: Wariness of passersby There were positives and negatives in this, and of the negatives, the principal ones were defined by loss. Women as objects They are effortlessly and imperceptibly relegated from the realms of the human.

The acceptance of prostitution The acceptance of prostitution makes all women potential prostitutes in the public view since there are only two requirements for a woman to work in a brothel: See more articles by Rachel Moran.

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To suggest that those campaigning for stricter laws are simply engaging in empty moralising or prudery is laughable. The repression of sexual appetites to satisfy this god or that church has done far more harm than good, and the Irish know that better than anyone. Punters do not solicit sex workers for a chat, a cuppa, and a night of clamorous lovemaking. There are countless saucy personal ads on Irish webspace for no-strings-attached sex.

Or, you know, you could redirect your fantasies into something your partner can enjoy with you. Loneliness, or horniness, or fantasies that require the attention of an experienced partner … none of these necessitate a commercial exchange. Registering and taxing sex workers will not convince criminal organisations to turn benevolent overnight.

Most of the anti-prostitution campaigns running in Ireland at the moment have as little to do with moralising as prostitution itself has with sex. This is about the protection of those who are left with no choice but to bow to the violent whims of self-entitled egotists. This scheme in addition to defending the freedom of the press, offers readers a quick, fair and free method of dealing with complaints that they may have in relation to articles that appear on our pages.

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Journal Media does not control and is not responsible for the content of external websites. Switch to Mobile Site Night mode. But still - I'm glad someone coherently wrote this article. I appologize if you thought I was judging. I've been around the proverbial block a few times and I'm not some conservative old lady. I just worry for the safety of a woman who chooses this profession since I watch the news a few times a week and see the consequences of Craigslist hook-ups.

It is a show that follows the life of real prostitutes in, I think, Reno, Nevada. It is a leagalized brothel and the show is quite graphic. These girls make alot of money and they do it legally but at the end of the day or the show it is pretty sad. Yes, they control the whole thing, they are safe and the sex is somewhat "sanitized". But, they are someones daughters, granddaughters, sisters.

As the mother of three daughters, it isn't something I would be proud of. Having said that, I am not condeming their choice to make their living this way. I am simply saying that it is unsafe to meet up with unknown men for sex. I'd rather be broke than dead. If given a choice of having sex with a stranger or living off the dime of the government, I would choose food stamps or welfare- hands down.

You don't risk your life or health by accepting help from the government. Again, I don't think this issue is especially nanny related Umass, My God woman Please e-mail me when you get the chance, please! Have any of you seen the movie "Human Trafficking"? OR watched a documentary on the Sex Industry? Some as young as 9 years old. We will NEVER be able to keep track of who's in it for what purpose we're having a hell of a time doing it now!

It should never be made mainstream or okay. I am working with a team that is trying to stop Human Trafficking, and there is still no end in sight. I have met some of these girls, and they can't understand why anyone would willingly have sex with strange Men for something like money. Legalizing the sex industry would in no way contribute or effect human trafficking: The sex industry is as old as time. Just like marijuana, legalizing it is inevitable and it will happen eventually. I think legalizing the sex trade may actually help guard against human trafficking.

If you are able to track it, ensure these ladies are being tested on a regular basis, and know who is involved with it, it will be easier to crack down on those exploiting children and those who do not wish to be involved in the sex industry. For the time being, it's illegal, and I am not okay with anything illegal, although I do support its legalization in the future. I really don't see the difference between porn being paid to have sex and prostitution being paid to have sex. This makes me sick to my stomach.

I really can't believe how immoral America has become. I work 4 jobs and having sex for money is NOT one of them. Yes, I am very busy, and I had to get creative to find these jobs. I really can't see the draw to the sex industry. I mean come on! Sure you make excellent money To each their own I guess, but I just don't get it, and I never will. I wouldn't hire you.

And I think prostitution should be legal. And because it isn't, I wouldn't knowingly hire a prostitute any sooner than I'd hire a cocaine dealer. Not because I agree that cocaine should be illegal, or that dealing in and of itself makes you a bad person-- but because it's illegal. Doing something repeatedly and consciously that can land you in jail IS jeopardizing your job. Even if you think you can keep the two separate, and not start using drugs yourself, you cannot be sure that the same is true of every person you come in contact with through your illegal job.

Maybe some employers don't have a problem with that. If not, good for them; it is their choice to hire drug dealers, prostitutes, hit men, or whomever else they'd like. I'd prefer someone else watch my children and have access to my home.

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The people who are saying that what you do on your own time is none of your employer's business are being incredibly naive. Yes, to some extent it is true. If you like to dress up in a bunny costume and hop around or have kinky leather-clad sex with your husband when you are home alone, there is really no need for your employer to know about it. But being a prostitute or sex worker or drug dealer on the side in addition to your job as a nanny is quite a different ball game, don't ya think?

Most people do not respect those professions because they are illegal and, to many people, immoral. They also entail working with a lot of sketchy people, doing sketchy things in sketchy places. Sometimes they are downright dangerous, even life-threatening. To many people, the decision to work in prostitution or drug dealing is indicative of poor decision-making skills, disregard towards the law, and low moral standards. That's just the way it is. Most people, myself included, do not approve of these jobs or consider them legitimate forms of employment.

Column: Intervening in prostitution is not acting the nanny

Also, whether you work as a nanny or in an office as your "day job", if you were to be caught by the police for doing your side job, it would be incredibly embarassing for the people who hired you at your day job because it would reflect badly on them. So basically, because you are a nanny, don't be surprised if you get fired once your employers find out about your other job.

I hope they do find out because I find it highly unethical that you are hiding this information from them and not giving them the opportunity to decide for themselves whether or not they want a prostitute to care for their children. If you're so proud of it, you should tell your nanny family. But you seem to take pride in the fact that you're deceiving them.

What we do in our spare time is our business and if we have to put food on the table by doing something a bunch of prudes find immoral than that just sux for you. So you would rather sit and watch your kid starve to death, not have enough cloths, or running water than to help your family ease their suffering? If you choose to do that then you are worse than any thug I've ever met on the street. Most G's that I know want to support their family. And if you think that they are doing some poor decision making than you don't know what you are talking about.

You can't pass judgement on something that you have no clue about. YOu can't sit on your moral high horse and think that these people are doing the wrong thing when they are trying to make it in this world. I live on both sides of the law and I have two different me's. And that my friend makes me much better than you.

It isn't up to anyone to push their code of ethics on anyone else. But prostitution is illegal and I do judge people who break the law and if I was the OP's boss, I'd fire her. I'd even consider calling the cops. A few years back, I was into drugs. We all have skeletons in our closets! It wasn't until one of my very good friends got arrested for dealing that I got scared and stopped and I haven't done it in years now, but I still get tempted when money is running low.

But I can't put my career in jeopardy to make a few extra bucks, even if it is a few extra hundred bucks. Think About It I completely agree with you. This nanny is jeopardizing the health of herself and the children she cares for. Let's face it, prostitutes have contact with a wide variety of very sketchy individuals and generally do not use any form of protection.

What this nanny is doing is not only illegal, it's just plain wrong on every level in my opinion. And yes, I am judging. I am totally against legalizing prostitution. There is no valid reason to make it acceptable for women to be taken advantage of, abused and objectified. Instead, more effort should be geared toward helping these women to learn the skills they need to succeed at a job that doesn't involve illegal activity and a complete lack of self worth.

No amount of money would be enough for me to exploit my body and abandon my values. Using the excuse that it pays well and there are no other jobs is BS. I've been in very tough financial positions and never did I contemplate prostitution as the solution. I seriously thought this was some sort of belated April fools post, but unfortunately, I'm wrong.

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Monkeyshines, That was actually funny! Ok, did I miss some sort of inside joke? I don't get it. I think this is crazy! If your boss finds out and reports you to the cops, you will be made a sex offender! You will never EVER be allowed to work with children again!

Why risk a hard earned college education? If you are as great at your job as you say you are ask for a raise. Or find a job that pays you enough to where you never have to resort to such acts anymore. I understand you love the family you are with. I adore mine and could never imagine leaving them.

But to put them at risk, and yourself at risk is just not worth it. I just find interesting some people here defending OP based on the fact that she was trying to support herself. Well, there's other ways to support herself, I truly believe there is, before going to the stripper gig.

Now, some here were saying "would you rather let your children starve to death, not have clothes enough, bla, bla, bla", but who said she was starving to death? Or that she had any children to support? And come on, not having clothes enough it's NOT a reason for whoring yourself. She said she did not want to leave the family who wasn't paying her enough to keep up with her bills. Well, I would rather a thousand times just leave this family than whore myself and keep a job that makes me go as low as this.

Of course it is her option, her life, she does whatever she wants, and it's none of anyone's business, but I find it a hardcore way of making a living, and a hardcore option. I think it's funny some ppl here applauding her to the extend that she is actually some sort of hero. Phoenix Based on what I've read here so far, you walk with a hardcore crowd, don't you?

Most G's that I know want to support their family" G's, thugs, hos No wonder you applaud all of this. You know what, although I'd never work as a ho, I've actually babysat for one. It's funny 'cause I recall her telling me the type of business she was into. She was a escort, a very good looking one, probably charged a lot. Once, I worked for her until late, and feel asleep in her sofa. She comes back home with one of her clients, and told me I could sleep in her house and leave the next day.

I could hear the whole thing going on back on her room. I felt bad for her, as she had to deal with really nasty men the guy who went back to her house was at least 15 years older than she. Phoenix Btw, prudes for disagreeing with the OP's choice? In what world are you at? Before I became a nanny, I was a prostitute on Craigslist because I needed money to live. I did it for about 6 months before I managed to get my first nanny job.

After I got the job, I quit the sex business. I hated every minute of it. I only did what I had to in order to pay for my apartment, utilities and some ramen. It scared me to do this but I had to do what I could to be able to live. While I was hooking, I was also trying to find a real job but nothing ever worked out until I finally was hired to be a nanny. I love being a nanny.

Now I am putting myself through school so I will never have to go through that again. No one knows that I did anyone of that and no one ever will. I still get tested regularly because I am scared that even though I used protection, something may show up years later. This experience has ruin sex for me and is a dark time of my life. I would never engage in prostitution myself, BUT your words, Anon3, contradict each other. Furthermore, women who knowingly prostitute themselves are largely NOT being taken advantage of, especially if they are in the situation OP was in.

Your morals may prevent you from considering prostitution, but not everyone views it the same as you. I know in certain jurisdictions it's not a registerable offense, but I'm not certain about OP's. Until it's legalized which, again, I support , prostitutes are likely to come into contact with shady people and have less regulation regarding STD prevention, etc. That's why I hope it will be legalized one day--to cut down on the potential risks posed by such an occupation.

Sorry if this was incoherent It's time for bed! This is the thing: I'm not one to judge people. Desperate times sometime call for desperate measures. I wouldn't be concerned with what you do in the after-hours as long as it's not affecting your time with "my kids". There's also an issue of health. I wouldn't want someone who is exposed to so many STDs to be near my children.

If anything, I think that's the only thing that would make me go Eh But if I nanny I loved dearly came to me and opened up about her "past", the only thing I'd demand is proof that you have no diseases and you're drug-free. But I advise against it as you will have those images imbedded in your brain! Lots of nannies sleeping with their bosses here! I'm a nanny and I'd never consider sleeping with my DB. I'm a graduate student and I make more as a nanny 3 days a week the other two days I work for the school more than what any recent graduate working a FT for some firm, makes.

I think we all need to look at the big picture here. You live with the choices you make, and at the end of the day, you are the one who is in control of what you do. Good for OP for sticking to her guns and taking that risk for something that she is comfortable with and feeling good about herself. We all seem to live in our own little self-righteous bubbles and think our way is the only way.

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There are as many different ways to live as there are people in this world. So get used to it.

OP is not hurting anyone. On the contrary, she sounds like way more of a productive citizen than many people here. Yes I run with a very tough crowd. I am night and day, two completely different people. Daytime - I am a financial specialist and I have a Masters in Accounting. I don't know anyone's real name and they don't know mine.

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